Abantwana abancinci abayiqondi imigaqo kunye nezakhono zentlalo. Ngokwesiqhelo abaziva benesidingo sokubulisa abanye, ngaphandle okanye ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo enembeko kunye nentlonipho yokuba thina bantu badala kufuneka siphile ngcono ekuhlaleni. Kubo akukho ngqiqweni kwaye abazali abaninzi banexhala lokuba abantwana babo bafunda ukubulisa abanye. Namhlanje sithetha ngayo ubafundisa njani abantwana ukubulisa.
Imibuliso yindlela enembeko nenembeko ebantwini, owaziwayo okanye ongaziwayo. Singabanceda abantwana bethu bayazi indlela yokudibanisa le migaqo yezentlalo okoko benganyanzelwanga ukuba benze njalo. Oku kuya kunika umqondiso ongalunganga kwaye kuvelise uthotho lweemvakalelo ezingalunganga emntwaneni esingamfuniyo.
Uninzi lwabazali, ngenxa yokoyika ukuba abantwana babo bazakubonwa njengabantu abakrwada okanye abafuna ukukholisa omnye umntu, banyanzela abantwana babo ukuba babonakalise uthando olungaphumi kubo. Ngokukodwa xa besithi "nika u-Aunt Angustias ukumanga, ongazange akubone ixesha elide." Ngokuqinisekileyo umntwana akafuni ukunika umboniso osondeleyo wothando kuloo makazi kangangokuba angakhumbuli okanye abe neentloni. Ngaba unganga umntu ongamaziyo? Ewe, unyana wakho akabonakalisi uthando ngasekhohlo nasekunene. Ukongeza, oku kudala imeko engathandekiyo kuye wonke umntu: abazali ababonayo ukuba kufuneka bacele, umntwana onyanzelwayo kunye nomnye umntu ophakathi. Yimeko esinokuthi siyiphephe ngezi ngcebiso.
Iingcebiso zokuFundisa abantwana ukuba Babulise
Oko abantwana bethu bakufundayo njengabantwana kuya kubanceda kubo bonke ubomi babo. Imilinganiselo esisiseko yentlalo iya kukuvumela ukuba unxibelelane ngcono nabanye kunye nokudala imeko yemozulu yobuhlobo. Makhe sibone ukuba sinokwenza njani ukuba abantwana bethu babulise abanye ngendlela yendalo nenenkqubela phambili. Ngezi ngcebiso siya kuyiphumeza ngeyona ndlela intle:
- Chaza ukubaluleka kwakho. Singathetha nabo kwaye sichaze ukuba kutheni kwenziwe oko kwaye iyintoni injongo yakho. Ngaphandle kokucinezela. Ngale ndlela baya kuba nakho ukugcina ukubaluleka kwabo ngokuphatha abanye ngentlonipho kunye nemfundo, bavelise ukuthembana nabanye.
- Musa ukumnyanzela ukuba amange. Kumntwana, ukumanga yinto esondeleyo ayinika abantu abasenyongweni. Kuqhelekile ukuba awufuni ukuncamisa umntu obona kancinci okanye umakazi omkhulu ohlala efuna ukubanga. Abantwana akufuneki banyanzelwe, kufuneka babe ngabo bagqiba ngokukhululekileyo ukuba bayafuna na okanye abanga. Inokuchaphazela impilo yakho yeemvakalelo. Kuthekani ukuba singabafundisa ukuba siwangawangise ngesandla nangamagama, kuba ngaphezulu nje kokubulisa.
- Shumayela ngomzekelo. Eyona ndlela yokufundisa abantwana kukwenza into esingathanda ukuba bayenze. Ukuba nembeko kunye nokunxulumana nabanye kubafundisa indlela yokuziphatha eluntwini. Yitsho "Mholweni" y "Sala kakuhle"t "Mholo" o "Molo ngokuhlwa" kuxhomekeka kwimeko, luphawu lobubele kwabanye.
- Musa ukumlungisa esidlangalaleni. Ukuba kufuneka uyilungise, soloko uyenza ngasese, ungaze esidlangalaleni njengoko inokuziva ihlaziswa.
- Zihlonele izigqibo zabo. Ukuba umntwana akafuni ukubulisa umntu othile okanye imeko ethile, hlonipha iimvakalelo kunye nezigqibo zabo. Kuya kufuneka sifundise nabantwana ukuba iimvakalelo kunye nezigqibo zisemthethweni kwaye kufuneka zihlonitshwe.
- Musa ukuphambana ukuba ayenzi njalo. Kuya kufuneka abone ukubulisa njengesenzo esihle, hayi uxanduva lokuba xa engakwenzi uya kohlwaywa okanye amohlwaye. Ukuba akayenzi, akukho nto yenzekayo, qhubeka nomzekelo wakho kunye neenkcazo zakho kwaye ixesha ngalinye uza kuyidibanisa ngakumbi.
Kutheni ukhumbula ... ukubulisa sisakhono sentlalo esenza ukuba ubomi bube lula kuthi ekuhlaleni, kodwa abantwana abaqondi.