Sele kuyiminyaka udadewethu omncinci ezama ukukhulelwa kwaye akakwazi. Uyingcali yeengqondo kwaye, nangona enolwazi, uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo luyakhula ngonyango ngalunye olubi. ¿Ungasinda njani kwiingxaki zokungachumi njengabantu abatshatileyo? Ekubandezelekeni kwakhe, wongeza neqabane lakhe, elithi naxa lihamba naye ngothando nangothantamiso -kuba ingulowo "ubeka umzimba" - uziva echaphazeleka ngokufanayo yile meko.
La ukungachumi Lilitye elinzima ukunqandwa nakwesiphi na isibini, ngakumbi xa iminyaka ihamba kwaye into ekulindelwe ukuba ayifikelelwa. Le migca mibini ayiveli kwaye imeko yokungabi nathemba ibhabha ngaphezulu ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi iyalawulwa kwaye eminye iyaqhuma ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kwaye kulapho izibini kufuneka zigqobhoze kulwandiso lwentlungu, into enzima kakhulu ukuba iziseko azomelelanga.
Izibini ezingachumanga
Ungasinda njani kwiingxaki zokungachumi njengabantu abatshatileyo Lo ngumbuzo onzima ukuwuphendula kuba isibini ngasinye sahlukile, kukho iikhowudi ezizezakho, iinkqubo zonxibelelwano ezahlukeneyo, ukwala kunye nokwamkelwa. Iindlela ezininzi zokuhamba nokudakumba kokungafezekisi into oyifunayo. Kwezona meko zintle, izibini ziyakwazi ukukhapha enye nenye kwaye zomeleze kule ndlela imnyama yokuhamba, ukuya nokubuya koogqirha, ukujonga, ukunyanga iihomoni, ukugqobhoza kunye nezinye iinkqubo ezingathandekiyo.
Kwamanye, amalungu esi sibini akakwazi ukwenza le nkqubo kwaye bahlala bekhuphela umsindo kwabo ukusondeleyo kubo. Baziva benomsindo, bekhathazekile okanye bethe cwaka kwaye lelinye ilungu lesi sibini eligcina ezi mpendulo. Ukuba oku kulungile? Ngokuqinisekileyo akungenxa yokuba ezi mpendulo zichaphazela isiseko sesibini, ukukhathala kunye nokujongela phantsi uthando ekwabelwana ngalo. Ngeso sizathu, uninzi lwezibini ezihamba iminyaka emininzi yokungabikho kwenzala ziphela kuqhawulo mtshato ngaphandle komntwana.
Ukusinda ukungachumi
Los iingxaki zesichumisiIsizathu sokwenzakalisa kwaye umntu ngamnye uthetha indlela eyahlukileyo yokwamkelwa. Ngeli xesha, kukwakho nemveliso yoxinzelelo olukhulu kunyango kunye notyelelo koogqirha, iindaba ezimbi kunye nemvakalelo yokuba ubomi bunqunyanyisiwe kulindwe lo mmangaliso ungaze ufike. Le meko inokuba buhlungu okanye ibangele uxinezeleko njengokufa kwesihlobo, uqhawulo-mtshato okanye "nokuba unesifo esinganyangekiyo njengokuthwala i-HIV," sitsho isazi ngengqondo esivela kwi-Murciano Sexological Institute, u-Elena López Rogel.
Ukuziva unetyala, ukungabi namandla, ukungazilawuli, ukuzithemba okuphantsi okanye ingqumbo ziimvakalelo ezingaphezulu kwaye oku kuyadityaniswa sisini, esidla ngokuba luxanduva, ngamanye amaxesha sihlukane nomnqweno. ¿Ungasinda njani kwiingxaki zokuzala kunye neqabane lakho?
Ezona mpendulo zibalaseleyo zibonakala zikwimfesane nakwincoko yababini. Ngaphandle kwempendulo umntu ngamnye anayo, sonke sidinga igxalaba lokulila, ukwanga ngexesha, ukuqonda ngaphandle kwamagama okuchaza isizathu sokuphendula okuthile. Eyona ndlela yokufumana iqabane elisempilweni ngexesha lokungachumi kukuthintela ukuvala. Ukuvula incoko, ukuba nonxibelelwano olufanelekileyo njengesibini kuya kusivumela ukuba singene kwiimvakalelo zethu nakweqabane lethu ukuze sikwazi ukujongana nokudana, umsindo kunye nokuphumeza ulwamkelo lohambo lokukhangela.
Ayisiyonto ilula ukuyifezekisa kodwa ngothando kunye nencoko kuhlala kunokwenzeka. Akulunganga ukufumana ityala okanye wenze izityholo. Kwimeko yokungakwazi ukujongana neemvakalelo ezingalunganga, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubhenele kunyango lwezibini, ngcono ukuba ikhethekileyo kwiingxaki zokuzala njengoko ziya kukunceda uqondane.
Nangona ukugcina isini esimnandi ingengomsebenzi olula kolu khenketho, kuyacetyiswa ukuba uququzelele izicwangciso kunye nokuphuma ngenjongo yokuphucula unxibelelwano kunye nokubuyisa umnqweno olahlekileyo phakathi kwemfuno yenjongo ethile. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngumceli mngeni ukusinda kwiingxaki zokuchuma njengesibini kodwa kunokwenzeka kwaye, ukuba kuyaphunyezwa, bobabini baya kuphuma bomelele.