Amaxesha amaninzi, ngokungazi, Sisebenzisa indima yesini kwizinto okanye kwihambo, kunye nokusikelwa umda okukhoyo kuphela ezingqondweni zethu. Oku kunokubenzakalisa ngeendlela ezininzi, kuba sithanda ukuxhoma ezinye iilebheli ezongeziweyo eziyingozi kukuzithemba kwabo kwaye ngenxa yoko, kuphuhliso lwabo olufanelekileyo njengabantu.
Kuyinyani ukuba zininzi izifundo ezahlula imikhwa yamakhwenkwe namantombazana ngeendlela ezininzi, apha siza kuthetha ngawo kwaye sichaze izizathu ezinokubangela lo mahluko.
Makhe sithethe ngeendlela zokuziphatha
Besisoloko sisiva ukuba amakhwenkwe anobundlongondlongo kunamantombazana, nto leyo ibangelwa kukufihlwa kwe-testosterone kwingqondo yamakhwenkwe kunye ne-serotonin, ihomoni ethintela obu bundlobongela, kwiingqondo zamantombazana. Nangona kunjalo, kuyinyani ukuba isini asikuphela kwento emiselweyo ekusithekeni kwezi hormone, kungaphantsi kokuziphatha.
Eyona nto ibonakalayo yile Ekuhlaleni kwamkeleka ngakumbi ukuba amakhwenkwe anobukrwada ngakumbi kwaye amantombazana azolile kwaye azibamba. Ukuziphatha apho abantwana bakhuphisana khona kunye nokwenza ukhuphiswano kuqeqesho lwezemidlalo kunomvuzo.
Amantombazana kulindeleke ukuba abe ngababukeli abanomonde kwaye avuyise amakhwenkwe kukhuphiswano, ngaphandle komdla wokuthatha inxaxheba kuwo.
Zihambo zokuziphatha ezikhuthazwa ngabazali kunye noluntu ekuhlaleni ngokungazi. Sifuna into nganye isini izinto ezahlukeneyo ngaphandle kokuyiqonda kwaye loo nto ibenza bakhule ngokwahlukileyo.
Ukuphuhliswa kobuchopho kunye nokuvuselelwa kwentlalo
Ukukhula kwengqondo kuneyona nqanaba liphucukileyo lokukhula phakathi kwexesha lokubeleka kunye neminyaka emi-5 ubudala. Kwelo thuba lexesha, owona mthamo mkhulu we-neurogeneis kunye nee-synapses ziyaveliswa eziza kubakho ebomini. Oko kukuthi, xa ii-neurons ezininzi zenziwe kwaye zixhunyiwe. Kuyinyani ebonakalisayo ukuba i-neurogeneis kunye nee-synapses zenzeka kubo bonke ubomi kwaye ziyinkqubo ebalulekileyo yokufunda.
Kuyinyani ukuba Iinkqubo zehomoni zichaphazela iinkqubo zobuchopho esisandula ukutsho, kodwa ke kunjalo nemeko yokusingqongileyo, enje ngendawo yokuhlala. Ngale nto sithetha ukuba into enokuthi ibangelwe ziinkqubo zebhayoloji, inokubalelwa ngendlela efanayo kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezifundwe okanye ezikhuthazwe ngaphandle. Inyaniso Unxibelelwano lwe-synaptic luya kwenzeka kuxhomekeke kwisikhuthazo umntwana avezwe kuso.
Umzekelo ocacileyo wento enokubangelwa yintlalo, kunye nobuhle obunokubakho ekukhuleni komntwana kukuba iyaqondakala into yokuba amakhwenkwe akhula kwangoko kule ngqondo kwaye akhaliphile kwaye azimisele kunamantombazana.
Emva koko sibona amantombazana enxibe iilokhwe zawo ezintle kwaye siyabona ukuba abanakho ukukhasa benganyatheli sketi zabo kwaye bawe phantsi, kungoko kunzima ngakumbi ukuphuhlisa ukuchaneka ngokuchanekileyo. izakhono zemoto kwinqanaba elifanayo nomntu onxiba iimpahla ezifanelekileyo ngakumbi.
Kwakhona Kunzima ngakumbi ukuba nesibindi kwaye uzimisele ukuba kukuziphatha okungafakwanga, ngenxa yolu "thando" lokuzikhusela esinalo njengesiqhelo sokuziphatha kwezentlalo, ukuqonda ukuba amantombazana "ngabesini esibuthathaka", ngenxa yezizathu ezinento yokwenza nendima yesini enikwe abasetyhini kunangenxa yeemeko zokwenyani, amatyala amaninzi.
Buyintoni isini esibuthathaka?
Ngesiseko sokuba kubonisiwe ukuba Amadoda aneentlungu ezisezantsi kunabafazi, abathi kodwa bathwale iintlungu zokubeleka Kwaye nokuba zininzi, kunzima ukufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi eyona isini esibuthathaka.
Kuyinyani ukuba amakhulu iminyaka yendaleko yenza ukuba amandla emisipha akhule ngakumbi emadodeni kunabafaziNgendlela efanayo nezinye izilwanyana, iimpawu ezithile zomzimba zikhula ngakumbi ngokwendima ekufuneka ziyithathile kwindalo. Kodwa kufanele ukuba sibe zizilwanyana ezinengqiqo kwaye sele sidlulile kwinqanaba lokuhlala emiqolombeni nasekuzingeleni kwamadoda, ngelixa abafazi besondla kwaye bekhusela abancinci.
Inyani yile yokuba namhlanje kukho ukwahluka phakathi kwabantu besini esahlukileyo. Kuyimpazamo ukuthi amadoda anamandla, xa ubona, umzekelo, umama ongatshatanga esebenza njengomama notata, sebenza kwaye unakekele ikhaya. Kuyinyani ukuyitsho into yokuba abasetyhini banobugcisa ngakumbi kwaye banovakalelo xa ubona amadoda edanisa ibhaleyi, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuba abenangxaki kwisini sabo.
Izinto ezenziwa ngokubanzi ezonakalisa ukuzithemba
Akunabungozi kuphela ekuzithembeni kwamantombazana esenza ukuba siqonde ukuba baya kuba buthathaka, bacothise okanye bangakwazi kangako ngokubanzi kwinyani elula yokuba yeyesini sabasetyhini. Ukuba bayacelwa ukuba babukrelekrele kunendoda yokwenza umsebenzi omnye kwaye banonophele ngakumbi ngomfanekiso wabo, ukuba oku akwanelanga.
Kuyingozi nakwifayile ye- ukuzithemba kwabantwana ukuba babangelwa ziindlela zokuziphatha ngokwesondo ezahlukileyo kwezo baziva bebonisa utyekelo olungaqhelekanga kwindima eyabelwe uluntu kwisini sabo. Ukuba udlala ngoonopopi, awunyanzelekanga ukuba ube li-gay, kodwa unokuba ngumzali omkhulu. ngoqiniselo olufanelekileyo.
umntwana wakho angadlala ngeemoto okanye oonodoli, nokuba ngabesini sini na.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukubafundisa ngokulingana. Umntwana ngamnye uzalwa enesakhono, esimiselwa yimeko yemfuza, enganyanzelekanga ukuba inxulumene nesini sabo. Ukuba siphucula amandla okwenyani omntwana ngamnye, endaweni yokumakisha ngokwesini, Siza kufezekisa uluntu olwahlukeneyo, nabantu abasempilweni kwaye bonwabile, bafezekisa ukukhula okungcono komntu kunye noluntu.