Ngelishwa, ayikokokuqala ndibona abazali bajonge iselfowuni ngokungathi ubomi bukhona kuyo ngelixa abantwana babo bethetha. Kukho abantu abadala abangabahoyiyo abantwana kwaye abakwazi nokususa amehlo abo kwiscreen ukujonga abantwana babo. Ngale ndlela, ukumamela ngokukuko akwenzeki (endiza kuchaza kamva) kwaye abantwana banokuziva bengamkelwa.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba abantwana bakho banezinto ezininzi abanokukuxelela zona. Kwaye, nangona ezinye zazo zingabalulekanga kangako, ziyakuvuyela ukubaxelela kwaye uyabazi. Kodwa, masicinge umzuzwana ukuba kukho abantwana abasokolayo ukuxhatshazwa ngoogxa bakho eklasini okanye ukuba utitshala ubathobele (ukuba nantoni na ingenzeka). Baza kukuxelela njani ukuba awumameli kakuhle?
Ukuphulaphula abantwana bakho akuthethi ukunqwala intloko
Xa ndihamba nenja yam kwiipaki, ndiye ndiphawule indlela abanye abazali abaziphatha ngayo nabantwana babo. Kukho abantwana abathi, xa befuna ukubaxelela into, babaleke baye kubo bathethe nabo. Ngelo xesha, kukho abazali abanqwala iintloko ngaphandle kokukhupha amehlo abo encwadini okanye kwiselfowuni. Kungenxa yoko le nto ndisitsho ngentloko kaninzi ayithethi, kude nayo, ukuba iphulaphulwe ngenkuthalo.
Ukuba uza kubamamela abantwana bakho, kufuneka ubanike ingqalelo epheleleyo
Ngokumamela ngokubonakalayo unokubenza abantwana bakho bazive bethandwa kakhulu. Bayabona ukuba bayaqondakala, kwaye baxabisiwe kwaye banikwa lonke uhoyo abalifunayo ngalamzuzu, baya konwaba kwaye bangoyiki ukukuxelela nantoni na. Ke ngoko, xa abantwana befuna ukuthetha nawe, kungcono ukuba uzikhwebule kuyo yonke into enokukuphazamisa kwincoko kwaye ujonge kubo.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha ngexesha elithile, baxelele ngendlela elungileyo
Ndiyakuqonda ukuba awunalo lonke ixesha emhlabeni kwaye ngomzuzwana othile uxakekile. Xa abantwana bakho beza kuwe bezokuthetha ngesihloko kwaye awukwazi, musa ukuba nomsindo. Kwaye musa ukubangxolisa nabo (Ndibone abazali abambalwa besenza oko). Kungcono ukuvuka okwemizuzu embalwa kwaye ubaxelele ngendlela eqinisekisayo ukuba uza kuba uxakekile okwethutyana kwaye emva koko uya kubanika ingqwalaselo yabo yonke.
Khawufane ucinge nje ukuba ningabantwana. ¿Ungaziva njani xa uyokukhangela abazali bakho bakungxolise bakucaphukele? Ndicinga ukuba ayilunganga. Ke ngoko, kuya kufuneka ube novelwano kwaye uzame ukubaqonda nabo. Abantwana bakho baya kuziva bhetele ukuba uyabacacisela kwaye ubazise.
Kuya kufuneka unikele ingqalelo kulwimi olungathethiyo
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima kuwe ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Kwenzeka into efanayo nakubantwana bakho. Ukuba baye baziphatha gwenxa esikolweni, kuya kuba nzima kubo ukukuxelela kuba usoyika isohlwayo esinokwenzeka. Mhlawumbi xa bethetha nawe abakuxeleli ngqo ukuba baziphethe kakubi embindini. Ndikucebisa ukuba uhoye ulwimi lwabo olungathethi. Banokujonga kude xa bethetha, behamba kakhulu, bencumile ngenxa yokuba befihla into ethile ...
Kwiimeko zokuxhaphaza, abantwana banokuba nelizwi elibuhlungu okanye elibuhlungu lelizwi. Namaxesha abo okuma komzimba xa bebuzwa ukuba babe njani esikolweni. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba zonke izivamvo zakho zikubantwana bakho. Mhlawumbi abaxeleli into kwaye into enzulu yenzekile kubo embindini.
Bayeke bagqibe ukuthetha ungabaphazamisi
Abanye abazali, xa abantwana babo bebaxelela okuthile, musa ukubavumela bagqibe. Babuza imibuzo emininzi phakathi kwaye bahlala bephazamiseka. Kucacile ukuba le ayisiyondlela ifanelekileyo yokunxibelelana naye nabani na. Kungcono usoloko ubavumela bagqibe ukuthetha (uninzi lwabantwana ludinga ixesha lokuqokelela izimvo neengcinga zabo) kwaye unomdla kwinto abayithethileyo bakugqiba ukuthetha.
Yaye khumbula ukuba ukuphulaphula ngenyameko kufuna unxibelelwano oluhle nabantwana bakho
Zama ukungabavumeli abantwana bakho bakubuze: "Kodwa uyandimamela?" Ukumamela ngokukuko kuthanda unxibelelwano oluhle kunye nobudlelwane nabantwana. Khumbula ukuba ukujonga abantwana bakho kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokunika ingqalelo kwiiwebhsayithi zokunxibelelana kwaye baya kuziva besondele kuwe xa ubanika ingqalelo efunekayo. Kwaye ukuba awukwazi, njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili, thetha nabo ngendlela yendalo kwaye ucothe. Ndiqinisekile ukuba baya kuqonda.
Ngaba uyabaphulaphula ngenyameko abantwana bakho?
Iposi elimangalisayo! Kwaye unyanisile, Mel! Amantombazana namakhwenkwe afuna ixesha elininzi kunye nokuzinikezela, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha okuncinci esinako kuyalahleka kwizenzo ezingabalulekanga.
Ndihlala ndithetha ngale nto kunye nabo bazimasa iintetho zam, kwaye ndibaxelela ukuba oomama nootata banomkhwa wokubuza abantwana kwimiba enomdla kuthi, kodwa asihlali sikulungele ukumamela into ekufuneka bayithethile.
Kufuna umzamo omncinci kwaye ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ukumamela kukwahambisa umdla kunye nothando.
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