Siyazi ukuba bonke abantwana kufuneka babelane ngezinto zabo. Ayisiyondlela abazalelwe ngayo kodwa a umkhwa wazo Kufuneka bafunde njengoko zikhula. Abafundi de babe neminyaka emithathu ubudala Ngokwethiyori le ngcamango kunye nabazali zezona nto ziphambili zokwenza abantwana bethu babelane ngezinto zabo zokudlala.
Umntwana ade abeneminyaka emithathu uyalelwe ngokukodwa ithiyori yokuba yonke into emngqongileyo ihlala iyeyakhe. Akukho sizathu sokwabelana naye nabani na, njengoko inomnini omnye kuphela. Abayiqondi ingcinga yokuba yinto abanayo inokuba sezandleni zomntu othile, Abayiqondi into yokuba banokwabelana ngayo.
Kutheni le nto abantwana bengafuni ukwabelana ngezinto zabo zokudlala?
Kuba ukwabelana sisakhono esifundwayo kwaye ayingobuchule bendalo. Abantwana bayaphuhlisa benolu luvo lwe-egocentric, bayaqonda ukuba zonke izinto ezizizo babona njengepropathi yabo, ngaphandle kokubamba uluvo lokuba ezi zinto zinokuba zezabanye abantu.
Kukho abantwana abafumanisa le ngcamango inzima kakhulu kunabanye. Ixesha lokunika nokuthatha kunzima ukulifanisa Ngaphakathi kwentloko yakhe kwaye le meko iqala ukubonakala xa ebomini bakhe abantwana beqala ukuvela nabani ekufuneka babelane naye ngemidlalo. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ukwabelana ngeethoyi kunokuba nzima ukuyiqonda, kodwa kuya kufuneka ube nomonde njengoko ixesha lihamba kwaye uqeqesho olulungileyo bafunda ngokugqibeleleyo ukwabelana ngalo.
Ungamfundisa njani umntwana wam ukuba abelane ngezinto zokudlala?
Abantwana bayawuqonda umxholo wokwabelana Ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-3. Ukuxelela umntwana ukuba kufuneka anikezele ngento yokudlala kwaye uyakuyifumana kunokuthetha ukuba kuncinci kakhulu kuye, kuba akakuqondi. Ukusuka apha yonke into inokuba ngumsindo kunye neempendulo ezimbi, kuba abakayilawuli kakuhle iminqweno yabo. Abayiqondi into yokuba, nokuba bayabelana, ixesha labo liza kufika kungekudala kwaye baya kuba nakho ukuyibamba kwakhona loo nto. Kule meko musa ukuphelelwa lithemba, kunokubakho ukudideka, kodwa ngaphakathi kubo sele bebaleka izakhono zabo zokuqonda kwaye sele bekhulile.
Umzekelo olungileyo wokwabelana unokusebenza njengomfuziselo xa behlala ekhaya. Olu luvo kulula ukuluqonda xa ubona eli xabiso kwimeko-bume yakho. Abazali banako umzekelo omhle wokwabelana ngokutya okanye izinto banesandla sokukhumbula isenzo sokwabelana. Inyaniso yokuba siyenza nabanye abantu.
Abantwana kufuneka badlale nabanye abantwana ukwenza umzekelo ngamaxabiso ayo amaninzi. Ukunxibelelana nabantwana kukhulisa izakhono ezininzi zokuqonda. Kule meko bafunda ukunikezela kwaye baqonde ukuba ukwabelana ayonto imbi.
Ukudlala baya kukuqonda oko yonke into abanayo yeyabo, ikwawo wonke umntu. Kuya kufuneka baqwalasele ukuba akukho nto yenzekayo kuba umhlobo wabo uthatha umqhubi wabo, kuba kamva baya kunikwa ithuba ukwazi ukukhetha enye into kwaye udlale ngayo.
Kufuneka uzenze Ukwahlula ukuba kukho izinto ezivela kwihlabathi liphelaujingi, isihlalo, ukutya ... Nale, kufuneka sihloniphe xa umntwana edlala kwaye angafuni kunikezela kuba unelungelo, kufuneka sihloniphe nezinto zakhe.
Ngaba ayikho ngaphezulu menze achaze indlela avakalelwa ngayo, ukuze ukwazi ukwenza uvavanyo malunga nendlela eliguqulela ngayo yonke into eliyifundayo. Ngale ndlela siya kufaneleka ukukhathazeka kwabo, iimvakalelo zabo ezilungileyo okanye umsindo wabo, ukuze siqhubeke nokubanceda kuyo yonke into elungileyo.
Isiphelo ungaze ugxeke isimilo sabo, Sele sijongile ukuba ukwabelana ngesenzo ekufuneka bafunde kuso kunye nokukwazi ukwenza oko kuya kuxhomekeka komnye umntwana ukuya komnye. Umntwana ngamnye ukhula ngesantya sakhe kwaye ayisosizathu sokuba sikwazi njalo yenza isimo sakho sengqondo sibe sesibi okanye ukumgxeka ngamabinzana ahlaselayo anje ngokuba "uzicingela wedwa" okanye "ungumntwana ombi kakhulu".