Emva kobuqhetseba beKrisimesi kunye naZazi eziNtathu, kusenokwenzeka ukuba abantwana bakho bahlanganisene nezipho ezininzi kwaye indlu yakho ikhangeleka ngathi licandelo lezinto zokudlala elikwiziko lokuthenga. Namhlanje abantwana bahlala befumana izipho ngeKrisimesi kunye neeKings. Yintoni egqithisile, Kuqhelekile ukuba usapho kunye nabahlobo bafune ukunika into encinci endlini kuba ubuso babo bobuxoki abuxabisekanga.
Akukho nto yenzekayo, iithoyi ziluncedo kulonwabo, ukukhula kunye nokufunda kwabantwana bethu. Ingxaki ifika xa intaba yeethoyi iya isiya inyuka kwaye, endaweni yokuziva bonwabile, abantwana baphela bekhathazekile kwaye bexinekile zizipho ezininzi. Yile nto zibizwa ziingcali »Isifo somntwana onesiphiwo». Umntwana, ejongene nobukhulu bezipho ezinjalo, uphela esiya kwenye, ngaphandle kokugxila okanye ukudlala nantoni na. Oku, ukongeza ukuthanda ukungabikho kwengcamango, ukucinga kunye nokukhathazeka, Ithintela abantwana bethu ekufundeni ukuxabisa izinto abanazo kwaye banokubanomdla kwaye bangoneliseki ngokufezekisa izinto ngaphandle komzamo.
Ewe abantwana bethu abanatyala. Thina bantu badala kufuneka silawule zombini ubungakanani kunye nomgangatho wezipho abazifumanayo. Ke ngoko, ukusuka Madres hoy, Sikunika izimvo zokuba abantwana bakho bazonwabele izipho zabo kwaye kwangaxeshanye bafunde ukuzixabisa.
Singenza ntoni ukuba sinamathoyizi amaninzi emva kweKrisimesi?
Nikela ngeethoyi ezingasasetyenziswayo.
Eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba abe nesisa kwaye axhase. Ukuba ukhulile, unokukhetha iithoyi ezikwimeko entle kodwa angasazisebenzisiyo azise kwi-NGO, esibhedlele, esikolweni okanye ade azinike ilungu losapho okanye umhlobo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ubanike ubomi obusebenzisekayo okwesibini kwaye abantwana bakho baqonde ukuba kuncinci kakhulu, abanye abantu abathandwayo bangonwaba kakhulu.
Gcina kwaye uhlaziye.
Unokwenza ukhetho lwezinto zokudlala kwaye ugcine ezo zingazisebenzisiyo ngenxa yokuba zingalungelanga iminyaka yabo okanye ngenxa yokuba bedikwe ngabo. Ngale ndlela, indlu yakho iya kucaca ngakumbi kwaye unako uzikhuphe unyaka wonke kuxhomekeke kubudala kunye nemidla yabantwana. Ukongeza, ngale ndlela baya kuhlala benombono wento entsha kwaye abayi kuphulukana nomdla kubo ngokukhawuleza.
Yabelana okanye utshintshisane nabahlobo.
Kuqhelekile ukuba, ngaphandle kwezinto zokudlala ezingenakubalwa, bayayithanda enye yomhlobo omncinci. Ungacebisa ukuba abantwana bakho benze i imakethi yokudlala apho umntu ngamnye athatha into angayisebenzisiyo kwaye ayitshintshise kunye nezohlobo lwabo njengempahla. Utshintsho lunokuba yimali mboleko yethutyana okanye esisigxina, njengoko bekhetha. Ngale ndlela baya kuba nexesha lokonwaba ngelixa befunda amaxabiso anje ngesisa, ukurisayikilisha kunye nokuqina kwizinto ezibonakalayo.
Dlala nabantwana.
Sisoloko sicinga ukuba ngokuhlambela abantwana bethu ngezipho ezibonakalayo, sinokubuyisela ixesha elincinci, ngelishwa, esinalo ngabo. Kuqhelekile ukubona abantwana banezipho ezingenakubalwa, kodwa bebuhlungu kwaye bekruqukile kuba abanamntu abanokwabelana naye ngezinto ezintsha kunye nolonwabo. Thatha ixesha lokudlala nabantwana bakho, yehla emhlabeni kunye nabo kwaye wonwabele loo nto yokudlala ipholileyo ibazisele iiKumkani. Ngale ndlela, uya kubanceda ukuba banike ingqalelo yabo kumdlalo, bazive behamba kunye kwaye uya kukuphepha ukukruquka.
Ezi zezinye zezimvo ukuze ukwazi ukulawula iithoyi ezingaphaya kwemfuneko emva kweeholide zeKrisimesi, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo unokucinga ngezinye ezininzi. Ndiyathemba ukuba bakuncedile kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukuba nobabini nabantwana bakho, nizonwabele kumaxesha amaninzi okudlala, ukonwaba nokuhleka.
Umzekelo, ndiyakuthanda ukufundisa i-chubby yam ukubeka iithoyi ezishelfini ngendlela emnandi kakhulu. Ndineeshelfu ezimbini ekuphakameni kwakhe ukuze abe nakho ukufikelela kuzo kwaye ukubeka iithoyi kuyinxalenye yomdlalo wakhe.