Izinto azithandayo kumakhwenkwe namantombazana zi rhoqo (nakwabantu abadala makhe sicace). Umbuzo ngowokuba xa ezi manias zithe phithi kwaye zingavumeli inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ukuba iphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo bemihla ngemihla, yile nto siyibiza ngokuba Iziphazamiso zokuQwalasela okuQwalaselayo. Kodwa ngaphandle kokuya kude, kusenokubakho i-manias, i-tics, kunye nokuthanda Sikuxelela umahluko phakathi kwabo.
Sikunika umbono oqinisekileyo ngakumbi we-manias, lo gama nje bengazibandakanyi, oko kukuthi Ziyimfuneko kwinkqubo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo yomntwana. Uya kufumanisa kwakhona ukuba zeziphi ezona zixhaphakileyo.
Umahluko phakathi kwe-manias, i-tics kunye ne-obsessions
La I-Mania sisenzo sokuzithandela kunye nendalo engekho zingqondweni. Umzekelo, ukuziluma iinzipho, okanye ukuzonwaya intloko xa usoyika. I-manias ikhonza umntwana ukulawula iziganeko zangaphandle ezibangela ukungahambi kakuhle. Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ziyaphumla njengoko umntwana ekhula. Abantwana bafumana ukuzithemba ngakumbi kwaye banyamezele ngakumbi, kodwa okwahlukileyo kunokwenzeka, oko kukuthi, bomelela. Kule meko baba nemincili.
Los I-tics ziintshukumo eziphindaphindayo, ii-motor okanye izandi ze-tic, amazwi okanye izandi, ngokukhawuleza nangokuzenzekelayo. Eyona nto ixhaphakileyo i-motor tics izibonakalisa ngokuqhwanyaza, ukuguqula intamo, kunye nokunyusa amagxa. Umntwana akanakuzilawula. Ukuya kuthi ga kwi-25% yabantwana abakwiminyaka yesikolo banama-tics ubuncinane ixesha elifutshane, elihlala phakathi kwenyanga kunye nonyaka.
Sichaza Ukukhathazeka njengengcamango ephindaphindiweyo, ephazamisayo, engathandekiyo okanye engafunekiyo, ezivela ngokuphindaphindiweyo nangokungalawulekiyo engqondweni yomntwana. Oku kubangela uloyiko oluqhubekayo kwaye ngoko ke ixhala, elikhokelela kuye ukungakwazi ukugcina isiqhelo okanye ubomi obuqhelekileyo bemihla ngemihla. Enye yezona zinto zixhaphakileyo kumakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana yimfuneko yokuba yonke into ilungelelaniswe ngokulinganayo nangokufanelekileyo. Xa elungisa itafile akayi kuyeka ukufota izinto zokusika neendondo, kungenjalo uya kuba nentlungu enzulu. Ukuba ubona ukuba unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho iqala ukuba nazo naziphi na iimpawu ze-obsessive-compulsive disorder, sincoma ukuba uye kwi-psychologist.
Zeziphi iimanias?
Njengoko besitshilo ekuqaleni, iimanias sisixhobo somntwana sokugubungela imfuno ethile okanye ukunciphisa iimvakalelo ezimbi. Ngoko ke, emazantsi ezantsi banayo a icandelo lokukhupha ixhala, zibonelela ngokhuseleko, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo zivela kubantu (abantwana) abanotyekelo lokuba nexhala. Okona kulungileyo kuya kuba kukufundisa abantwana bethu ukulawula nokukhulula olo xhalaba ngenye indlela.
Ungafundisa unyana okanye intombi yakho ukuba ithathe indawo yeso “sixhobo” somdlalo wokuzonwabisa, ngo ubuchule obutsha. Ngale ngqiqo, umzekelo wakho ubalulekile, khumbula ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuzuz’ ilifa, nokuba engazi, eyakho impambano, ngoko ke, xa sele emdala, uya kuyijonga indlu kabini ngaphambi kokuba ahambe, ukuba kukho impompo ebalekayo (kuba umzekelo).
Iimanias ngokwazo azikho zimbi, ekubeni ukunceda ukuvela. Abantwana baba ngqongqo ngakumbi xa beba bhetyebhetye ngokuthe ngcembe. Basuka kumnqweno wokulawula iziganeko ukuya kuziqhelanisa nokwamkelwa kwazo. Lixesha apho baqala khona ukukhulula ama-manias abo, malunga nobudala be-5. Iipjama zakhe azithandayo, ulala ngomnwe emlonyeni, okanye ubambelele kumama wakhe. Ibe ngala manias athe ngokuthe ngcembe akhokelela ekubeni a imozulu yokhuseleko.
Eyona manias rhoqo kumakhwenkwe namantombazana
Sikudwelisa ezona mania zixhaphakileyo kumakhwenkwe namantombazana. Logama nje ezi zikhula phakathi kweeparamitha eziqhelekileyo, oko kukuthi, azibi yinto ethanda inkwenkwe okanye intombazana, ziya kubenza bakhule ngendlela ekhuselekileyo. Bamkele ngokuqonda nangomonde.
- Ukuziphatha okuphindaphindayo, njengesiqhelo esingenakoyiswa sokunxiba, ukuya kulala okanye ukuhlamba. Owona mzekelo uqhelekileyo kukungena ebhedini kwicala elinye.
- Baphinda bakhethe amabali, amabali okanye iimuvi abasele bezazi ngokugqibeleleyo.
- Bayakuphepha ukunyathela iithayile zomgangatho okanye ukunyathela kuphela ezo zombala omnye.
- Baphinda-phinda amabinzana okanye amagama, umzekelo ukubulisa okanye ukuba nebinzana elithi what's up mfondini? kuye wonke umntu obonayo.
- Benza izinto ngolandelelwano olungenakuguqulwa naphantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko. Kwangaxeshanye, banyanzelisa ukuba abanye benze izinto kanye ngale ndlela batsho ngayo.
- Benza imigca okanye uthotho kunye nezinto zabo zokudlala.
- Bajonga amatyeli aliqela ukuba yonke into injengoko ifanele ukuba kwaye apho ifanele ukuba khona.