Ngamanye amaxesha ukujongana nomsindo wabantwana kunzima. Kwaye akukho mntu usixelelayo ukuba sifundisa njani abantwana bethu, senza konke okusemandleni ethu. Kodwa kumaxesha amaninzi asazi ukuba masenze ntoni kwimeko kwaye sijongana njani nengxabano nabantwana bethu. Masiqale ngezona zilula, zeziphi iimpazamo ezisisiseko esingafanele kuzenza.
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Njengomama sibafunela konke okuhle abantwana bethu. Kumashumi eminyaka akutshanje imodeli yosapho itshintshile, ngaphandle kwengxaki esityala imali eninzi kwimfundo yabantwana bethu kunangaphambili. Uninzi loomama nootata bacinga ukuba okukhona abantwana bephakama ngemfundo, kokukhona benyuka amanqanaba entlalo.
Kwaye kukuba sidlala indima ebalulekileyo kubuchule, amaxabiso kunye nobuchule abanabo abantwana bethu, yiyo loo nto sizikhathaza kakhulu kwaye sivelisa ukunganqabiseki kunye nokukhathazeka. Kodwa, Ngaba awucingi ukuba kufuneka bafunde ngokwabo ukwenza iimpazamo kunye nokulungisa?
Icala elilungileyo labantwana abenza iimpazamo
Iingcali kwezengqondo nakwindlela yokufundisa zichaza ukuba ukuba oomama nootata siyaziguqula izinto esizilindeleyo kubantwana bethu, oku kuya kusinceda siphephe iimeko zoxinzelelo kunye nokukhathazeka, kokubini kubazali nasebantwaneni. Makhe ndichaze, ukuba endaweni yokucinga ukwenza yonke into ngokufanelekileyo, singacinga ukuyenza ngokungalunganga, kwaye siziphephe ezo mpazamo zinokubangela umonakalo omkhulu kwaye zibe yingozi ekufundiseni abantwana bethu. Kulungile ukuba bayazenza iimpazamo kuba:
- Kufuneka benjenjalo funda ukuziqonda iimpazamo zakho. Kuba ungamlumkisa kodwa akukho nto inje ngamava akho yokwazi ukuba ungazichonga njani xa wenze impazamo.
- Bayakulwazi unxunguphalo. Unokucinga ukuba kuyaphambana kodwa ngokudideka kunje sifunda ukulawula iimvakalelo zethu.
- Baya kufunda ukufumana izisombululo. Inyani yokubona ukuba bayenzile kanjani ayisebenzi ayizukubakhuthaza ukuba bafune ezinye iindlela. Iya kuba ngabantu abathatha isigqibo. Ngelixa ukuba "uyamsindisa" ekwenzeni iimpazamo, baya kuhlala nomntu oza kuhlala esiza ukusombulula iingxaki. Okwangoku zincinci kwaye zinokubonakala kufanelekile kuwe, ingxaki kukuba abantwana bakho ngenye imini baya kuba ngabantu abadala kwaye kuya kufuneka bafumane ezabo izisombululo kwaye abazi ukuba benze njani kuba khange basibone isidingo sokwenza yiyo.
- Baza kuziva bethandwa ngakumbi. Ewe, kungamangalisa njengoko kunokuba ngathi kuwe, ukubenza bafumane indlela yabo kwaye ingeyiyo eyokumakisha iya kubenza bakubone njengenkxaso kwaye baya kuziva bethandwa.
Inqaku lokugqibela libalulekile. Kuya kufuneka ubakhokele, inkxaso yabo, hayi oyena ubenzela izigqibo. Kwaye nokuba uyabona okanye ucinga ukuba bazakwenza impazamo, sukubagxeka, qhubeka ubanike inkxaso, fumana ukuthembela kwabo ... Kungenxa yokuba kumhla kwenzeka into embi kubo, baya kukuthemba ngokupheleleyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba uyithandile le post.