Ingumxholo omelwe kwiintsapho ezininzi, kokubini amakhwenkwe namantombazana, kwaye nini intombi ithanda kuphela unina. Intombazana ikhetha umama wayo yonke into, inxibe, ikame iinwele, izilungise, njengebango ... umsebenzi odinisayo nalapho umama awuthatha khona. wenze ukukhetha eyona ndima iphambili kuko konke okuqhotyoshelweyo kunye noxanduva malunga nentombi yakhe.
Kwiminyaka yokuqala yobomi bakhe, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukubona abantwana benamathele koonina ukuba ibango kuphela kwaye kuphela umntu onokuthembela kuye. Ukuzama ukuphelisa le meko, ekuphela kwendlela yokuphuma iya kuba yintombazana ukuba iphumelele ixesha elininzi nabanye abantu kwaye oko komeleze ukuzimela kwabo kancinane kancinci. Kodwa ukuba ukuxhomekeka kumama kuphawulwe kakhulu, izizathu eziqhelekileyo kuya kufuneka zifunyenwe.
Kutheni le nto intombi yam ithanda umama wayo?
Ngokuqinisekileyo ukhe wadibana nexesha lokulalanisa xa intombi yakho isiza ikuxelele "Mama, ndikuthanda ngaphezu kukaTata." Ngamaxesha apho ungazi ukuba uza kuthini, sihlala sinombulelo kakhulu kwaye sijonga kwakhona inani likatata njengomntu okhoyo naye ukuba umthande ngokulinganayo.
Ngaphantsi kweminye imigaqo inokuchazwa kwakhona igama "mamitis" Kulapho intombi yakho ingasikhululi isandla sakho, uhlala efuna ukuba umthathe, umnxibise, umtyise kwaye udlale naye. Kwaye ngakumbi xa zisenzeka ngoluhlobo:
Umama uchitha ixesha elininzi ekhaya kunotata. Yenzeka ngenxa yokuba ungenamsebenzi, uthathe ikhefu lokungabikho okanye uphantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko. Kodwa lumka, ukuba umama kufuneka abuyele kwishifti yomsebenzi entsha, mhlawumbi intombazana kunokwenza ukuxhomekeka ngakumbi, ngenxa yokungabikho komzimba wakhe awayeqhelene nawo.
Ukufika komntakwabo omtsha ikhaya sesinye isizathu. Benza i-halo encinci yomona kwaye baziva bengakhathalelwanga kuba bejonga ngakumbi umzalwana wabo osandul 'ukuzalwa. Kule meko batsalela ingqalelo Lonke ukhathalelo lokuqala kwaye nabanye abantwana banayo "Ukubuya ebuntwaneni bakhe" ukufumana ingqwalaselo engakumbi.
Xa bekukho utshintsho olukhulu kunye neentshukumo ezingaqhelekanga ekhaya. Mhlawumbi umama akasenakukwazi ukuyinyamekela intombi yakhe iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku kwaye ufuna ootatomkhulu noomakhulu, utata kwanomntu omgcinayo ukuba amncede. Ngokuqinisekileyo intombi yakho iyala ukunikwa uxanduva okanye imisebenzi ukuba ayiphawulwanga ngesandla sikanina. Iintshukumo nazo zimele kakhulu kwiindlela zokuziphatha zabantwana, utshintsho aluthathwa kakuhle kwaye lunokuphendula ngezibakala ezinje.
Ngaba kulungile okanye kubi ukuba intombi yam ithande kuphela umama wayo?
Umbuzo wabazali abaninzi. Inyani yokuba intombi yakho ifuna ukuba kunye nomama wayo kuphela yinto yokuncamathisela engenayo Kuyaziwa ukufumanisa ukuba kulungile okanye kubi. Kule meko kufuneka ukuhlalutya uhlobo "lwe-mastitis”Kwaye uncamathiselo okwenzekayo. Siyazi ukuba amantombazana asondele kakhulu kunina. Ngabo babonisa inani labasetyhini abafuna ukulingisa. Kumama wabo bafumana iinkcukacha abaza kuthi bazikhathalele kamva, njengokuzilungisa, ukunxiba kunye nokuthambisa.
Oko kuqhotyoshelweyo kunye nokhuseleko kumama Kufuneka idibaniswe nokukhuliswa kakuhle, apho abantwana kufuneka banikwe ukhuseleko nothando oluninzi. Sukwenza uncamathiselo olugqithisileyo. Abantwana kufuneka bayazi indlela yokusabela ukuba umama akabaniki sisombululo kuqala okanye usisombulula ngqo. Kuba intombazana encinci, unako nika izixhobo ezithile ukwenzela ukuba angahlakuli ubuhlobo obukhulu nomama. Ingasoloko isonjululwa ngokumdibanisa nabantu abakwingingqi yakhe ukuze azibandakanye kolo thando okanye olo ube yinxalenye yezinto ezithile zomntwana ke baziva bekhuselekile xa bekunye nabo kwaye bangalahleki. Ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nezihloko ezinxulumene noku ungangena "¿¿yintoni ukunamathela ngokweemvakalelo kwaye kubandakanya ntoni?"Okanye"ukubaluleka kokuncamathiselwa empilweni"