Ngokufika kwexesha lokuqala kunye nemicimbi yokuqala yothando, abazali baqala ukoyika ukubakho kokukhulelwa okungalindelekanga kwintombi.
Xa ukufikisa kufika, utshintsho oluninzi lwenzeka ebantwaneni. Amantombazana ayimithombo yophuhliso kuwo onke amanqanaba. Ngeli nqanaba kukho abazali ekufuneka bajongane nemeko engalindelekanga nengalunganga yentombi ekhulelweyo. Umbuzo oqhelekileyo ngulo: kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuba oku kuyenzeka? Emva koko siza kuphendla kolu nxaki.
Ukufikisa
Inqanaba lobomi babantwana apho abazali baqala ukoyika iimeko ekunzima ukujongana nazo nokusombulula, yi ukufikisa. Malunga neminyaka eli-11, abantwana bathatha utshintsho olukhulu kwaye baguqula ngeendlela ezininzi. Ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo uguquko luyabonakala. Amantombazana anemicimbi yawo yokuqala yothando, ixesha lawo lokuqala, kwaye ngawo, amathuba okuba akhulelwe kwenzeka, kwaye uloyiko lwabazali luyanda.
Ukushiya ixesha elingenatyala lobuntwana, amabhinqa amancinci afuna ukwamkeleka kwaye afune isazisi. Oku kukhokelela ekubeni benze izinto ezingafunwayo ngabazali okanye abazixhalabise ngazo. Ukuphuhliswa komsebenzi zesondo kuyaqala, kwaye ukwabelana ngesondo kungakhokelela ekukhulelweni okungacwangciswanga. Ngaphandle kokuba kunzima kangakanani ukunxibelelana nabantu abapapashayo, umthombo wokuqala wolwazi kufuneka ube ngumzali.
Thetha nabantwana, ufumane ulwazi nenkxaso
Emva kokuva iindaba, abazali kufuneka bacinge ngokungakhathali kwaye bavukele, ngaphandle kokwenza intombi yabo izive inesithukuthezi kwaye inetyala.
Namhlanje akukho sizathu sakuthi into ayinakukhuselwa. Ukuba, ukuba kukho imfuneko, abazali nabantwana abanalo unxibelelwano olwaneleyo, abantu abancinci banazo izixhobo ezingaphezulu kunangaphambili, kwaye bayabonisana, bakhangele, babuze okanye bafumane iingcebiso. Namhlanje azikho kuphela iingcali onazo, kodwa namajelo eendaba, kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke intanethi. Ujongene nokukhulelwa okungalindelekanga, utata kufuneka abekhona kwintombi yakhe, njengakwezinye iimeko. Kwindawo yokuqala, ukujongana nale meko, njengabazali kuya kufuneka uthethe kwaye umamele intombi yakho, ungayibeki tyala okanye imenze azive kakubi.
Ngexesha elinzima, intombi kufuneka izive ikhuselekile kwaye izithembile, ukuze ikwazi ukuvakalisa izimvo zayo ngendlela evakalelwa ngayo, ngaphandle kokoyika ezinye iimpendulo ezinzima. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba intombi ingaziva igwetyelwe oko ikwenzileyo, kodwa ibone usapho lwayo lubandakanyeka nayo. Abazali kufuneka bahlale bepholile kwaye bangaphelelwa lithemba. Bobabini kunye nentombi yabo kufuneka bajolise, bathathe ixesha, kwaye bathathe isigqibo kwizinto ezithile. Ngokudibeneyo ungathetha neengcali zonyango okanye iincutshe zokukunceda ujongane nale meko.
Izinketho kwintombi ekhulelweyo
Abazali bayathandabuza ukuba mabenze ntoni, baziva bedidekile. Kubalulekile ukuba uthathe ingqalelo kwiminyaka yobudala bentombi kwaye uxabise amanqaku athile. Ayifani ngendlela apho i- ukukhulelwa, phantsi kwaziphi iimeko, nabani, kwimeko enjani... Umfazi omncinci usenokuba mncinci kwaye akanazimvo zicace gca, omnye umntu angangumlingani wakhe, mncinci okanye ubudala obusemthethweni ... Le micimbi iyahambelana nemimandla yezomthetho kunye noxanduva olukhulu, ke abazali kufuneka babuze kwaye thethana neengcali xa kukho amathandabuzo.
Kuyimfuneko ukugqiba ukuba ngaba le ntombazana ifuna ukuba nomntwana, ukuba iya kuba naye yedwa okanye hayi ... Njengabazali, kufuneka nicinge ngeziphumo ezinokuba nazo intombi yakho, kokubini ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni.. Kwimeko yokuthatha isigqibo sokuqhubeka nokukhulelwa, kulungile ukucwangcisa izimvo kunye nokulungiselela intombi ukuba ithathe uxanduva kule meko: thetha malunga nokuba uqhubeke nezifundo zakhe, ukhathalele indlela yakhe yokuphila, uqoqosho ... Kwimeko yokungafuni ukuba nomntwana kukho iindlela ezinokuthi zixoxwe. Inkqubo ye- isisu linyathelo elibi kunye neziphumo ezibi kumama. Ukumnyanzela ukuba amkelwe njengowakho iya kuba yenye into enokwenzeka. Nje ukuba nasiphi na isigqibo sithathwe, impilo-ntle yentombi ibaluleke kakhulu.