Abazali banomkhuba ombi kakhulu ebantwaneni babo kwaye asiyonto yimbi kukuxoka. Nangona bembalwa abazali abathi ekugqibeleni bakuvume oko, inyaniso ikukuba kukho ubuxoki obuxhaphake kakhulu kwimekobume yentsapho obunjengokuthi “ukuba akulalanga kwangethuba, iya kukufikela ikhokhonathi” okanye “ukuba awulalanga.” Ukutya yonke into, awuyi kuhamba." yiba mkhulu okanye womelele. Ukuxoka akulunganga kwaphela, singasathethi ke ebantwaneni bakho. Nangona banokubonakala ubuxoki obuncinci ngaphandle kokubaluleka kwayo nayiphi na into, inyaniso kukuba iingcali ngalo mbandela zicinga ngokwahlukileyo.
Ukuxoka kubantwana kunokubangela iingxaki ezinzulu ekukhuleni kwabantwana, ngakumbi kwinqanaba leemvakalelo nakwintlalo. Okulandelayo sikuchazela ukuba kutheni ungaze uxoke ebantwaneni bakho.
Ubuxoki babazali abadumileyo
Abazali bayazithethelela xa kuziwa ekuxokeni kunye negama elidumileyo elithi "ubuxoki obuncinci." Noko ke, ufanele wazi ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba obu buxoki buncinane kangakanani na, bunokuchaphazela kakubi ukukhula komntwana. Olu hlobo lokuziphatha kwabazali lunxibelelene nokuthuthuzeleka kwabo kungekhona kwingenelo yabantwana babo. Ngobuxoki obuthile, wathiAbantu abadala bayakuphepha ukuthetha nabantwana babo ngemibandela enzima efana nesini okanye ukufa. Kungcono ukuxoka kunokuba ujongane nenyani kwaye ucacise le miba ngokucacileyo ebantwaneni.
Ubuxoki buchaphazela abantwana
Njengoko iingcali sele zigqabaza, ukuba nomkhwa wokuxoka ebantwaneni kunokuba nemiphumo emibi ekukhuleni komntwana. Ukuba uqamba amanga kumntwana, umntwana uya kuyibona njengento eqhelekileyo kwaye uya kuqala ukuxoka. Umntwana ofumana imfundo esekelwe kubuxoki uya kuba ngozingcayo aze abe nobuqili.
Ukungabathembi abazali ngomnye umphumo wokuxoka ekubeni abantwana bephela beyifumene inyaniso baze bayeke ukubathemba abazali babo xa bebaxelela imibandela eyahlukahlukeneyo, enoba iphathelele ubomi babo okanye izifundo zabo. Ukwenza oku, bakhetha ukufuna iingcebiso neempendulo kubahlobo babo okanye kwabo basondeleyo kubo.
Chaza inyani
Xa uthetha inyaniso, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela iminyaka yomntwana. Abazali kufuneka bacace ngamaxesha onke kwaye bangasebenzisi naluphi na uhlobo lokuphepha. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube novalo nangaliphi na ixesha kwaye uphendule yonke into ebuzwa ngulo mncinci.
Ukuba uthetha inyani ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye uyabuphepha ubuxoki, umntwana wakho uya kukuthemba ngokupheleleyo yaye akuyi kufuneka aye nakubani na ukuze amxelele inyaniso. Kukho imixholo ethile ekufuneka ixutyushwe kwiminyaka ethile naxa umntwana ekhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba ayiqonde.
Ukuba basebancinane kakhulu, abayazi indlela yokwahlula ubuxoki kwiinyaniso.. Njengoko bekhula, baqalisa ukuqonda ukuba abazali babo bathetha inyaniso okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, bayaxoka. Kule minyaka kuxa kufuneka ulumke kakhulu kuba xa uthe wamxokisa, angakuxokisa kwixesha elizayo aze awele kuthungelwano lobuxoki obunokwenza umonakalo omkhulu kusapho ngokubanzi.
Ukuqukumbela, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ungaze uxoke kumntwana wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba buncinci kangakanani ubuxoki. Ufanele usoloko ubaxelela inyaniso, kwanokuba maxa wambi umxholo oza kuxutyushwa unokuba neentloni uze ube neentloni. Kubalulekile ukuba novelwano kangangoko unako ngomntwana kwaye uzive indlela aziva ngayo xa efumanisa ukuba usenokuba wamxokisa. Ukukhohlisa akukho nto ilungileyo kwaye yenza izinto zibe nzima kuphela. Akukho nto ilunge ngaphezu kokufundisa abantwana ngenyaniso nangeyona ngcaciso icacileyo, makungaze nakanye kubekho ubuxoki obunokonakalisa ulwalamano olukhoyo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana babo.