Abazali kufuneka bajongane nenqanaba lokufikisa ngezinto ezingalindelekanga kunye nenqanaba lokuba phawula zonke iinkalo kuzo zonke izivamvo. Ingxaki yenzeka xa unayo intombi evukelayo, apho isifundo sinokuba novakalelo ngakumbi kunakwimeko yamadoda.
Isimo sengqondo semvukelo sibonakala kakhulu ebusheni xa ibonisa ukuba utshintsho lwehomoni kwaye oko kuchaphazela nezinto ezininzi zokusingqongileyo. Amantombazana athambekele ekuboniseni indlela yokuziphatha enesakhelo ngakumbi kunamadoda, kuba eyabo isini kunye notshintsho lomzimba kubangela ubunzima ngakumbi kwaye itsala imvukelo engakumbi.
Yintoni ekhokelela ekubeni intombi yakho ibe nemvukelo?
Ukucacisa eli gama, kufuneka kuboniswe ukuba Ukuvukela kweli nqanaba kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Izimvo zabazali azisasebenzi ngokufana nasebudeni beminyaka embalwa, okanye abathathi xanduva lunye xa beziva bexakekile kwaye abanye izigqibo abazenzayo zithathwa bengakhange bacinge.
Umba wokuziphatha kwabafazi wahlukile kuleyo yamadoda. Njengakumakhwenkwe, indlela yokuziphatha inamandla ngakumbi, ibonisa amandla ayo, lawo mantombazana inovakalelo ngakumbi. Abafazi bathambekele ekufundiseni ngaphakathi isimilo sabo kwaye imeko yabo yemvukelo inokubenza baxoke, bangafundi, bagqibe iklasi kwaye basebenzise izinto.
Ungayimisa njani intombi yakho evukelayo?
Imvukelo izibonakalisa kulutsha njengokuba isenzo sokuxhomekeka hayi sokuzimela. Kuya kufuneka batsalele ingqalelo kwizenzo zabo nasekuxhomekekeni okanye ekuncamathiseleni kwabanye. Kunzima ukujongana nale nyani, kodwa esona siphakamiso silungileyo kukwenza umntu uthatha uxanduva ngezenzo zabo. Kuya kufuneka wenze imiceli mngeni emitsha kwaye uzakhe njengomntu ngokuzimeleyo.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nentombi kufuneka bulingane, ibanzi kwaye ayinazo izinto zokulwa. Kuya kufuneka uvumele iingxoxo ukuba zithambe kwaye zingalayishwa ngumsindo, kuba oku kuya kubeka uxinzelelo ngakumbi kwintombazana encinci kwaye ayizukuthatha manyathelo afanelekileyo.
Abafazi rhoqo zilayishwe ziimvakalelo kunye nolawulo lwayo yinxalenye yenkxaso yabazali. Ihlala ilungile Buza ukuba baziva njani, Uncedo kuwo onke amathandabuzo kwaye unikeze ilizwi lomntu onamava kwinkxaso.
Xa kufikwa ekunyanzeliseni imigaqo okanye imida kufuneka kuvunyelwane ngayo. Ukuba bangena endleleni, baya kuhlala kufuneka kuthotyelwe kunye nothethathethwano phakathi kwamaqela omabini. Njalo kwiincoko yababini kufuneka ivele ukunyaniseka nokuqonda, abantu abancinci bayasixabisa ngakumbi esi simo sengqondo.
Isebenza ngcono ukuba uyakhuthazwa fezekisa iinjongo zakho ngaphandle koxinzelelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo singakhumbula ukuba xa sasicinezelwa njengabantu abancinci, sifezekisa kakhulu iinjongo okanye imigaqo.
Kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke Yamkela injani intombi yethu, bunjani ubuntu bakho kunye nesimilo sakho. Kufuneka thintela uthelekiso, hayi nabahlobo bakho, okanye ofunda nabo kunye nabantakwenu, njengoko inokonakalisa ukuzithemba kwakho. Kufuneka yamkela ukuba abafezekanga kwaye ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokungalunganga, kuya kufuneka athwale iziphumo, nokuba ziyasenzakalisa.
Unxibelelwano sesona sixhobo silungileyo
Unxibelelwano phakathi kwabazali nabantwana sesona sixhobo silungileyo. Kwahlukile ekubeni nobuhlobo obuhle, kuba kuyacaca ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwamacandelo amabini alinganayo ayinasiphelo sihle. Abazali mabagcine indima yabo, apho igunya labo lilawula khona, kodwa ngobunzima obukhulu. Isebenza kakuhle xa sibachazela izinto njengabantu abadala, ngaphandle koxinzelelo kunye nomzekelo wenyani, apho uncedo olunemiqathango luhlala lulawula.
Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba lixesha apho abafazi banokuba ngabangenangqondo kwaye bangathembi, kunye nemibono emininzi kwaye ufuna ukuphila ubomi. Oku akufuneki konakaliswe kwaye akukho sidingo sokuthintela ezinye izinto ukuba zonakalise ezi ngcamango.
Gcina ixesha kwimfundo yakho yomntwana ontsonkothileyo kwaye kuba mncinci sichitha ixesha elininzi namandla. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuba yintoniimfundo ekhethekileyo"Kwaye"indlela yokwazi imfundo elungileyo".