Umntwana wam kufuneka asebenzisane njani nezilwanyana zasekhaya?
Ukukhusela umntwana wakho kunye nesilwanyana sasekhaya, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntu omdala ajonge lonke unxibelelwano phakathi kwesilwanyana kunye nomntwana. Kukwabalulekile ukuba uncede umntwana wakho abone umhlaba ngokwembono yesilwanyana sasekhaya. Buza umntwana wakho ukuba angaziva njani xa umntu enokutsala amehlo akhe okanye amtsale iindlebe. Chaza ukuba nezona zilwanyana zifuywayo zinemida kwaye kufuneka zonke izilwanyana ziphathwe ngenkathalo nangentlonipho. Nceda umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba:
- Izilwanyana zasekhaya zidinga indawo kwaye azisoloko zixabisa ukujongwa ngabantu, ngakumbi xa besitya, bedlala ngeethoyi zabo okanye xa bephumla.
- Izilwanyana zasekhaya zinokuba nomsindo ukuba ziyaphathwa okanye zivuselelwe kakhulu. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuthobela imiqondiso yesilumkiso (enjengokubethwa, ukubethelwa, ukubuyela emva, okanye ukugquma) ezibonisa ukuba umhlobo wakho osisilwanyana ufuna ukushiywa yedwa.
- Ezinye izilwanyana zasekhaya zinokuziva zingenabuntu kwaye ziyibonise xa umntwana wakho ebamba okanye esondela kuzo. Xelela umntwana wakho ukuba acele imvume kumntu omdala ngaphambi kokuchukumisa esinye isilwanyana sasekhaya. Chaza ukuba ezinye izilwanyana zasekhaya zinokuziva zisongelwa xa zijongwe, zivalwe egumbini, okanye xa ziwola.
- Izilwanyana ezisentlungwini zinokungxola okanye zilume nabani na ozama ukuzibamba. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukushiya isilwanyana esonzakeleyo sisodwa kunye nokwazisa umntu omdala ngokukhawuleza.
- Ezinye izinja ziyavuya kwaye zibe yingozi xa abantwana bekhala bebaleka. Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha ezinjeni.
- Izinja ezivalelwe egadini okanye ezimotweni zisenokuzama ukukhusela imimandla yazo ukuba umntu uyeza kuzo. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba angangxolisi okanye asondele kubo.
- Izinja zinokonwaba kakhulu kwaye zilawule ngexesha lemidlalo enje ngokujijisana ngentambo okanye ukulwa, ngokunokwenzakalisa umntwana ngenxa yoko. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba angadlali imidlalo enjalo kunye neenja kwaye endaweni yoko adlale "ayilande ibhola."
Ndingasinceda njani isilwanyana sam sizive sikhuselekile?
Njengabantwana, izilwanyana zasekhaya zidinga ixesha lokuziqhelanisa neemeko ezintsha kunye neemeko, kwaye zidinga amathuba okuba zodwa zingenzi nto. Nika izilwanyana zasekhaya indawo yazo ukuze zibaleke ebantwaneni. Musa ukubeka izilwanyana zasekhaya kwiimeko apho ziziva zisongelwa. Umzekelo, izinja ezishiyeke zodwa kwiiyadi zinokuthi ngengozi okanye ngabom zibangelwe ngabantwana basekuhlaleni. Ukongeza, izilwanyana zihlala ixesha elide, zisempilweni kwaye zikhuselekile xa zigcinwa ngaphakathi nosapho.
Anganceda njani umntwana wam ukukhathalela isilwanyana sasekhaya?
Ukuvumela abantwana bancede ekunyamekeleni isilwanyana sasekhaya kufundisa ngoxanduva kwaye kubangela ubuchule kunye nokuphumelela. Khetha imisebenzi efanelekileyo kubudala bomntwana wakho. Nabantwana abancinci banokuthatha inxaxheba kwinkalo ethile yokukhathalela isihlobo sesilwanyana-ukukhetha ithoyizi entsha okanye isacholo somqala, ukunceda ukucheba iinwele, okanye ukuphatha itoti yokutya.
Ndingabafundisa njani abantwana bam ukuba bazikhathalele kakuhle izilwanyana zasekhaya?
Eyona ndlela yokufundisa abantwana bakho ukuba babe ngabahleli bezilwanyana zasekhaya onoxanduva kukuba ube ngumhleli wesilwanyana ngokwakho. Oku kufuneka kuqale ngaphambi kokuba ufumane isilwanyana-qiniseka ukuba unolindelo olusengqiqweni malunga nokuba nesilwanyana. Kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okukhetha isilwanyana esifanelekileyo kusapho lwakho ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Ngokukhawuleza xa usazisa isilwanyana kusapho lwakho, misela kwaye unyanzelise imigaqo malunga nokhathalelo olufanelekileyo lwezilwanyana. Umzekelo, xelela abantwana bakho ukuba bangatsali umsila, iindlebe, okanye naliphi na elinye ilungu lomzimba wesilwanyana, kwaye ubanyanzelise ukuba bangaze bayingcungcuthekise, bangayibethi okanye bayileqe isilwanyana. Fundisa abantwana indlela yokuyithatha, ukuyibamba nokuphulula izilwanyana. Ezi zifundo zilula zibalulekile ukunceda abantwana babe ngabakhathaleli abanenkathalo.
Nangona izinto ezithile zokukhathalela izilwanyana kufuneka ziphathwe ngabantu abadala, usengabandakanya abantwana bakho, uchaze okwenzayo nokuba kutheni. Umzekelo, xa usisa isilwanyana sakho kugqirha wezilwanyana ngenjongo yokutshiza okanye ukungathathi hlangothi, chazela umntwana wakho ukuba olu tyando alunciphisi kuphela ukugcwala kwezilwanyana zasekhaya, kodwa lunokunceda ekwenzeni isilwanyana sakho sibe sempilweni, sizole, kwaye sithande ngakumbi.
Bandakanya abantwana bakho kwimisebenzi yoqeqesho lwezilwanyana zasekhaya, ezingancedi nje ukwenza isilwanyana sakho ukuba sibe lilungu elilunge ngakumbi losapho, kodwa sikwafundisa umntwana wakho ukuphatha ngobuntu kunye nonxibelelwano olusebenzayo.
Ekugqibeleni, abantwana bakho bafuna ukufunda indlela yokuphatha izilwanyana- kunye nabantu-ngokubukela indlela osiphatha ngayo isilwanyana sasekhaya. Baza kufunda ngendlela ondla ngayo, ukufuya, kunye nokuzilolonga nesilwanyana esiliqabane lakho. Kwaye baya kujonga kakhulu indlela osabela ngayo xa isilwanyana sikrwela ifanitshala, sikhonkotha kakhulu, okanye senze isiphithiphithi endlwini. Nangona ezi ngxaki zikhathaza, "ukuphelisa" isilwanyana asikokungafaneleki nje kwisilwanyana nakubantwana baso, sikwathumela umyalezo ongalunganga malunga nokuzinikela, ukuthembana noxanduva. Xa ujongene neengxaki zesilwanyana, jonga unobangela wengxaki. Amaxesha ngamaxesha, ugqirha wezilwanyana, indawo yokuhlala izilwanyana, okanye umqeqeshi wenja unokukunceda ukusombulula iingxaki zezilwanyana ukuze ugcine lonke usapho kunye.
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