Ukuba abantwana banokufikelela ngokulula kumabonwakude okanye kumaphephandaba nakweyiphi na yeefomathi zayo kunokuba yinto embi. Ngokukodwa kuba abantwana, abachukumiseka ngokulula, banokubona amakhwenkwe namantombazana amantombazana amancinci kakhulu aqeqeshwe kancinci, aduma. Oku ngokungathandabuzekiyo kubakhokelela ekubeni bacinge ukuba ukuduma yindlela elula yokufumana imali.
Nangona kunjalo, kuninzi lwamatyala Yindumasi, yexeshana kwaye ayidumanga kakhulu. Ukusukela namhlanje, inkcazo yomntu odumileyo iguqulwe ngokumangalisayo. Kubantwana banamhlanje, abantu abadumileyo banjalo itubers, I-Instagrammers okanye abachaphazeli, abantu abancinci abathi ngandlela thile bafumane izigidi zabantwana ukuba balandele iingcebiso okanye iingcebiso zabo.
Ungayenza njani ukuba unyana wakho uthi kuwe: Mama, ndifuna ukuduma?
Amaxesha amaninzi abazali banika ukubaluleka kakhulu kwimicimbi ethile, into eqhelekileyo kodwa enokukhokelela ekubeni wenze ngendlela engalunganga. Okokuqala, ukuba umntwana wakho ukuxelele ngequbuliso ukuba ufuna ukuduma, kuya kufuneka ufumanise yintoni intsingiselo enikwa ngumncinci kwigama elidumileyo. Oko kukuthi, mhlawumbi kumntwana wakho umdlali webhola kubalulekile ukuba adume, kunokuba abe yimbaleki ebalaseleyo.
Ke ngaphambi kokuba ukhwaze ujike loo mnqweno ube ngumlo, ncokola nomntwana wakho. Mbuze ngokuphandle ukuba ucinga ntoni, ukuba adume. Kuba mhlawumbi umbono wakho welo gama awulunganga kwaye xa uyayazi inyani uphulukana nomdla.
Namhlanje ilizwe "lodumo" lahluke kakhulu kwinto ebeyiyo kumashumi ambalwa eminyaka eyadlulayo. Ngelo xesha, abadumileyo yayingabazobi, iimbaleki, abadlali kunye nabadlali kunye nabanye. Nangona kunjalo, namhlanje ebantwaneni, nabani na onefuthe elithile kwinethiwekhi yoluntu unokuba sisalathiso sento edumileyo. Kwaye, nangona inokuba ulungile ngokuyinxenye, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakho awuqonde kakuhle umxholo wokuba ngumntu odumileyo.
Fumanisa umdla womntwana wakho
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba njengomama okanye utata, ukhathazeke ngokwazi umdla womntwana wakho. Ukuze ukwazi ukumnceda kwaye umkhokelele kweyona ndlela intle, oko akuthethi ukuba yeyakho. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakalisa umdla kwilizwe lobugcisa, mhlawumbi unawo amandla kwaye unokumnceda ubugcisa bakhe. Ngaphandle kwale ntsingiselo yokufuna udumo ngazo zonke iindleko, kuba oko ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba yeyona ndlela iphosakeleyo.
Ngubani owaziyo ukuba ngenye imini umntwana wakho uyakuduma ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okuhle, ngenxa yokufumanisa kwakhe, ngegalelo lakhe kwinzululwazi, kubugcisa bemidlalo okanye kwezemidlalo? Kungenzeka ukuba ibe ngumlinganiso kwixesha elizayo, kodwa ukuba iyaphumelela, isenokuba ngendleko zokufaneleka, iinzame zakho zokwenza uphawu kulo mhlaba. Ukufezekisa oku, musa ukulibala ukucacisa ukuba yintoni ixabiso lodumo.
Ixabiso lodumo
Ngendlela efanelekileyo yeminyaka, ngokuqonda kunye novelwano oluninzi, chaza ukuba uninzi lwala makhwenkwe sele edumile, ngomso baya kuyeka ukubakho kwaye banokuzifumana bengasebenzi, ngaphandle kobugcisa, kwaye ngekamva elinzima kakhulu. Ngesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nantoni na abafuna ukuyenza, ukuba baqeqeshe, bazilungiselele kwaye bafumane zonke izixhobo ezinokubakho ukuze babenakho ukusebenzisa izakhono zabo.
Kuba uqeqesho lusisiseko sendaleko, ngaphandle kwale ntsingiselo yokuba nokuba nekhondo lomsebenzi okanye izifundo ezithile kuya kuba sisitshixo sempumelelo. Impumelelo ifezekiswa ngomzamo, ukusebenza, umzabalazo, kwaye mhlawumbi umntwana wakho ukulungele ukunika konke oko ukufezekisa injongo yakhe. Ayonto imbi leyo, ungazami ukumphambukisa kuloo ndlela kuba ngapha koko, ukuba unyana wakho uneengcinga ezicace gca, kungcono ukuba umncede. Ukuba usecaleni lakhe ukuze umkhuthaze kwaye ukuba kukho imfuneko, mnike igxalaba lakho ukuze afumane intuthuzelo.