Yintoni isitayile sokuba ngumzali ngehelikopta

Abazali beehelikopta

Igama elithi 'helicopter abazali' laqala ukusetyenziswa nguGqr. Haim Ginott kwincwadi yakhe ngowe-1969 xa abanye abaselula bamxelela ukuba abazali babo babendanda phezu kwabo njengenqwelo-ntaka. Eli gama laye laduma kwiminyaka kamva njengoko kukho amagama afanayo afana nelithi 'hyperparents', 'ukhuseleko olugqithisileyo lukatata kunye nomama', njl. 

I-helicopter yomzali ibhekisela kwisimbo somzali apho abazali bagxila kuphela kubantwana babo. Abazali be-helicopter bathatha uxanduva oluninzi lwamava abantwana babo, zombini impumelelo kunye nokungaphumeleli. Ootata noomama abalandela olu hlobo lokukhulisa abantwana babandakanyeka kubomi babantwana ngendlela yokuba babe nolawulo olugqithisileyo. Bakhusela kakhulu kwaye bafuna ukuba ngaphaya koxanduva lwabazali.

Ngubani umzali wehelicopter?

Nangona eli gama lidla ngokusetyenziswa kootata nakoomama bamakhwenkwe namantombazana afikisayo, iimeko zisenokubonwa kootata nakoomama babantu abadala. Umzekelo, umfundi waseyunivesithi onokufowunela unjingalwazi ukuze athethe ngamanqaku amabi kwaye ngutata okanye umama otsalela umnxeba okanye umntu oselula ekufuneka enze udliwano-ndlebe lomsebenzi aze utata okanye umama eze kuhlola ukuba ngaba kufanelekile ngokwenene. okanye hayi. Inyaniso kukuba i-helicopter yomzali ayiyona nje intsha, kodwa inokusetyenziswa kuyo nayiphi na iminyaka.

Kubantwana abancinci, umzali we-helicopter unokuba sisithunzi somntwana rhoqo, esoloko esalathisa indlela aziphatha ngayo yaye ebeka imida ethintela zonke iintlobo zenkululeko.

Abazali beehelikopta

Kutheni i-helicopter yomzali isenzeka

Umzali we-helicopter unokuphuhlisa uluhlu lwezizathu, kodwa kukho izinto ezine eziqhelekileyo ezibangela ukuba zithathelwe ingqalelo ukuze kuhlolwe ukuba ngaba ngokwenene ingaba yinto enxulumene nawe, okanye hayi.

Ukoyika imiphumo emibi

Abazali basenokoyika ukuba ukukhulisa abantwana kuya kuba kubi yaye oku kuya kuphelela kwimiphumo emibi kumntwana nakubazali. Uninzi lweziphumo abazali abafuna ukuzinqanda ziqhelekile: umzabalazo, ukungonwabi, ukusebenza nzima... Bacinga ukuba abantwana babo akuyomfuneko ukuba badlule kuwo nawaphi na amava angathandekiyo ukuba banokuwaphepha, Kodwa into abayilibalayo kukuba ngale ndlela yokuziphatha ababavumeli abantwana babo ukuba baqole kwaye bafunde kwiimpazamo zabo.

Umsebenzi onzima, umzabalazo, ukungonwabi okwexeshana ... ngabafundisi abakhulu kubantwana, abafikisayo kunye nabantu abadala ... abayizoyikiso zobomi, kodwa bakwenza uxabise izinto kwaye ulwe ukuze uzifumane. Ukuba awuvumeli abantwana bakho ukuba bafunde kwiimpazamo zabo kwaye bashiye indawo yabo yokuthuthuzela, amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana angakhuselekanga kunye nabaxhomekeke kuye baya kudalwa.

Iimvakalelo ezixhalabisayo

Ukukhathazeka ngemali, umsebenzi kunye nehlabathi ngokubanzi kunokubangela bafuna ukukhusela abantwana babo ngokugqithisileyo nokuba abakhathazwa yiyo nantoni na enokubenza bangonwabi. Oku kusenokubenza bafune ukulawula ngakumbi ubomi babantwana babo. Bacinga ukuba ngale ndlela abantwana babo abanakuze baxhalabe okanye bazive bedanile lihlabathi. 

Abazali beehelikopta

Imbuyekezo egqithisileyo

Abantu abadala abaziva bengathandwa, ababengahoywanga kwasengabantwana, kwanabaziva bengahoywanga ngabazali babo basenokuzama ukuziphindezela ezo mvakalelo zingathandekiyo kubantwana babo. Ingqwalasela egqithisileyo kunye nokuphaphile ziinzame zokulungisa intsilelo eviwa ngabazali babo ebuntwaneni. 


Ingcinezelo yoontanga evela kwabanye abazali

Xa abazali bebona abanye abazali bebandakanyeke ngokugqithiseleyo, kusenokubangela intsabelo efanayo. Ngamanye amaxesha xa sibona abanye abazali be-helicopter sicinga ukuba ukwenza okufanayo yinto efanelekileyo kwaye ukungenzi oko kubi njengomzali. Ukuziva unetyala kunokukwenza ucinge ukuba akuqhubi kakuhle ukuba awubakhuseli ngokugqithiseleyo abantwana bakho.

Zithini iziphumo zehelicopter yokukhulisa abantwana?

Abazali abaninzi be-helicopter baqala ngeenjongo ezilungileyo. Ngumgca onzima ukuwufumana, uyafuna ukuziqhelanisa nobomi babantwana bakho kodwa uye uxakeke kangangokuba uphulukane nombono weyona nto ifunwa ngabantwana bakho. Ukuba ngumzali othenjisiweyo kuneengenelo ezininzi kubantwana, kwaye baya kufumana uthando oluninzi, bazive bemkelwe, kwaye bakhe ukuzithemba. Baya kwazi ukuba abazali babo ngabakhokeli babo kwaye baya kuba namathuba amaninzi okukhula.

Abazali beehelikopta

Ingxaki kuxa abazali bekhokelwa luloyiko yaye izigqibo abazenzayo zisekelwe kwinto enokwenzeka kubo baze abantwana baqalise ukuziva besoyika. ukuba bazenzele izigqibo ukuba abazali babo abakho ngakwicala labo lokubakhokela ngamaxesha onke. Abanayo okanye baziva bekhululekile, bacinga ukuba izigqibo zabo azikho kwaye aziyi kubaluleka, abanasizathu sokucinga okanye ukukhathazeka ... abanye baya kubenzela.

Ukungaphumeleli kunye nemingeni kufundisa abantwana izakhono ezitsha kwaye abafundise indlela yokusingatha iingxaki kunye neengxabano. Ukuba abantwana bafumana ihelicopter yomzali kubazali babo, ukuzithemba kwabo kunye nokuzithemba kuya kuncipha kakhulu. Eyona ngxaki yokukhuliswa kukungaphumeleli ekubeni umyalezo othunyelwa ebantwaneni ngowokuba abanakuzenzela nto kwaye eyona nto imbi bacinge ukuba abazali babo ababathembi ukuba bangazenzela izinto. iakhawunti yakho.

Oku kuya kwandisa ukuxhalaba ebantwaneni kwaye kude kufikelele kumanqanaba oxinzelelo lwabantwana. Abantwana abayi kuphuhlisa izakhono zobomi kwaye abazali baya kuhlala bengabo basombulula iingxaki zabo ... into eya kubenza bazive bengento yanto kwaye bengenazo izakhono zokumelana nobomi.

Kuphephe ukuba ngumzali wehelicopter

Ungalubonisa njani uthando lwakho ebantwaneni bakho ngaphandle kokubathintela ekufundeni izakhono ezibalulekileyo zobomi? Njengotata okanye umama uya kuba nomsebenzi onzima kuba kuya kufuneka ubeke iliso kubantwana bakho, wazi ukuba zeziphi iimeko zoxinzelelo, iimvakalelo ezinamandla ... kwaye ubafundise. Ukuphumelela kuthetha ukuba uyabandezeleka kwaye nabo bayabandezeleka.

Abantwana kufuneka badlule ebunzimeni, kufuneka bazive bedanile... kufuneka ube yinkxaso nomkhokheli wabo, kodwa UNGAZE ube ngulowo ubenzela izinto. Mncede aphucuke ngaphandle kokunqumla amaphiko akhe. Vumela abantwana bakho benze izinto abakwaziyo ukuzenza ngokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni. Umzekelo, ukwenza ibhedi yomntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-3 kulungile, ukwenzela umntwana wakho oneminyaka eli-13 ubudala sele kuyimpazamo enkulu.


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