Rough okanye ukungabathandi abantwana

ntombazana surly

Thina, abazali, asinakuze sidinwe kukuncamisa abantwana bethu kunye nokubanga, ngokubabonisa lonke uthando lwethu. Kodwa ezi ziboniso zothando azisoloko zamkelwa kakuhle ngabo. Kutheni kukho surly okanye ukungabathandi abantwana? Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngalo mbandela ngamanye amaxesha uxhalabisa abazali.

Abantwana abangama-Surly bakufumana kunzima ukubonisa uthando lwabo ngokubonisa ngokwasemzimbeni njengokuwola, ukubanga nokuphulula. Banqabile nakweli nxibelelwano, kuba lubenza bazive bengakhululekanga. Sibonile njani kwinqaku "Abantwana abanothando: bayazalwa okanye benziwe" ayisithi sonke esibonisa uthando nothando kubantu esibathandayo ngendlela efanayo. Abantwana kufuneka bazive bethandwa kwaye bekhuselekile, kodwa ayingabo bonke ababonisa uthando lwabo ngendlela efanayo kwaye kufuneka ihlonitshwe.

Uxinzelelo ekuhlaleni oluphantsi kwabazali nabantwana ngokungaziphathi njengabanye, luvelisa amathandabuzo amaninzi kunye nokudideka. Ngaba kukhona into embi esiyenzileyo kunyana wethu? Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba nexhala lokuba akanalo uthando? Ngokwenyani, akukho bantwana babini bayafana, nokuba bakhuliswe kunye. Olu xinzelelo lwangaphandle kunokuba ngumthwalo ongapheliyo kwaba bantwana, njengoko benyanzelwa ukuba babonakalise uthando abangafuni kulunika.

Isigaba ekukhuleni kwakho ngokweemvakalelo

Kananjalo nabantwana hamba ngezigaba ezinokwenza ukuba abantwana babe krakra okanye bangabathandi, kwaye bayibonisa ngokutyhala okanye ukurhoxa. Kungenxa yokuba baqala ukuziva bekhulile kwaye abafuni kuthathwa njengabantwana, kwaye ke bazama ukuyibonisa. Baqala ukuba neemvakalelo zentloni kwaye abasasebenzi ngokuzenzekelayo njengangaphambili. Bafuna ukuzimela ngakumbi UMama noTata, kwaye bafumane indawo yabo emhlabeni, ke bazama ukugcina umgama wabo. Isenokuba yifayile ye- impendulo ngokweemvakalelo Kwinto eyenzekileyo (umona, umona, umsindo ...). Yiyo loo nto kufanelekile ukuba uthethe nabo uzolile ukuze ubancede baveze iimvakalelo zabo, kuba inokuba ngumnqweno wokuqwalaselwa.

intombazana encinci enothando

Kufuneka sihloniphe inkqubo kunye nobuntu babo. Akufuneki sibanyanzele ukuba baphuze xa bengafuni. Ngaphandle koko siza kukuthumelela umyalezo wokuba nabani na angakunyanzela ukuba wenze into ongayifuniyo kwaye awunandlela yakulawula umzimba wakho. Kubantwana, iimpawu zothando zisondele kakhulu, azinikwa nabani na, kwaye ngabo abafanele babange kwaye babange kuphela ukuba bayafuna. Kwaye ukuba isalamane okanye umntu oqhelene naye ubonakala engalunganga kuwe, yingxaki yakho. Abanye bethu abakho ukuze banelise iimfuno zabanye. Njalo hlonipha umntwana wakho kwaye ungamnyanzeli. Makhe athathe isigqibo sokuba ngubani oza kubonisa uthando kuye, njani kwaye nini.

PSingabafundisa ukuba bazikhwebule kwabanye ngaphandle kokuba krwada okanye ukungabi nabubele. Yiyo loo nto ebomini babo beya kuyazi indlela yokumakisha kunye nabanye kwaye akukho mntu uhlasela imfihlo yabo.

Babonise iimpawu zothando olunyanisekileyo

Uthando lwabazali ngabantwana babo luthando olungenamiqathango (okanye kufanelekile ukuba lube njalo) kwaye abazali abaninzi balindele okufanayo kubantwana babo. Kodwa umntwana wakho ngumntu owahlukileyo kuwe, enenye indlela yokulungisa uthando kunye nokuluvakalisa. Ayilo khuphiswano ukubonisa uthando nothando.

Thintela amabinzana anobuqhetseba anje "Ukuba awundanga, andisakuthandi". Oku kuxelela abantwana ukuba imiboniso yothando isetyenziselwa ukufezekisa into. Ngale ndlela abayi kuba ziimpawu zothando ezinyanisekileyo nangayiphi na indlela. Ngale ndlela, umntwana wakho uya koyika ukuba uza kuyeka ukumthanda ukuba akenzi zinto ezithile. Ngaba ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho akubonise uthando ngenxa yokoyika? Andicingi njalo. Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba uya kuhlala umthanda, nokuba sekutheni. Uthando lwakho aluxhomekekanga kuyo nantoni na, kwaye kufuneka ayazi.

Kuba khumbula ... Thatha ithuba lokufumana ixesha onokuthi uhambe ngalo kwaye uhambe xa ungamkelekanga kangako.


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