Kutheni abantwana bam bengandithobeli

Xa abantwana bengathobeli

Sisikhalazo esikhulu sabazali abaninzi, emva kokunika onke amalungelo, ingqalelo kunye nemfundo kubantwana bakho, ngequbuliso Imvukelo ingena kubo kwaye abakuthobeli. Umlingani woku kukhanyelwa yimvakalelo yokuba umntwana Andisafuni ukuthobela imigaqo ukusuka ekhaya nokudelela kwakho kuqala apha.

Ingxaki kukuba nokuba ungayalela kangakanani ii-odolo kwaye umsindo kufuneka ufikelelwe, kuxa kuqatshelwe oko umntwana uphulukana negunya elipheleleyo awayenayo kubazali bakhe. Ngale ndlela, abazali abathobekileyo abanakubandakanyeka nako, kuba umntwana ngaphandle kwemithetho kwaye ngaphandle kwamandla uphela elahlekile kwaye ahlupheke kuba akayazi indlela oma ahambe ngayo.

Iziphumo zokuba kutheni abantwana bakho bengathobeli

Sisenzo esiqhelekileyo eneminyaka engama-2-3 ubudala, xa umntwana eqala ukubeka isimilo sakhe kwaye azame ukucela umngeni kwigunya labazali. Kusengqiqweni ukuba bayala ukwenza into xa kufuneka beyeke ukwenza enye abayifumene inomdla ngakumbi.

Kwenzeka into efanayo xa abazali beqala ukuthatha ulawulo olugqithisileyo, uhlala ujonga izibonelelo zabanye kwaye ubonise amandla abo, kanjalo. Okwangoku abantwana abavuzwa nangokuthobela nangoku ukujoyina ngokuchaseneyo nokuvukela.

Iingcali ezininzi zengqondo zibanga ukuba ukungathobeli kuqala kuba bezama fumana ingqalelo yabazali, nanjengoko behlala bengxoliswa kwaye benzelwa ukulinganisa ngendlela engeyiyo yokuba nembeko. Kwiimeko ezininzi abantwana abanako ukuthobela kuba baziva bengakhuselekanga, okanye kuba bafuna ukutsala umdla ngokuba nomona. Kule meko unobangela kunokuba kukuzalwa komntakwenu okanye ngenxa yokuba befuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabazali babo.

Xa abantwana bengathobeli

Abanye abazali basenokucinga ukuba eyona mfundo ibalaseleyo ibiyileyo yakudala. Igunya kunye imfundo eyathi yaphunyezwa yayicinezela, wakhutshwa umyalelo kwaye kwakufuneka uhlale kuyo ungajongi ngasemva. Kodwa kule mihla yokukhokela ayonelisi. Kwaye ke ukusukela kwiminyaka emi-6 ukubheka phambili amagama athi "kuba ndisitsho njalo" awanelanga. Kuya kufuneka uthethe ngokufutshane kwaye ubalise ukuba kutheni, ke izinto ziya kuba zizizathu ezingcono. Isaphulelo kunye nokudlulela "kuba benditshilo" kunokukhokelela kwiimpendulo ezifanayo emntwaneni xa efikisa.

Ngaba kukwindlela yokululeka umzali emntwaneni? Ewe, amaxesha amaninzi le nyani ihamba kunye, kuba kukho abazali ababeka imithetho emntwaneni akamdala noko ukwenza iinyani. Iziphumo ngu ukoyikeka unyana kunye notata okruqukileyo. Eyona nto ifanelekileyo kukuhamba inyathelo ngenyathelo kwaye ube nomonde, ke umntwana uyayisebenzisa imigaqo.

Ungayiguqula njani le ndlela yokuziphatha?

Xa engakuhoyi kwaye ungathetha naye, kuya kufuneka buza "kutheni engathobeli." Ingxoxo lelona nyathelo lilungileyo kwezi nkalo kwaye ngakumbi xa kufuneka kumiselwe umthetho oza kukhokelela kwingxoxo. Ngaloo ndlela umyalezo uya kwamkelwa ngcono. Kwakhona, ukuba yenziwe ngelizwi elizolileyo kwaye ngaphandle kokucinezela umzuzu, iodolo iya kwamkelwa ngcono.

Xa abantwana bengathobeli

Okwangoku andithobeli thatha ixesha lakho ukuze ndikwazi ukwenza kwaye hayi kwangoko. Umntwana unokuba nomsindo ngalo mzuzu kwaye angakuhoyi, kulindwe nje imizuzu embalwa ukuba athobele ngokuqinisekileyo. Kwaye ukuba ayenzi njalo, iodolo kufuneka ihanjiswe kwakhona kwaye ngaphandle kokukhwaza. Inokuphindwa ngelizwi elizolileyo kwaye Ukuxoxa ngesizathu sokuziphatha.


Ukuqukumbela, kufuneka siqwalasele umba obaluleke kakhulu, uthando. Ukuzithemba nabantwana bakho kwaye bayabona ukuba bayathandwa yeyona mithombo iphambili yayo yonke into yokuhamba ngokuvisisana. Kufuneka sihloniphe isikhundla sabo njengabantwana kwaye ubalathise ngesandla esomeleleyo, kodwa ngaphandle kwabo bebona ukuba ingqalelo ihlawulwe. Umntwana usoloko engxoliswa ndingavuzwa okanye ubukele xa esenza into elungileyo, ekugqibeleni ungumntwana ofunda kuyo isimilo esithile Akayithandi.


Yiba ngowokuqala ukuphawula

Shiya uluvo lwakho

Idilesi yakho ye email aziyi kupapashwa. ezidingekayo ziphawulwe *

*

*

  1. Uxanduva lwedatha: UMiguel Ángel Gatón
  2. Injongo yedatha: Ulawulo lwe-SPAM, ulawulo lwezimvo.
  3. Umthetho: Imvume yakho
  4. Unxibelelwano lwedatha: Idatha ayizukuhanjiswa kubantu besithathu ngaphandle koxanduva lomthetho.
  5. Ukugcinwa kweenkcukacha
  6. Amalungelo: Ngalo naliphi na ixesha unganciphisa, uphinde uphinde ucime ulwazi lwakho.