Kukho abantwana abaqala ububi bobusela kwaye ngokungazi abayiqondi into yokuba ekuhambeni kwexesha iba yimfuneko encinci. Ukuba ababanjwa okanye bohlwaywe emva kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo yiba ngumkhwa kwaye ayisosenzo esilungileyo eso. Umdlalo onjalo unokuba ngumnqweno kwaye emva koko klepomania. Kweli nqaku siza kuvavanya ukuba kutheni abantwana beba kubazali babo nendlela yokukuphepha.
Ngokubanzi lo mkhwa zihlala zenzeka kwinqanaba lokufikisa okanye xa umntwana eqala ukubanakho ukwazi ukuba yintoni impahla. Kuyinyani ukuba xa umntwana ebanjiwe ingqumbo yetyala kunye neentloni ziyavela, hayi kubo kuphela, kodwa nakwicala labazali.
Unobangela wokuba umntwana wakho ebe
Zininzi iindlela umntwana anokuba ngazo. Ngokubanzi beba izinto zexabiso ezizizo ezinxulumene nemali. Ukuba ayisiyo mali, banokusebenzisa iakhawunti okanye ikhadi ukuze bakwazi thenga i-whim ehambelana nemidlalo yevidiyo. Phantse zonke iintsapho zinamava esi senzo sikhulu okanye esincinci kwaye umbuzo ngowokuba kutheni besenza.
Abantwana besebancinci bangaba abazali babo. Nangona zihlala zingaqhelekanga iimeko, zinokubaluleka kwinto uqobo. Xa abantwana befikisa kwaye beba kubazali babo, imeko inokuba mbi ngakumbi, ukusukela banolunye uhlobo lokuqonda.
Umntwana okanye umntwana ofikisayo unokuba nayo isilingo sokweba izinto ezifanayo kunabanye abantwana, nkqu nabantakwabo. Ngale ndlela akukho mfuneko yokuba bacele nantoni na kubazali babo nakubo obu buchule ukudala impumelelo kunye nokuzimela ngakumbi.
Ezininzi aba bantwana bayaba kwaye ziphela bebonisa ubukroti babo phambi kwabahlobo okanye ukukwazi ukunika abahlobo bakho okanye izalamane zakho izipho. Ngale ndlela bayangqina kubo ukuba boyisile iinjongo zabo, ngaphandle kokuthatha umngcipheko.
Bayasilela ukuvavanya ubume bemekonjengoko banokuziva ukuzingca nokungabikho kovelwano ngeso senzo. Umntwana ngamnye lihlabathi elahlukileyo kwaye sinokuqonda ukuba mhlawumbi bayakwenza oko kuba akukho mfuneko yokuba baxhomekeke kuye nabani na ukuba afune into ebonakalayo. Okanye mhlawumbi bathathe indawo yokungabikho kothando ekhaya kwaye bayibonelela ngento ethile, Kungenxa yoko le nto imeko nganye kufuneka ihlalutywe kunye nesisombululo.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa umntwana wakho ebe?
Ngezihlandlo ezininzi, njengomgaqo jikelele, umntwana uhlala ekhanyela isenzo sakhe. Ukuba kokokuqala umbamba esiba, mhlawumbi uziva ungalunganga kwaye ungcatshiwe, ke unethemba lokuba le meko ingexesha elifanelekileyo. Ingxaki kuxa le mpatho mbi izibonakalisa kumaxesha amaninzi kwaye ayipheli.
Yintoni ekufuneka uyenze Ukrokrela nini ukuba unyana wakho ubile? Iya kuba ngumzuzu wokuzibophelela okukhulu kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuyikhanyela kwaye asenze sithandabuze ukuba ubusela. Awufuni ukohlwaya naye, ukuba nje senza impazamo kwaye inyani ayizukubakho.
Ukukwazi ukumisela uhlobo oluthile lokohlwaya kungcono yibambe ngalo mzuzu, xa uyenza, okanye ubuncinci uqinisekile ukuba uyenzile. Asinakugweba kwinto ethile ngaphandle kokufumana ukhuseleko yenzekile nyani. Kungcono ukuba kwixesha elizayo sibe nesipaji sethu ngokukhuselekileyo okanye ukuba sifuna ukuqinisekisa ngento eyenzekileyo singabeka umgibe omncinci.
Nangona kunjalo, le ndlela yokuziphatha kufuneka ilungisiwe ukuze ayazi loo nto Akunyanzelekanga ukuba iphinde yenzeke Akunakuze. Kuphephe ukufundisa okanye ukuthukisa ngokumbiza ngesela, okanye uqikelele ukuba oku kuyakwenzeka kwakhona. Okokuqala, Nika ivoti yakho yokuzithemba, Menze azive ukuba uqinisekile ukuba ayizuphinda yenzeke, ke uya kuziva ukuba akangomntu mbi kwaye uyinxalenye yosapho olukhulu. Ukuba umntwana uphinda-phinda umthetho kwaye unyanzelekile ukuba, kuya kufuneka thumela ityala kugqirha wezifo zengqondo okanye ugqirha wengqondo yabantwana okanye abakwishumi elivisayo. Kuyimfuneko ukuvavanya ukuba zeziphi izizathu ezinyanzela ukuba enze esi senzo.