Xa ubamamela ngentliziyo abantwana bakho, uyakuyazi into oyifunayo ngalo mzuzu kwaye ngale ndlela, uya kuba nakho ukwazi ukuba uphendule njani ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo. Umntwana wakho kufuneka afunde ukummamela ngokusuka entliziyweni, ngaphandle kwexabiso lokugweba kwaye ngaphandle kweemvakalelo ezigqwetha iimvakalelo zabo okanye kwenzeka ntoni kubo.
Ukuba ngumzali kunokuba luhambo olunzima oluhlala ixesha elide. Unokuba ukhulisa abantwana bakho neqabane lakho okanye unokuzifumana ulilolo lokuba ngumzali. Ngolunye uhlobo, Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho azi ukuba uyintsika yakhe ebaluleke kakhulu kodwa unazo nezinye iintsika anokuthembela kuzo, ezinje ngootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu, ootitshala okanye abanonopheli.
Wonke umntu kubomi bomntwana udlala indima echaphazela ukukhula kwabo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Kodwa xa sele uyithethile loo nto, kuyimfuneko ukugxininisa ukuba akukho nxu lumano olunzulu kunolo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana. Xa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nabantwana buqinisiwe, ke ayizukubaluleka ukuba kukho amahla ndenyuka ngokweemvakalelo, umntwana wakho uyakukuthemba nayo yonke into onokuyithetha kuye.
Ukuba ngumzali
Kuluntu lwaseNtshona siyazi ukuba ingqondo yethu yasekunene iyasidibanisa nobuchule bokuyila, ukuzenzekelayo kunye nokucinga… izithako ezibalulekileyo zokukhulisa abantwana. Elona candelo lethu lobuchopho linemvakalelo kwaye linomdla kufuneka liphuhliswe ngabo bonke abazali emhlabeni ukuze sikwazi ukumamela abantwana ngokusuka entliziyweni ngalo lonke ixesha bethetha nathi okanye besixelela izinto.
Ewe kukho izikhokelo ezisisiseko zokuba ngumzali, njengokuqinisekisa ukuba iimfuno zabo zokuphila ziyafezekiswa., bagcine ngaphandle kwengozi kwaye ubanike uthando oluninzi nothando yonke imihla yobomi babo. Emva koko kukho umsebenzi wokukhokela abantwana kunye nolutsha ngendlela efanelekileyo kuye, kuthathelwa ingqalelo iingcinga zabo kunye nomdla wabo.
Inyani yile, umntwana wakho unokufuna into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye kulapho ke ukuba ngumzali osebenzayo kuqala. Xa oku kusenzeka, kuya kufuneka ubenesimo sengqondo esivulekileyo kunye nokuzimisela ukumamela ngokusuka entliziyweni. Xa umamela ngentliziyo yakho, abantwana bakho baya kwazi ukuba ubakhathalele ngokwenyani kwiimvakalelo zabo kwaye uya kwenza konke okusemandleni akho ukubaphendula ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo. Oku kuya kubonelela ngokhuseleko kunye nentuthuzelo yeemvakalelo ebantwaneni, izinto ezibalulekileyo ekukhuleni kwabo ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukukhuthaza intuition ekukhuliseni
Intuition ayisiyonto inyuselwa ngokubanzi kwiinkcubeko zaseNtshona kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza njalo. Ithuku lemvelo kunye nolwazi lwangaphakathi luyinxalenye yesipho sobuntu kwaye kubalulekile ukusimamela. Sonke sinako ukuvelana nomnye, kufuneka sikubeke nje ekusebenzeni nabantu esibathandayo kwaye bangakuthi.
Njengomzali, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhe wayifumana imeko apho ubusazi ngandlela thile kwaye ungathandabuzi ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ntoni okanye akayifuni ngantoni. Le yimvakalelo enamandla engenakuchazwa ngamagama, iyenzeka nje.
Mhlawumbi ngamanye amaxesha kuye kwenzeka kuwe ukuba ucinge kwimizuzu embalwa ngaphambili malunga nomntu kwaye kamva uya kukufowunela ngomnxeba. okanye uyayazi indlela yokuthetha into ngaphambi kokuba omnye umntu agqibe isivakalisi. Ezi meko zinokuthi okanye zingangqinelani, kodwa ukuba ziyalinywa kwaye ziyasetyenzwa, ziya kukuvumela ukuba ube ne-intuition eyongezelelweyo kunye nesakhono esingaqhelekanga sokunxibelelana ngcono nabantu, kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, nabantwana bakho.
Ukwaziswa ngokuba kumzuzu wangoku kuvelisa ulwazelelo lwangaphakathi kunye nokwandisa intu kuwe nakwabanye. Xa uziqhelisa ukumamela isazela sakho uya kufunda ukusithemba kwaye uza kuba nakho ukuthembela kubuchule bakho kwaye usebenzise oluvelwano kunye ne-intuition ukukunceda. Intuition iluncedo kuzo zonke iimeko kwaye ngakumbi kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo.
Intuition kunye nokunxibelelana nathi kunye nabanye
Kubalulekile ukuzazi thina kunye nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngaphambi kokuvula iintliziyo zethu kubantwana bethu. Ukuba uziva ungalunganga, ukuba ulusizi okanye unxunguphele okanye ukuba unamabala emphefumlweni wakho ongakushiyi wedwa, kunokwenzeka ukuba kuya kukubiza imali eninzi ukuze ukwazi ukusondela kubantwana bakho ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuze ukwazi ukumamela ngokusuka entliziyweni, inyathelo lokuqala kukuba ube nentliziyo ecocekileyo kwaye uzive wonwabile ngawe kunye nehlabathi elikungqongileyo.
Kuyimfuneko kakhulu ukunxibelelana neziqu zethu ukuze sikwazi ukunxibelelana nabantwana bethu. Abantwana kufuneka bazive besondele, bazive bekhululekile kwaye bayazi ukuba siyabahlonipha kwaye siyabathanda ngenxa yento abayiyo nokuba bacinga ntoni ... Kuba into abacinga ukuba iya kuba yimbeko yethu enkulu, ngaphandle kokugweba kwaye ngaphandle kokuzama ukutshintsha iingcinga kwabanye esibajonga 'ngcono'.
Xa uvula ingqondo yakho nentliziyo yakho kubantwana bakho uya kuba uvula ilizwe elinamathuba amaninzi ngaphakathi kuwe, uyakube umema abantwana bakho ukuba bathande, bavumelane, baxolelane, babe novelwano kwaye badlale indima ebaluleke kakhulu ubomi.
KunjaloNjengotata nomama, ulilizwi ekufuneka likhokele abantwana bakho, kodwa hayi ngobomi bakho okanye ngeengxaki zakho zangaphambili ... Kuya kufuneka ubakhokele abantwana bakho ngokusekwe kwimbeko, ukuba ngumzali oqinisekileyo, ngokusekwe kuthando olunzulu oziva ngalo nakubo. Obu bubuhle bokwenene bokukhumbula ukuba ngumzali: ungafunda kwaye uhlengahlengise ukufunda kwakho njengomzali kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi ukuze kuzuze ukukhula kwabantwana bakho ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.
Xa uziva ukuba unebhalansi ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho, uya kuba nobomi obulunge ngakumbi. Ukwazisa okuya kukuvumela ukuba ulungelelanise impilo yakho yomzimba kunye nempilo yakho yeemvakalelo, ulwazi oluya kunika ukuhambelana nezenzo zakho kunye neengcinga.