Ngelishwa, Namhlanje, ulutsha oluninzi luyakhulelwa. Ngaphandle kolwazi olukhulu abanalo, kuyinyani eyenzeka rhoqo ngakumbi kunokuba abantu becinga. Inyani yokuba kufuneka uxelele abazali luloyiko lokwenyani kunye nomothuko kolu lutsha. Kubalulekile ke ukuba ungenzi idrama enkulu kwaye uzame ukuyithetha uzolile kangangoko.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, amantombazana achaphazeleka kakhulu ngokweemvakalelo kwaye Kubalulekile ukuba bathembele kwinkxaso yabazali babo. Kuya kufuneka baqondakale kangangoko kwaye bavelane nentombi yakho kuba oku kuya kwenza yonke into ibelula.
Bamele benze ntoni abazali xa intombi yabo ikhulelwe?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuhlala ecaleni kwebhinqa eliselula kwaye Thetha uzolile ngalo mbandela. Enye yeendlela ezinokubakho kukukhupha isisu, nangona kusoloko kungcono ukuba nosana. Umcimbi wokuqhomfa sisigqibo esenziwa ngu
ngoncedo lwabazali.
Ngaphambi kokuthatha inyathelo elibaluleke kangako, kufuneka kuvavanywe uthotho lwezinto njengokuba kunjalo kuqoqosho, impilo okanye ukukhula komfazi omncinci. Okokuqala, kufuneka usihloniphe isigqibo sentombazana kwaye ufikelele kwisivumelwano phakathi kwawo onke amaqela.
Ukuba ukukhupha isisu kukhutshiwe kwaye umfazi osemncinci ugqiba ekubeni aqhubeke nokukhulelwa, kufuneka uye kwagqirha. Ukukhulelwa kwentombazana ekwishumi elivisayo akufani noko komfazi omdala. Kwimeko yomfazi omncinci, kukho imingcipheko ethile ukuze ulawulo olukhulu kakhulu lwenziwe kuyo yonke inkqubo yokumitha. Idatha ibonisa ukuba kunyanzelekile ukulawula ukungavisisani okuninzi kunye neengxaki ezithile ekubelekeni njengakwimeko yomntwana wokuzalwa enesisindo esininzi kunesiqhelo.
Ukwazi ukuba unenkxaso yabazali bakho kwaye unoncedo lukagqirha ekuqinisekiseni ukuba usana luzalwa ngaphandle kwengxaki, kubalulekile ukuba umfazi osemncinci azole kwaye angonganyelwa yiyo yonke into. Ukuziva uwedwa akufani nokwazi ukuba unenkxaso yabazali bakho, ukufumana ukukhulelwa ukuba kuhambe kakuhle kwaye ngendlela efunekayo.
Sisiphi isimo sengqondo ekufuneka abazali babe naso
Ngokwesiqhelo, indlela abasabela ngayo abazali xa befumanisa ukuba intombi yabo ikhulelwe, ayinqweneleki. Ngokomgaqo, kukuphendula ngaphakathi kwesiqhelo, kodwa nokuba kubiza malini, kuya kufuneka wenze umgudu kwaye uxhase eli bhinqa liselula. Ukuziva uphoxekile kwaye usilele kuyakubakho ekuqaleni, kodwa ukusukela ngoku akukuhle ukushiya intombi yakho ecaleni.
Ukukhulelwa komntu ofikisayo akukho lula konke konke, ke ukuba nabazali kuya kuhlala kusiza. Unxibelelwano lubalulekile xa kuziwa ekuqinisekiseni ukuba umfazi osemncinci ukhulelwe njenge-placid kunye nokuzola ngangokunokwenzeka. Kungenxa yoko le nto isimo sengqondo sabazali kumnyhadala onjalo siqinisekile nokuba kuxabisa kakhulu.
Ngelishwa, unxibelelwano phakathi kwabazali nabantwana namhlanje lubi kakhulu kwaye phantse alubikho. Eli lixesha elininzi, esona sizathu siphambili sokuba uninzi lwabasetyhini abasetyhini bakhulelwe bengafuni. Unxibelelwano oluhle yenye yeendlela zokuthintela ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo. Kuyimfuneko ukuba uthethe ngendlela ecacileyo nabantwana malunga neentlobano zesini kunye nangeyona ndlela ikhuselekileyo yokubenza.
Ngamafutshane, ukukhulelwa nentombi ekwishumi elivisayo akusiso isidlo esithandekayo kuye nawuphi na umzali. Nangona kunjalo, nje ukuba isiganeko esinjalo senzeke, kubalulekile ukuba ujongane nentloko kunye nokuxhasa umfazi omncinci kangangoko.