Oomakhulu baqeshisa

Umakhulu ukhathalela intombazana encinci.

Ibaluleke kangakanani indima kamamaKakhulu kangangokuba kumfazi okhulelweyo oku kunokuba kubaluleke ngakumbi kuneqabane lakhe. Thina bafazi sibona koomama bethu umakhulu wabantwana bethu, umama wesibini kubo. Sifuna ukuba usicebise ekukhulelweni kwethu. Sifuna uncedo lwakho kwiintsuku zokuqala zembewu yethu.

Ixesha elidlulele, abantwana bethu bazakufuna oomakhulu nootatomkhulu baboAbo bazali besibini abavumayo babakhusele ngaphezu kwabazali babo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana akhule engqongwe lusapho kunye nothando. Kodwa ngelishwa, abazali bethu abasoloko bedlula ebomini kubantwana bethu.

Amaxesha amaninzi, siyakufuna uncedo kwilungu losapho okanye umntu osondeleyo. Umntu wokusinceda ngexesha lokuswela. Kwaye nangona kungavuya ukuba nelungu losapho, asizukuhlala silufumana olo ncedo.

Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba bahlala kwesinye isixeko, mhlawumbi ngenxa yeembophelelo zemihla ngemihla esinazo sonke. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba kwimeko leyo siqwalasele i-cukunyanga umntu ukuba anakekele abantwana bethu.

AmaNannies ahlala engamantombazana angenabantwana kwaye angenamava. Abantu abancinci bajonge ukufumana imali ethile abaza kuhlawula ngayo ii-whims zabo. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba endaweni yokukhangela umntu ogcina umntwana, sisebenzise iinkonzo ze umakhulu uyarenta?

Oomakhulu baqeshisa

Kumazwe anjengeSwitzerland okanye i-United States, umgaqo wokuba ngumfazi ngokwesivumelwano uhleli iminyaka. Yinkonzo enikezelwa ziiarhente ezikhethekileyo, ethi Baqinisekisa ukuba abantu abaphethe abantwana bafanelekile.

Ngokwesiqhelo baba ngamanenekazi akwiminyaka ethile, abanabantwana nabanamava ekukhathaleleni abantwana. Kwezi arhente banoxanduva lokubonelela ngezifundo zoncedo lokuqala. Oko kukuthi, banikezela ngenkonzo yabantu abalungiselelwe ukukhathalela abancinci.

Ngokwenene yindlela yokunika ithuba umsebenzi kubafazi abakwiminyaka ethile, apho ukufakwa kwabasebenzi kunzima. Kukho iimeko apho inkonzo yenziwe ngokuzithandela, aba bantu bafumana inkampani ngokutshintshela uncedo kwiintsapho.

Kwilizwe lethu, akukho kuninzi okwaziwayo malunga nalo mkhuba okwangoku. Kunzima ukufumana iarhente ezinikele ekuboneleleni ngale nkonzo. Nangona bekukho iingxelo ezininzi ngayo kumabonwakude ezenze ukuba ndicinge ngayo.

Ukuba kuye kwafuneka ndibize iinkonzo zomntu wangaphandle ukuba anyamekele unyana wam, ngaba ndingakhetha ukuqesha intombazana encinci, okanye ndingathembela kubulumko bomfazi osele ekhulile?

Kutheni ukhetha umntu ogcina umntwana?

• Ngobudala, umntu omncinci ulawula ngakumbi ukuba asebenze, unokulandela isingqisho sabantwana
• Kuba ukuba mncinci akungomqobo. Kukho amantombazana aneemvakalelo zoomama ezomeleleyo ezikonwabelayo ukuchitha ixesha namakhwenkwe
• Mhlawumbi ngenxa yokusondela kwabo kubudala, bakwimidlalo kunye neengoma zomzuzu, baya kuyazi indlela yokudibana nento encinci

Kutheni ukhetha umakhulu kwirente?

• Kwakhona ngeminyaka, ndingasebenzisa ubulumko bakho ekukhuliseni unyana wam
• Ngokukhula, umntu oneminyaka ethile yobudala anokulungela ngakumbi ukujamelana, umzekelo, ukuba nomsindo
• Ngokuqinisekileyo ngobulumko, inenekazi elikhulise abantwana liya kuyazi into ekufuneka yenziwe ukuba, ngokomzekelo, ifiva ngesiquphe iyavela
• Mhlawumbi ngenxa yaloo mfanekiso kagogo othandekayo nothando, bonke abantwana kufuneka babenabo ebomini babo

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