Kukangaphi kwenzeka kuthi kuthi ukuba kuthi kuphela usuku, xa sele sicinga ukuba unyana wethu uzakulala, asibuze ukuba simxelele ibali?
Mhlawumbi siyalikhumbula ngelo xesha ilizwe elikhulu lamaphupha esalifumana ngokumamela kumabali abaliswa ngabazali bethu, kwaye asifuni kuthintela abantwana bethu kolo lonwabo.
Ukubaluleka kwesi senzo, esenziwe ngokuchanekileyo kwizizukulwana, kuye kwaqinisekiswa kumashumi eminyaka akutshanje zizifundo ezijolise kwimpembelelo entle enamabali abantwana ekuveleni kwemimandla eyahlukeneyo yophuhliso.
Kwindawo yokuqala, xa utata esiya kunyana wakhe ukuba amfundele ibali, wabelana naye ngomzuzwana osisityebi sobuhlobo kunye notshintshiselwano olunomdla. Umntwana uyaqonda ngalo mzuzu ukuba zonke izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kwihlabathi labantu abadala zihlehlisiwe, kwaye ungoyena mntu uphambili kunye nokwamkela ingqalelo nothando lukayise.
Okwesibini, ukubaliswa kwamabali kunika abazali ithuba lokulinganisa kunye nokudlulisa imiyalezo ethile malunga nomxholo weemvakalelo kunye neenqobo zokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha kubantwana babo.
Umntwana uya kuba nakho ukuluqonda olu hlobo lonxibelelwano njengendlela yomntu omdala kulwimi lwakhe kunye neemfuno zakhe, ekwabelana naye ngovuyo olubangelwa leli bali kuye.
Okwesithathu, uninzi lwamabali, ngakumbi lawo omdabu afana neLittle Red Riding Hood, uTom Thumb okanye uHansel noGretel, avumela umntwana ukuba abone uloyiko kunye neengxabano eziqikelelweyo kuwo. Baphetha ngesisombululo, ngesiphelo esonwabisayo esikhulula uloyiko: into encinci isombulula ubunzima bayo. Umyalelo ubuyisiwe, umntwana uziva ekhuselekile kwaye anelisekile kwakhona. Xa umntwana esemncinci, la mabali kufuneka abaliswe ngumntu osondele kakhulu kuye. Ubukho babo kunye nokulamla kuyamqinisekisa kwaye kwenza uxinzelelo lokuba ibali linokuvelisa ukunyamezeleka.
Okwesine, amabali avuselela abantwana ukuba bacinge. Ngazo bayakwazi ukuthelekelela izinto ezingezizo ezabo, badibane nezinto ezingaqhelekanga, baphambuke kwiikhowudi ezimiselweyo kunye nezikhokelo. Kancinci kancinci bayakhuthazwa ukuba bazenzele ezabo ii-adventures kunye nabalinganiswa, olu qheliselo lunceda ukomeleza inkululeko yabo yokuyila nokuzithemba.
Okokugqibela, umkhwa wokubalisela okanye wokufundela abantwana amabali ukhulisa kubo izakhono zolwimi kunye nolwazi oluya kubavumela ukuba bakhe isiseko esiqinileyo samava abo esikolo. Umzekelo woku kukukwazi ukusixelela into eyenzekileyo kubo ejikeleze umsonto oqhelekileyo okanye umxholo ophakathi kwaye ngaloo ndlela unike ukuhambelana kwebali; ukukwazi ukulandelelana kweziganeko ngexesha (kwenzeke ntoni kuqala, yintoni elandelayo); ukukwazi ukuseka unobangela kunye nefuthe kubudlelwane, kunye nokufunyanwa kolwimi olutyebileyo nolunzima.
Ezinye iingcebiso zokuqeqesha abafundi
- Yenza umkhwa wokufunda. Yenze yonke imihla kwaye ngexesha elifanayo losuku. Iiyure ezandulela ukulala zihlala zilungile.
- Mvumele umntwana avakalelwe kukuba iqhezu lexesha elabelwe ukufunda libalulekile ngokwalo. Akulunganga ukwabelana nabanye ngeminye imisebenzi.
- Yonwabela kunye naye loo mzuzu womlingo, kwaye udlulise loo mava okonwaba.
- Khetha amabali asekwe kubudala nakwimidla yonyana wethu. Kwiincwadi ezininzi kucetyiswa ubudala babafundi babo.
- Nika umntwana ithuba lokukhetha ukuba leliphi ibali afuna ukuba lifundwe okanye alibaliselwe kuye.
- Mncede azichonge kunye nabalinganiswa, mvumele ukuba aphazamise ingxelo ebuza okanye aphawule ngento ethile, enze ubuqili, mxelele isiphelo.
- Fundisa ngomzekelo. Kulula kakhulu ukuba umntwana abone abazali bakhe ukuba bafunde, kwaye endlwini yakhe kukho iincwadi, athande ukufunda.
IBHAYIBHILE:
UJulio Enrique Correa, "Ibali elilandiswe njengesixhobo sotshintsho esisebenzayo", Unyango loSapho, ivol. 5, n 9, Buenos Aires, ngoDisemba 1982, iphe. Ngo-147-162.
• U-Luciano Montero, i-adventure yokukhula, i-Buenos Aires, i-Planeta, ngo-1999. Okokugqibela, isiqhelo sokubalisa okanye sokufundela abantwana amabali sikhula kubo ngolwimi nolwazi olubalulekileyo oluya kubavumela ukuba bakhe isiseko esiqinileyo samava abo esikolweni. . Umzekelo woku kukukwazi ukusixelela into eyenzekileyo kubo ejikeleze umsonto oqhelekileyo okanye umxholo ophakathi kwaye ngaloo ndlela unike ukuhambelana kwebali; ukukwazi ukulandelelana kweziganeko ngexesha (kwenzeke ntoni kuqala, yintoni elandelayo); ukukwazi ukuseka unobangela kunye nefuthe kubudlelwane, kunye nokufunyanwa kolwimi olutyebileyo nolunzima.