Ukuphulukana nonyana okanye intombi yenye yezona meko zoyikekayo ezinokuthi zivele, nangaliphi na ixesha ukuba lilishwa. Nangona kunjalo kuba nzima ngakumbi xa ukufa kusenzeka besebancinci. Siyazi ukuba akukho nto iya kukwazi ukunciphisa intlungu kunye nokungabikho, kodwa ngandlela-thile sifuna ukukunceda okanye sincede abo bakungqongileyo ukuba bahloniphe kwaye benze i-duel ibe nzima. Siphakamisa ezinye zezinto onokuzenza ukukhumbula umntwana wakho.
Uninzi lwabazali luyayihlonipha inkumbulo yomntwana wabo ngokuzama lungisa imithetho ethe, ngandlela ithile okanye ngokungathanga ngqo, yabangela ukufa. Abanye bacela ukuthatha inxaxheba njenge amavolontiya kumaziko, kwiiprojekthi zophando okanye kwii-NGO umxholo wawo sisifo sokufa.
Ukubonisa ukulahleka kunye nosizi
Wonke umntu uveza iimvakalelo zakhe ngokwahlukileyo. Zonke ziyasebenza. Kukho abo bazakuchaza abakwenzayo esidlangalaleni, abanye bayazivimba, basabela kwinkolo, bayaphula yonke into. Inyaniso yile abazali badidekile kwaphela kwaye ndindisholo xa ndijongana nale nyani intsha.
Kuyabonakala ukuba ngenxa yoxinzelelo lomzimba kunye neemvakalelo ezibangelwa kukusweleka komntwana, amajoni omzimba wabazali abasentlungwini aya kuncipha. Kuqhelekile ukuba neengxaki zokulala nokutya, uziva uxinzelelo kunye nentlungu esifubeni, ukulahleka kwememori, ukungabikho koxinzelelo, ukungabikho komnqweno wesini, ukudinwa komzimba, ukungathandi, intloko ebuhlungu, ukuba nochuku kunye nezinye iimpawu. Inkxaso yeengcali kubalulekile ukubeka esweni impilo yakho. Ukusetyenziswa kotywala, iziyobisi kunye / okanye amayeza ukunqanda ukubonakaliswa kwentlungu akukaze kucetyiswe. Kuya kufuneka usoloko ubonisana neengcali.
Es Unokuba nemibono yokuva kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala, umva xa ekubiza okanye elila, olfactory and visual sensations. Ungayibona esitratweni okanye ekhaya, kwaye kuyinyani ukuba uya kuqhubeka uyiphunga, ngokuthakazelisayo yimvakalelo yokuba sithatha ixesha elide ukulibala. Yonke into inenkqubo yayo. Zinike ixesha, ixesha elininzi.
Hayi indlela ekulula ngayo ukuthi!
Siyazi ukuba kulula kakhulu ukuyithetha, kodwa uyakholelwa, eyona ndlela yokuhlonipha inkumbulo kabani oswelekileyo yile ukuthatha inxaxheba kwakhona ebomini. Liqaphele elona thuba limangalisayo likunike ubomi lokuba wabelane ngeli xesha nomntwana wakho.
Siyazi ukuba kunzima kakhulu, kodwa zama ukuba nomonde kwiimvakalelo zakho. Ixesha ngalinye owabelane ngalo naye liya kuhlala entliziyweni yakho. Enkosi kunyana nakwintombi yakho, ulibonile uthando lokuba ngumama kwaye inyani iya kuhlala ikunye nawe.
Kweli nqaku Sifuna ukukubonisa imizekelo yabazali abenze iinguqu kwintlungu leyo. Ewe wonke umntu kufuneka afumane indlela yakhe, kodwa mhlawumbi ezinye zezi zimvo zinokukunceda kwezakho.
Kukho intsebenziswano Iintsapho ezilahlekelwe ngabantwana babo kwiimeko ezibuhlungu, njengolawulo lobuzwilakhe, imfazwe, uhlaselo lwabanqolobi, iingozi zendlela ... umntwana okanye intombi, yongeza inyani yokuba oku kwenzeke ngokungalindelekanga. Ukuba kunjalo, yiya kubo.
Amagcisa athe awunikela umsebenzi wawo ebantwaneni babo
Andazi ukuba uyazi ukuba uPaula yincwadi awayibhalayo U-Isabel Allende ukumelana nokusweleka kwentombi yakhe. Le ntombazana yayikwi-coma iinyanga ezili-12, kwaye ngebali elithandekayo nelisondeleyo umbhali uzilungiselela isiphumo, ngaphandle kokuphulukana nethemba lommangaliso, kunye nokuzila. Lo ibingumbulelo kwinkumbulo yakhe.
Ibali le Iinyembezi ezulwini, ngu-Eric Clapton, ukuba ekupheleni kuka-Matshi 1991 waphulukana nonyana wakhe oneminyaka emine uConor kwingozi kwigumbi lehotele.
Le yimizekelo nje emibini eyaziwayo, kodwa naluphi na uqeqesho lobugcisa, imidlalo yeqonga, umculo, ukupeyinta, yonke into inokukunceda uvakalise intlungu yakho. Y unganceda abanye abantu ukuba bakukhaphe kwaye uyaziqonda ezakho.