Ukuqala kwakho ukubona umntwana wakho encumile, uya kunyibilika. Intliziyo yakho iya kuba ifumene uthando lokwenene kwaye uyazi ukuba olu sana luya kuba yintliziyo yakho yonke imihla yakho. Xa umntwana encumile kunina okanye kuyise, kubalulekile, kodwa kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba unokucinga. Xa usana lwakho lukuncumela okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba ulubuyise uncumo, Uya kumzisela ukhuseleko kunye nentlalo-ntle yeemvakalelo!
Xa usana luzelwe, alunxibelelani nabazali balo. Usebenzisa kuphela ukukhala ukunxibelelana nabanye ukuba unezidingo ezisisiseko ekufuneka zifezekisiwe kwaye abazali bakhe bayaziqikelela ukuba ziyintoni na. Kodwa xa eqala ukuncuma, yonke into iyatshintsha, ufuna ukunxibelelana nawe.
Uncumo lokuqala ngexesha lokukhulelwa okanye kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva kokuzalwa akunanto yakwenza noncumo lwasentlalweni. Uncumo lweengelosi lwenzeka ngaphambi koncumo lwasentlalweni kwaye lubonisa ukuba umntwana uphilile kwaye wonwabile, oku kuyimbonakalo. Uncumo lwasentlalweni sele lunonxibelelwano olusebenzayo ngakumbi kubazali.
Xa umntwana evukile kwaye engaphezulu kwenyanga ubudala kwaye encumile, kungenxa yokuba oko kukubonisa ukuba uyavuya ukukubona okanye ngokungathi uzama ukukukholisa. Kukunxibelelana kwakhe okokuqala nokusingqongileyo, ngumyalezo awudlulisayo kuwe, uhlala nabantu okokuqala. Luvuselelo olulindele impendulo (njengalo naluphi na unxibelelwano), kwaye loo mpendulo kukumomotheka kwakho.
Ngale ndlela unokuqinisa ubudlelwane bemvakalelo kunye nosana lwakho kwaye uya kufunda kancinci kancinci ukunxibelelana nawe ngokuchanekileyo. Usana lwakho kufuneka luzive lukhuselekile emzimbeni, kodwa nasemphefumlweni kwaye enye indlela yokwenza oku kukuncuma nokulila. Ngokukhala uthetha iimfuno zakhe ezisisiseko kunye nokungonwabi kwakhe kwaye ngoncumo lwakhe, unxibelelana nabantu ukuba wonwabile kwaye ukhululekile xa ekunye nawe.