Las ubudlelwane bentsapho bubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bethu. Kwaye, ngendlela efanayo ukuba kukho abazali abanetyhefu, kukho kwakhona Kukho ubudlelwane obuyityhefu phakathi kwabantakwenu. Kwaye sibhekisela kubudlelwane, okanye kunoko, kukho amaxesha kubudlelwane obuhle kunye nabanye abangekho. Into ekufuneka sizame kukuqinisekisa ukuba la maxesha angalunganga awaqhubeki ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Indlela esinxulumana ngayo nosapho, nabazali bethu kunye nabantakwethu, iya kuphawula indlela esikwenza ngayo kwezinye iindawo.
Yintoni egqalwa bubudlelwane obuyityhefu phakathi kwabantakwenu?
Umntu ngamnye wahlukile kwaye unobuntu bakhe. Abazalwana ababini, nangona bekhuliswe kwintsapho enye, ngaphandle kokuhlukana kakhulu, kwaye kwimeko efanayo yezoqoqosho nentlalontle, bahlala amava afanayo kwiimbono ezahlukeneyo.
Ngokubanzi, abazalwana ngabantu obathembileyo, abo bangayi kukufulathela. Noko ke, oku akusoloko kunjalo. Ngelishwa, inyaniso isibonisile sonke ukuba kukho ubudlelwane bobuzalwana obuphela kakubi. Uthando lukho phakathi kwabazalwana ababini, ngenxa yokuba bayazalana, kodwa Okubalulekileyo kukuba umntu uba ngokhethekileyo kangakanani ebomini bomnye nomnye, kwaye oku kuxhomekeke ekunyamezeleni kwakho.
Nokuba abantu ababini bayazalana, Phakathi kwabo kunokubakho ubutshaba, ukusukuzana, ukukhuphisana, umona kunye nentiyo. Ezi mvakalelo kumxholo wentsapho, kwaye ngakumbi phakathi kwabazalwana, ziyingozi kakhulu, kuba zakhiwe kancinci kancinci. Ngaphezu koko, ayichaphazeli kuphela abazalwana ababini, kodwa ngandlela-thile ibandakanya kwaye idonsa phantsi abanye abantakwabo, kunye nabazali.
Izizathu eziqhelekileyo ezenza ubudlelwane obungalunganga phakathi kwabantakwenu
Ukususela ebuntwaneni okanye ebudaleni, kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi zokuba sibathathele ingqalelo abantakwethu njengetyhefu. Ezona zixhaphakileyo zezi:
- Izizathu zoqoqosho kunye nezizwe ngezizwe. Ezi zisoloko zingumthombo wokuwohloka kweentsapho ukuba ezi ngxwabangxwaba azaziwa ngendlela yokulawula.
- Ukufuna ingqalelo kunye uthelekiso lwabazali. Ngamanye amaxesha ngabazali abenza ngokungeyomfuneko abantwana abangakhuselekanga, ngokubonisa ukuqaphela ngakumbi omnye kunomnye. Omnye wabazalwana uya kuba a umntwana okhathazekileyo, nto leyo eya kubangela usukuzwano kunye nomnye umntakwabo njengoko evakalelwa kukuba akahoywanga. Abancinci kakhulu uvakalelo olungenabulungisaNgoko ke, abazali bamele balumke bangaphathi omnye umntwana ngembeko kunomnye. Abazali kufuneka bayamkele into yokuba siphosakele ukubiza umntakwenu njengexhoba kunye nomnye njengomoni.
- Umahluko weminyaka yobudala. Olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana abashiyana ngeminyaka engaphantsi kwemibini baneengxabano ezingakumbi kunabo bashiyana ngeminyaka.
- Abantu abahlukeneyo. Lungu ngalinye lentsapho linobuntu balo nezinto elinomdla kuzo. Abanye bacatshukiswa rhoqo, abanye bangonwabanga, baxhelekile... Ngale ndlela, ukunqongophala kwezakhono zentlalo nako kukhuthaza ubudlelwane obuyityhefu phakathi kwabantakwabo.
Imikhondo yokufumanisa ubudlelwane obuyityhefu
Ezinye iimpawu ezisilumkisayo ukuba umzalwana uvakalelwa kukuba omnye umzalwana unetyhefu yimiba yemihla ngemihla efana nale:
- Iingqinisiso zokuba yiyo utata okanye umama intandokazi. Ukuba umntwana phantse ngalo lonke ixesha efumana oko akufunayo yaye engenziwa ukuba azive imiphumo yezenzo zakhe, unikwa imvakalelo yobuxoki yokuba wongamile. Oku kuya kukhokelela kubo bonke ubudlelwane bentsapho.
- Ukulawula kunye nokukhohlisa. Ukuba omnye wabantwana bakho ucinga ukuba kulula ukwamkela oko umzalwana wakhe akufunayo kunokumphikisa, oku luhlobo oluthile lokulawula. Xa umzalwana ecaphukela omnye ngenxa yokuba engenzi unothanda, okanye emenza azive enetyala, kukwakukukhohlisa.
- omnye wabantwana bakho isoloko ilungile. Kukho abazalwana abathi, ngenxa yobudala okanye uqeqesho, bakholelwa ukuba basoloko bekwazi okulungileyo yaye abazixabisi iimbono zomnye umntu. Uya kwenza okufanayo kungekuphela nje ngezimvo, kodwa nangeemvakalelo zabanye abazalwana.
Ukuba ubona nayiphi na kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha ekhaya, sincoma ukuba uhlale uphaphile kwaye uzame khokela ubudlelwane, ngenxa yokuba ulwalamano phakathi kwabantakwabo, abasempilweni, nalo luyakhuthazwa.