Akukho nto ibuhlungu emhlabeni kubazali njengokucwangcisa umngcwabo wosana lwabo. Zonke iingcinga zakhe kunye nentliziyo yakhe enkulu zitshatyalalisiwe kukusweleka komncinci wakhe. Akukho mntu ufuna ukubuza loo mbuzo kuba ayiqhelekanga, uceba umngcwabo wosana? Ukufa komntu omthandayo kubuhlungu, Kodwa xa kufikwa emntwaneni iintlungu ziba buhlungu nangakumbi ukuba kunokwenzeka.
Ngaphandle koku, xa usana luswelekile, kunyanzelekile ukuba lucwangcise umngcwabo walo ukuze lukwazi ukuluvalelisa olufanelweyo kwaye abazali baqale inkqubo yabo enzima yokulila. Yindlela yokukhumbula umntwana kunye nokuba nakho ukumkhumbula kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho.
Uqala phi
Xa usana luswelekile, abazali baba buhlungu kangangokuba abakwazi ukucinga kakuhle kwaye ke abazi nokuba mabaqale ngaphi ... kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo le. Akukho ncwadana yemiyalelo yokunceda abazali bajongane nentlungu yabo. Umngcwabo wosana kufuneka uqhutywe ngendlela efanele abazali kunye neemvakalelo zabo.
Okulandelayo siza kuthetha ngezinye zezinto onokuthi uzithathele ingqalelo, ukuze la maxesha anzima abe lula kancinci.
Uhlobo lomngcwabo
Into yokuqala ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo luhlobo lomngcwabo ofuna ukuwenza kunye nohlobo lweziganeko zesikhumbuzo ofuna ukusenza. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukhumbule ukuba akukho mngcwabo ulungileyo nokungalunganga, Konke kuya kuxhomekeka kwinto efunwa ngabazali kunye nendlela abaziva ngayo ukuba umngcwabo kufuneka ubekhona.
Kukho abantu abakhetha umngcwabo omncinci wabucala, ngelixa abanye bekhetha umngcwabo omkhulu ukuze babenakho ukuxhaswa yimvakalelo yosapho kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo. Nokuba yintoni, Naluphi na uhlobo lomngcwabo ofuna ukulugcina luya kuba yinto elungileyo.
Ucwangciso
Kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba uyafuna na ukuba ibe ngumngcwabo wesintu okanye indibano yabantu abambalwa, kuba inkonzo ingahluka ngandlela thile. Iya kwahluka ukuba ufuna ukuba ibe nezizathu zonqulo okanye ukuba ukhetha ukuba yinto engacwangciswanga ngakumbi egadini yendlu yakho.
Ukuba ufuna ukungcwatywa endaweni yokutshiswa komzimba, ikhaya labangcwabi liya kukukhokela kwizinto ezikhoyo ukuze ukhethe eyona ikulungeleyo. Xa kuziwa kutshiswa isidumbu, abazali bahlala befuna ukulinda kancinci ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo malunga nento abaza kuyenza ngomlotha womntwana wabo omncinci. Kukho abo bakhetha ukugcina uthuthu kwisitya esikhethekileyo ekhaya kwaye abanye bakhetha ukuba nendawo ekhethekileyo yokuzigcina.
Ukufundwa kunye nomculo kunokukhethwa njengenxalenye yenkonzo. Khumbula ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba ulandele isicwangciso esithile, mhlawumbi ufuna nje ixesha elifutshane okanye lide. Ukuba unzima ukwenza isigqibo, cinga ngendlela oziva ngayo kwaye ufuna ukuba yonke into ibe njani.
Umculo
Abanye abantu, umculo unokuthuthuzela emngcwabeni kuba uvumela iimvakalelo ukuba zivakaliswe xa intliziyo ingonelanga ukutsho amagama. Akukho lunye uhlobo lomculo oluchanekileyo okanye olungalunganga, oziva ukuba ulungile uya kulunga.
Mhlawumbi ukhetha umculo onamazwi, ngaphandle kwamazwi, umculo wamaKristu okanye olunye uhlobo lomculo. Olona khetho luhle lomculo Iya kuba yeyonanto ikwenza uzive ukuba uyamhlonipha umntwana wakho kwaye ibonisa iimvakalelo zakho zokulahleka.
Ukufundwa kwesikhumbuzo
Kukho izinto ezinokufundwa ezinokukwenza uzive kakhulu okanye ezinye izibongo. Isenokuba nguwe oyibhalileyo okanye ukhetha imibhalo esele ikhona kuba bayayibamba into ekhala ngentliziyo yakho ngeli xesha.
Kukho abo bakhetha ukufundwa kobuKristu kwaye abo bakhetha ezinye iintlobo zokufundwa. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukufunda emngcwabeni okanye ufuna abanye benze njalo kuba unentliziyo ebuhlungu kakhulu. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba loluphi uhlobo lokubhala olufunayo, okona kubalulekileyo kukuba zibhaliwe ezichaphazela intliziyo yakho kwaye zikuvumela ukuba uqalise inkqubo yakho yokulila.
Ukujamelana nokufa kosana
Ukufa komntwana kuyakuhlala kuyinkqubo ebuhlungu kwaye yenye yeentlungu ezinkulu… zininzi iimvakalelo ezinokuthi zibe khona. Unokuziva ubalulekile kuba ubomi kubonakala ngathi buphulukene nentsingiselo ... Kwabanye abazali, banokuba phakathi kokuthandabuza usizi ngenxa yokulahleka kunye nokukhululeka xa kuziwa kwiintsana ezizelwe zigula kwaye ziye zasokola kakhulu ukuzama ukuphila . Nokuba kunjani na, ukuhlangabezana nokufa komntwana akusoloko kulula iimvakalelo zentlungu ayinakuphepheka nokuba kungokufa ngesiquphe okanye emva komzabalazo omde.
Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bathembele kusapho nakwizihlobo zabo ... Kwaye bazikhathalele ngokwabo ukuthintela ukuwela kwisifo esoyikwa njengokudakumba. Kukho abazali abanokuyiphatha bhetele inkqubo yokulila xa begcina isitshixo seenwele zosana lwabo, ukuba bane tattoo egameni labo, ukuba batyala umthi, njl.
Ungabaxhasa njani abazali abaphulukene nosana
Ukuba unomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho elahlekelwe lusana, ngekhe ungazi ukuba mawuthini (okanye ungathini) kubazali. Eyona mpendulo ilungileyo kukumamela abo ubathandayo, uqinisekise iimvakalelo nokuba ziyintoni na, kwaye ube yinkxaso yeemvakalelo kubazali abasentlungwini. Kukwabalulekile ukuba ubhale umhla wokuzalwa komntwana endaweni yomhla wokufa ukuze uvuyisane nabazali xa ufikile loo mhla.
Nangona abazali belilela ukulahleka kwabo imihla ngemihla, bayakuqonda ukuba abo babathandayo bayalukhumbula usana lwabo ezulwini.
Umngcwabo wosana unokuba lula njengokudibana nabathandekayo ujikeleze ibhokisi, kunokuba sesikweni okanye ngokungekho sesikweni ... Kodwa okona kubaluleke nangamaxesha onke yinkxaso yeemvakalelo edingwa ngabazali, behlonipha inkumbulo yesidalwa esixabisekileyo esingakhange sibe nethuba lokuphila ubomi baso.