Enye yezinto ezifundwe ngabantwana eyona nto ixhalabisa abazali yile yoqeqesho lwendlu yangasese kunye nokusetyenziswa kwembiza. Abanye bakhubazekile ngenxa yokungaqiniseki ngokungazi ukuba leliphi ixesha elifanelekileyo kwaye ngamanyathelo ekufuneka bewathathe xa behamba nomncinci wabo. Abanye, bezele luxinzelelo, bazama ukuqhubela phambili nenkqubo yokuziqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wabo uphumelele inqanaba elitsha lokuvuthwa. Kuya kufuneka yaziwe ukuba, nangona kuyinyani ukuba ukuyeka ii-diapers kunzima kakhulu ukufunda kunezinye iindlela zokuziphatha, kungekudala bonke abantwana bagqibela ngokuyiqonda le nkalo yophuhliso lwabo.
Eneminyaka emingaphi?
Phakathi kweenyanga ezili-15 ukuya kwezili-18, umntwana sele eyazi ukuba baphumile, kodwa okwangoku akanakulindela inyathelo elinje. Yiyo loo nto, ngaphambi kwexesha ukuzenza ngathi usebenzisa le potty. Okwangoku, isenokuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba umbonise kwaye uchaze ukuba yeyantoni, ukuze aziqhelanise nayo. Ukuba abazali baya phambili, baba semngciphekweni wokophula uguquko lwendalo yomntwana kwaye bambangele ukuba alahle imbiza.
Phakathi kweenyanga ezili-18 ukuya kwezingama-24, uninzi lwabantwana lubonisa ngamazwi ukuba bafuna ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela Okwalo mzuzu baqala ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo ezithile zomzimba kwinto yokuba baya kungcola. Ukuphendula kwakho kwezi mvakalelo kunokutshintsha: ukusuka ekukhaleni okanye ukukhala kunye nokukhomba kwi-diaper, ukuhlala uzolile kwaye ujike ube bomvu, okanye ukukuthetha ngomlomo.
Elinye inqaku elibalulekileyo ekuvuthweni kwabancinci kukuba baqala ukuqonda amanye amalungu omzimba wabo kwaye, xa kuthiwe amagama, bayayazi indlela yokubonisa. Bayakwazi ukubiza ilindle labo ngamagama ("poop", "pee").
Ngubani ogqiba?
Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bangathathi sigqibo, ngokungakhethiyo, xa omncinci kufuneka aqale ukuzikhulula eyedwa. Ngokuchasene noko, ngumntwana ekufuneka enze esi sigqibo. Kucacile ukuba abazali banako kwaye kufuneka bamncede kwaye bamkhuthaze, kodwa hayi ngokuchasene nentando yomntwana wabo.
Ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqalisa ukufunda kuxa umntwana ekwimeko yokuqonda ukuba imiqondiso ayibonayo kwisinyi sakhe kunye namathumbu alindele ukuba kuzakwenzeka ntoni emva koko. Xa umntwana esiqonda ukuba uzokukhupha okanye achame, kwaye hayi kuba sele ekwenzile oko, ukhuthazo noncedo abanokubonelelwa ngabazali bakhe luya kusebenza.
Yeyiphi imiqondiso ekufuneka uyibukele?
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukususa amanabukeni okanye uqeqesho lweebhotile, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana abonise iseti yokuziphatha. Okokuqala, ukuba inokugcinwa yomile ubuncinci iiyure ezimbini. Oku kuyakusinika isibonakaliso sokuba uyakwazi ukugcina, ubuncinci okwexeshana, umnqweno wakho wokuchama.
Okwesibini, ukuba uyawazi umahluko phakathi kokumanzi nokomileyo. Intuthuzelo ekhulayo ebonelelwa ziidayadi zala maxesha zihlala zilibazisa amava omntwana ngokungonwabi ngokuba manzi. Okwangoku, kungekudala okanye kamva, uyakuqala ukufumanisa unxibelelwano phakathi kobumanzi kwidayap yakho kunye nenyani yokuba uchamile.
Okwesithathu, ukuba angatsala ibhulukhwe yakhe phezulu nasezantsi yedwa. Oku kuya kukunika ukuzimela okuyimfuneko ukuhlala embizeni xa uziva ngathi unentshukumo yamathumbu.
Okwesine, ukuba uyakwazi ukulandela imiyalelo elula. Ngale ndlela unokukhumbula onke amanyathelo ekufuneka uwathathe ukuya embizeni.
Okwesihlanu, ukuba uyakwazi ukuxelela xa sele uza kuba nentshukumo yamathumbu. Ukuba uyayenza emva kokuba yenzekile, awukavuthwa ukubeka phantsi amanabukeni. Okokugqibela, ukuba ubonakalisa umdla wokufunda kwigumbi lokuhlambela. Nokuba ngaba ngokulinganisa abadala babo okanye ukukholisa abazali babo, kukuziphatha ekufuneka kuvela emntwaneni.
Xhobisa ngomonde
Nangona ejikeleze iminyaka emibini yobudala umntwana ekhule ngokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni ukuba abeke amanabukeni, oku akuthethi ukuba ngobusuku nje bonke uyafunda ukuyenza yonke le nkqubo. Kuya kufuneka ube nomonde kwaye, ngaphezulu kwako konke, ungabi kuko nakuphi na ukungxama.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba omncinci, nangona ehlala esebenzisa imbiza, ngamanye amaxesha uyala ukwenza njalo. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, sukuyinyanzela, okanye uyiyeke apho ide izikhulule. Ngeli xesha lobomi bakho uqinisekisa ubuqu bakho, kwaye enye yeendlela zokwenza oku kukwala ukwenza oko kufunwa ngabanye. Yiyo loo nto, xa eqonda ukuba angalawula ukuphuma kwelindle lakhe kwaye abazali bakhe bayazi kakuhle ngalo mbandela, unokusebenzisa le meko njengesixhobo sokubaphikisa.
Ukongeza, kufanele ukuba kukhunjulwe ukuba ukuncama ithuba lokuzihlangula apho kwaye xa umntwana efuna isenzo sothando kubazali babo. Ke ngoko, ukuba uyanyanzelwa kwaye akayiphumezi injongo yokufuduka, oku kunokuba nakho kwimeko yokudakumba, ukungakwazi ukwanelisa iminqweno yabazali bakhe. Kungoko elona cebo lililo elokungabonisi ixhala lokufezekisa injongo.
Inyathelo ngesinyathelo
Abantwana banokulawulwa kwangoko kwamathumbu abo phambi kwesinyi. Yiyo loo nto kulula ukuba "bacoceke" kunokuba "bomile." Ukuphela kwexesha phakathi kovakalelo lwentshukumo yamathumbu kunye nokuzikhupha kukude, kuvumela umda omkhulu wexesha lokulumkisa nokuya kumchamo.
Malunga neminyaka emibini enesiqingatha ubudala, uninzi lwabantwana lufezekisa ulawulo lwesinyi emini. Ngeli xesha, i-diapers yasemini inokuhanjiswa. Kodwa malunga nesiqingatha sabantwana abancinci abakwiminyaka bayaqhubeka nokuchama ebuthongweni babo. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba inkqubo yakho yemithambo-luvo ayikakulungeli ukugcina isinyi sakho sigcwele ixesha elide kangako.
Kuya kuba kwiminyaka emithathu ukuba uninzi lwazo lukwazi ukulawula ukunyakaza kwabo emini nasebusuku.
Okwangoku, kuya kufuneka usebenzise iladiwe yasebusuku. Kuqhelekile ukuba, nasemva kolu lawulo lubonakalayo, umntwana uyaqhubeka nokumanzisa ukhuko ngamanye amaxesha. Ukuthintela ukukhathazeka ngenxa yomncinci, kuyacetyiswa ukuba unganiki ukubaluleka kakhulu kule nto. Okucetyiswayo kukuthatha amanyathelo okhuseleko, njengokugcina i-diaper yasebusuku ixesha elide okanye ukubeka i-soaker phantsi kwamashiti.
Ungenza ntoni "ngeengozi"?
Xa umntwana eshiya amanabukeni, ukongeza kwezi "ngozi" zasebusuku, ezo zenzeka emini zixhaphake kakhulu. Esinye sezizathu zixhaphakileyo kukungakwazi komntwana ukuqikelela ukuba uza kukwazi kangakanani ukugcina umchamo kunye nelindle. Obu buchule buya kufunyanwa ngamava kwaye, ngendlela ethile, "iingozi" ziyafuneka ukuze
Yifumane.
Esinye isizathu esiqhelekileyo kukuphazamiseka.
Xa umntwana egxile kakhulu kwimisebenzi efana nomdlalo, alibale ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela. Ukuthintela “iingozi” kufanelekile ukuba, ngezi zihlandlo, sikubuze ukuba uyafuna na ukuya kwindlu yangasese.
Okokugqibela, ezinye iinguqu ezinjengeeholide, ukuhamba, ukubuyela kwisikolo sabantwana abancinci, okanye ukufika komntakwethu oselusana, kunokuthetha ukubuyela umva kancinci okanye ukudodobala kwinkqubo yokufunda. Oku kuqhelekile kwaye akufuneki kuthathwe njengongaphumeleli. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ungadimazeki, uhlale uzolile kwaye unike unyana wethu ukhuseleko.
Ezinye izitshixo
- Kubalulekile ukuhlonipha ukukhula komntwana, ngaphandle kokumnyanzela ukuba enze utshintsho angalulungelanga.
- Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele imiqondiso yokuba umntwana ukulungele ukuqala ukufunda.
- Umntwana akufuneki anyanzelwe ukuba ahlale embizeni, kwaye akufuneki abanjwe apho ixesha elide.
- Akufanele usebenzise amaqhinga, njengokuvula amanzi etephu, ukucaphukisa umchamo.
- Abazali kufuneka babonise umonde nokuzingisa, ukuxhasa kunye nokunceda umntwana wabo ngalo lonke ixesha.
- Kuya kufuneka uphephe ukumthethisa umntwana, okanye ukulingisa imeko, xa inkqubo icotha, kukho ukusilela okuncinci, okanye "iingozi" zenzeka.
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