Isipho sabantwana abanovakalelo olukhulu (PAS): Ubafundisa njani?

Valeria Sabater

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Iimpawu ze-5 zabantwana abanobuthathaka kakhulu (PAS)

Ukusukela oko uElaine N. Aron wapapasha "Isipho sokuziva okuphezulu" kwiminyaka yama-90, esi sihloko sikhule kuphela sanceda abantu abaninzi ukuba bazane bhetele.. Kuthiwa ukuba phantse i-20% yabemi ichonge olu hlobo lobuntu, olungenanto yakwenza nokungeniswa. Abantu abanovelwano kakhulu (PAS) babona kwaye baqonde umhlaba ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ukusuka kubuntununtunu obukhethekileyo kangangokuba akusoloko kubanika ulonwabo lwenene.

Uvelwano lwabo luphezulu kakhulu, baziva iintlungu zabanye kwaye babuthathaka ngakumbi xa bejamelene nokudana, inkohliso okanye ubuxoki obulula. Ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba siyazi indlela yokuchonga olu phawu ebantwaneni bethu. Ukuba siyabakhokela, siya kubenza babone ubomi ngokusuka entliziyweni, kodwa bahlale beneendlela ezilungileyo zokuqina. Kwi Madres Hoy Siyakucacisela.

Indlela yokuchonga abantwana abanovakalelo kakhulu

Intombazana enovakalelo ingene nedandelion

Wonke umntwana ukhethekile kubazali bakhe. Ngoku, into esoloko siyazi kwaye ngakumbi ukuba sinomntwana ongaphezulu komnye yile elowo uneentswelo zakhe. Kukho abagwenxa ngakumbi, abanye bangenisa ngakumbi kwaye abanye babonakala ngathi baqonda izinto ezininzi ngakumbi kunabantakwabo.

Enye into ekufuneka uyiqwalasele kukuba into yokuba umntwana aziphathe ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwabanye ayifanelanga ukuba yingxaki. Ukubona kunye nokuziva umhlaba ngokwahlukileyo akukubi, kusisipho, kodwa isipho ekufuneka siqondwe, ngakumbi ngumntwana ngokwakhe. Ngale ndlela baya kuba ngabantu abadala abazithembileyo.

Makhe sijonge ngoku kwiimpawu zabantwana ezibuthathaka kakhulu.

  • Xa beziintsana nje, basabela kakhulu kutshintsho ekukhanyeni nakwizandi. Bahlala bekhalela nantoni na.
  • Njengokuba bekhula uya kuqaphela ukuba nokuxubana kweempahla zabo kuyabenzakalisa.. Umda wabo wentlungu usezantsi kakhulu, kungoko banokukhalaza ngokunxiba uhlobo oluthile lweekawusi okanye iimpahla zangaphantsi.
  • Ukusukela ebutsheni babo banokutsalwa bubugcisa kunye nomculo. Zintle kakhulu ekuzobeni, kwaye zimele imiba ephuma kwesiqhelo. Bahamba ngaphaya kwento edibana neliso.
  • Bantwana abanovelwano kakhulu badala kakhulu kunabantwana babo. Baya kuqonda izinto eziza kukumangalisa, kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo: bayaziqonda iinkxalabo zakho, xa ulusizi, udanile, ungazolanga ... Yinto ekufuneka uyiqwalasele.
  • Into exhaphake kakhulu kukuba esikolweni, bahlala benenye ingxaki. Ubuxoki, ukugxeka, ukwaliwa okanye nokubona indlela ababakhathaza ngayo abanye abantwana yingxaki kubo. Ilizwe labantwana, njengoko usazi, linokuba yinto "ekhohlakeleyo" ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye ezi ntlobo zezinto zichaphazela abantwana abanovakalelo kakhulu.
  • Imibuzo abakubuza yona ihlala inemilinganiselo ethile yokuziphatha kunye nefilosofi. Banexhala lezinto ezidlula isangqa sabo, babukela umabonwakude kwaye abaqondi ukuba kutheni iimeko ezithile zisenzeka, kwaye kutheni kukho abantu ekufuneka beve ubunzima.
  • Enye into ebalulekileyo kukuba bathanda ukwenza izinto bodwa. Ngoku, oku akuthethi ukuba bayayiphepha ubudlelwane, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, bayakonwabela ukwenza izinto bebodwa, njengokuzoba, ukudlala imidlalo, ukumamela umculo ...

umntwana obuthathaka kakhulu onevayol

Ungabafundisa njani abantwana abanobuntununtunu

Iyahlekisa into yokuba ixesha elide, zide zonke ezo ncwadi zipapashwe "njengomtshangatshangiso" weencwadi ezinovakalelo oluphezulu, Abantu abaninzi babengasiqondi isizathu sokuba bazive bohluke kangaka. Kutheni le nto bebenolwazelelelo kwezona zinto zemihla ngemihla, kwaye kutheni bebubona ubomi ngendlela ethile kubo bonke ababaziyo.

Namhlanje uvakalelo oluphezulu lwamkelwa njengolunye uhlobo lobuntu, kwaye iya kuba ngaphakathi kwendawo yokungeniswa, kodwa ngaphandle kokufezekisa ukurhoxiswa. Ke ngoko, kufanelekile ukwazi uthotho lweendlela ezilula zokwazi ukubakhokela abantwana bethu mihla le. Qaphela.

Ikhulisa ukuzithemba kwabo

Yintsika esisiseko esingafanele siyityeshele. Ukubona umhlaba ngokwahlukileyo kubenza bazive ngokwahlukileyo, kwaye ukuzibona kwabo kwahlukile kubenza bazibone njengabasesichengeni.


  • Linganisela zonke iindlela zokuqiqa, nelizwi ngalinye elenziwa ngumntwana wakho. Benze babone ukuba ukukhathala ngakumbi kunesinye isipho, kwaye kuyakubavumela ukuba bonwabele ubomi ngamandla awodwa. Ubugcisa kunye nomculo ziindlela ezimbini ezilungileyo zokubonisa apho unokufumana khona amandla, menze ukuba abone ukuba nokubukhali ngakumbi kukrelekrele kuba uyabaqonda abantu ngakumbi.
  • Menze abone ukuba ukuba abo afunda nabo abaziphathi okanye baziva izinto ezifanayo nabo, ayonto imbi. Umntu ngamnye wahlukile, kwaye le yinto entle kakhulu.
  • Kuya kufuneka bafunde ukuba ukufumana ukugxekwa, ukwamkela ukuba umntu othile wesikolo uyabagxeka okanye abakhohlise yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba mabangayifaki ngaphakathi. Ukuba nemini embi akuthethi ukuba ingomso liya kuba libi kakhulu. Kungenxa yokuba umntwana ukuxokisile akuthethi ukuba bonke bangamaxoki.
  • Menze abone ukuba womelele, kwaye uya kuba nakho ukwenza izinto ezininzi okoko bafuna kwaye bexabise bona.

Lihloniphe ixesha labo lokuba nesizungu okanye ukuzimela

Uya kufuna ukwenza izinto ngokwakho, kwaye kuya kufuneka ube wedwa amaxesha amaninzi. Vumela kodwa jonga ixesha elide ukuba awudluli. Ukuba wedwa kuya kukuvumela ukuba unxibelelane nawe ngokwakho ukulungisa iingcinga, iimvakalelo, amava.

Emva kwexesha, ungaze uthandabuze ukuthetha naye. Imibuzo oyibuzayo kufuneka ibe nzulu njengokuqiqa kwabo okanye inkxalabo. Imalunga nokucela ukuba uvelane nabo, kodwa ungakhange uve ukuba uyabalawula. Sikunika imizekelo, apho siza kuthi sibeke phambili unxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo noluthandekayo.

  • Ngaba ikho into enomdla eyenzekileyo kuwe eklasini?
  • Namhlanje ubonakala ulusizi ngandlela ithile. Abantu baneentsuku ezintle kunye neentsuku ezimbi, ngamanye amaxesha ubomi bungenaxabiso. Eyam ibilunge kakhulu ... ibinjani eyakho?
  • Ndifunda incwadi enomdla kakhulu. Zeziphi izihloko onomdla kuzo xa ukhetha incwadi?
  • Ndiyakuthanda ukuba ndedwa amaxesha ngamaxesha, ndicinga ngezinto zam nento endingathanda ukuyenza ngomso. Kwaye u ... ungathanda ukuba yintoni xa ukhula? Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba uhlala wonwabile, ke ndixelele ... ungathanda ukwenza ntoni ukuze uhlale wonwabe kangangoko?

intombazana ebuthathaka kakhulu ehlathini

Yakha usuku lwakho kwimini kwaye uphephe imithombo yoxinzelelo

Eli cebiso aliloncedo kuphela kubantwana abanolwazelelelo, eneneni lelona lininzi. Nangona kunjalo, kwabo bantwana banovakalelo ngakumbi kunesiqhelo ayifanelanga ukubathobela kwimithombo enokubangela ukuba bangonwabi kunokuzinza.

Ungaze wenze impazamo yokuba "kufuneka yomelele kwaye ikrelekrele", kwaye ngenxa yoku kufanelekile ukuyikhomba kwimidlalo okanye kwiinkampu ezithile. Thetha nabo kwangaphambili, yazi ukuba abantwana abanolwazelelelo kakhulu abakuthandi ukukhuphisana, okanye ukwenza izinto ngokwamaqela, okanye iimeko ezinokuphazamiseka okuninzi, ukukhwaza okanye ingxolo.

Misele intembelo elungileyo emntwaneni wakho kwaye uyiqonde. Abazali abanamsebenzi wokutshintsha ubuntu babantwana bethu, kodwa ukubakhokela yonke imihla ukuze babe njengoko benjalo, bafumana ulonwabo.


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  1.   Ezequiel sitsho
    yenzayo 8 iminyaka

    Inqaku elihle kakhulu, xa ndiyifunda ndiyaqonda ukuba ndingumntwana onomdla kwaye ngelishwa ndiye ndasokola ngakumbi kunokuba bendikonwabele, kuba ngenxa yokungazi kunye nezithethe zenkcubeko ukuba uvakalelo lwalungaqondwa kakuhle ngabazali bam okanye ngamaziko emfundo endandikhe ndaya kuwo. . Ngapha koko, ndiye ndafunda ngokuhamba kwexesha ukuba ndiluxabise olu phawu kwaye ndikhulisa intombi yam eneminyaka eyi-6 kwaye inovakalelo oluphezulu kakhulu lokuhamba nayo kunye nenkosikazi yam ukuze izenze izive iqulethwe kwaye iqondwe kwisipho sayo. Enkosi

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    1.    UValeria Sabater sitsho
      yenzayo 8 iminyaka

      Enkosi ngokufunda u-Ezequiel! Khumbula ukuba enye indlela yokufundisa ngempumelelo umntwana onovelwano kakhulu kungoBukrelekrele be-Emotional. Khulisa ukuzithemba kwakhe, mkhokele ukuze ecaleni kwakho aqonde ukuba obu buchule bunokumnceda abone umhlaba ngamandla kwaye anxibelelane ngcono nabantu. Ithamsanqa, imibuliso kwiqela lonke kwi «Madres Hoy».

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  2.   UCarmen Gloria sitsho
    yenzayo 8 iminyaka

    Ngokuthakazelisayo unomdla ... ngoku yonke into yenza ingqiqo kum ... Ndiqinisekile ukuba namhlanje sisipho esivumela ukuba ndenze izinto ezintle nezigulana zam.
    Nangona kunjalo, andikwazi ukulawula ngokupheleleyo ubuntununtunu bam obuphezulu, kuba ndithanda ukubandezeleka ndize ndophule izinto abantu abaninzi abangaziboniyo ... Enkosi kakhulu nangeentsikelelo ezingapheliyo!

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  3.   Angela sitsho
    yenzayo 7 iminyaka

    Molo, ndinomdla kakhulu kuyo yonke into, inyani yile, ndinentombazana eneminyaka eyi-8 kwaye ndicinga ukuba inokuba nayo le mvakalelo, sele isiva iintlungu ngayo yonke into eyibonayo ihlupheka kwaye iyamkhathaza kakhulu, naluphi na uhlobo yempahla iyasokola ekhaya, ayinxibayo, andazi ukuba ndenzeni ngayo yonke into

    Phendula u-Angela
    1.    Macarena sitsho
      yenzayo 7 iminyaka

      Enkosi kakhulu ngokubeka u-Angela, imibuliso 🙂

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  4.   I-gaby sitsho
    yenzayo 7 iminyaka

    Intombi yam ihlala ibonisa ubuntununtunu, ukusuka esiswini kumdlalo bhanyabhanya okanye kwindawo yokutyela ebekhathazekile, etsiba kwaye esiya rhoqo, okwangoku uneminyaka emibini kuphela ubudala, uneempawu ezininzi zale profayile kwaye ndiyavuma ukuba ubulumko bakhe buyandothusa Ngeemvakalelo zabanye, ndingathanda ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi incwadi ekulungeleyo ukuba ibe lulwazi kakhulu ukusazisa ngakumbi ngamakhono akhe kunye nokukhula esinokumelana naye

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    1.    Macarena sitsho
      yenzayo 7 iminyaka

      Molo, andazi ukuba ingakunceda na, kodwa ungafunda: «Isipho sobuntununtunu, abantu abanovakalelo kakhulu», kwaye sicebisa ukuba ubonane neli phepha http://personasaltamentesensibles.com

      A ubingelele.

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  5.   Isitayile sitsho
    yenzayo 7 iminyaka

    Sawubona,
    Ku-facebook unephepha elithetha ngabantwana be-PAS. Ibizwa ngokuba ngaBantwana abaPhucukileyo. Unolwazi oluninzi apho ...

    Phendula kwi-Isitxu
    1.    Macarena sitsho
      yenzayo 7 iminyaka

      Enkosi ngengcebiso Isitxu. Konke okugqibelele.

      Phendula kuMacarena