Iminyaka yokuqala yobomi bakhe nawuphi na umntwana, iphawulwa bubukho bootitshala babo. Kuba umsebenzi wabo kuphela de babe badala kufuneka bafunde kwaye balungiselele ukuba ngabantu abadala abazilungiselele kakuhle. Impembelelo katitshala inokuchaphazela ubomi bomntwana wakhoKe ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana ayazi indlela yokuyihlonipha nokuyixabisa yonke into ayenzelwa ngutitshala wakhe.
Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba imbeko kuye nakubani na ibethelelwe ekhaya, ngakumbi ootitshala abashiya ulusu lwabo yonke imihla ngenxa fundisa kwaye uqeqeshe abo baya kuba ziinkokheli zangomso. Intlonipho efanayo ekufuneka abantwana beyibonisile yile bayifanele ukuyifumana kubazali babo. Oko kukuthi, awungekhe ufundise imbeko ukuba kamva ekhaya ufumanisa ukuba abantu abadala ekubhekiswa kubo, abazali bakho, bayamgxeka utitshala wakho.
Namhlanje lusuku loTitshala lwaMazwe ngaMazwe, Ithuba eligqibeleleyo lokuxabisa lo msebenzi (amaxesha amaninzi ujongelwe phantsi) kwaye ufundise abantwana ukuhlonipha abo bantu banegalelo elikhulu kulwazi lwabo nasekukhuleni kwabo.
Kutheni le nto ungafanele ugxeke utitshala womntwana wakho
Okanye ubuncinci ungayenzi phambi komncinci. Ngokuqinisekileyo awuvumelani noluvo lwabo kwizihlandlo ezininzi, into esengqiqweni ukusukela oko utitshala unelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo. Kodwa, endaweni yokungavumelani nokumngcolisa loo mntu phambi kwabantwana bakho, zama ukuvelana naloo mntu. Utitshala womntwana wakho ukongeza kunabanye abantwana abaninzi, abantwana abanesidima nabenza ubuntu babo.
Aba bantwana bachitha iiyure ezininzi ngosuku esikolweni kwaye umntu onoxanduva lokufunda ngelo xesha, ngutitshala wakho. Ngendlela efanayo yokuba wena, njengomama okanye utata, wenza iimpazamo, into esengqiqweni kukuba utitshala wenza ngokuchasene neyakho ngezihlandlo ezithile. Kodwa akukho meko kufuneka ubonise ukungamkelwa phambi komntwana, kuba uya kulonakalisa kakhulu ubudlelwane ekufuneka ebuqinisile notitshala wakhe, ukuthembana nentlonipho.
Ukuba awumhloniphi utitshala womntwana wakho, ukuba uyamgxeka phambi komntwana, ukuba ubonakalisa isimo sengqondo esithile sokuba ndlongondlongo kuloo mntu, myalezo mni oya kufunyanwa ngumntwana wakho? Eso sisimo sengqondo anokusibonisa ngokwakhe.
Ixabiso lemfundo nentlonipho
Lo ngumsebenzi ekufuneka wenziwe ekhaya, kuba ubalulekile fundisa abantwana ngeendlela zokuziphatha njengenhlonipho ngokubhekisele kwabanye abantu, imfundo okanye uvelwano. Utitshala ngumntu wokuqala onegunya elithile kubantwana, ngaphandle kwekhaya. Ukuba abantwana abafundanga ukulihlonipha elo nani, baya kukhula benentsilelo ebaluleke kakhulu ekuya kufuneka basebenze kuyo kwikamva labo, kuba abayi kuba nakho ukuhlonipha amanye amanani olawulo anje ngomphathi emsebenzini. , umzekelo.
Nditsho nawe njengomama okanye utata, okoko, xa abantwana bephulukana nembeko kubantu abadala okanye kwabasemagunyeni Ngubani okuqinisekisa ukuba unyana wakho akasayi kuphulukana nentlonipho yakho naye kwixesha elizayo?
Intlonipho ayifani noloyiko
Ngokufanayo, kubalulekile Krwela umgca phakathi kwembeko noloyiko. Ukuhlonipha umntu omdala, umntu onegunya, nokuba ngumzali, ilungu losapho elongameleyo okanye utitshala wakho, umzekelo, akufuneki athethe ukuba uyoyika loo mntu. Ke ngoko, sukufaka uloyiko ebantwaneni, musa ukupeyinta utitshala wabo njenge-ogre oza kumohlwaya ukuba akaziphathi kakuhle.
Utitshala wakhe unoxanduva lokumfundisa izinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo kwikamva lakhe, kodwa akanalo uxanduva lokufundisa umntwana. Lo msebenzi ubaluleke kakhulu kubazali, kwaye ukuba uwenza kakuhle umsebenzi wakho, umntwana wakho uya kuba nakho hlonipha utitshala wakho kakhulu, kunye nomntu omdala okhathalelwe nguwe ngamanye amaxesha, kunye nalo naliphi na inani elibalulekileyo ebomini bakho.