Ukuba ngumzali ayingomsebenzi olula, mininzi imicimbi ekufuneka ijongane nayo yonke imihla, ukongeza kwiingxaki ezingalindelekanga ezihlala zivela amaxesha ngamaxesha. Kodwa ukuba ikwayintsapho engumzali omnye, obo bunzima bunokuphindaphindeka kwaye wenze yonke into inyuke ngakumbi. Ayisiwo umbuzo wokuba ungcono okanye ungcono, kukuba uncedo luyimfuneko nakweyiphi na indlu.
Abantwana bayamangalisa kwaye ixesha elininzi, bayonwaba ebomini bakho. Nangona kuyinyani oko ukubeleka/ ukuba ngumzali kukutshintsha kweemvakalelo neemvakalelo. Ke ngoko, xa kufuneka uthwale wedwa ukuba ngumama, unokujamelana nobunzima obongezekileyo kwimihla yakho yemihla ngemihla.
Luyintoni usapho lomzali omnye?
Usapho lomzali omnye lolunye kuphela apho kukho umzali omnye, ukongeza kumntwana omnye okanye nangaphezulu. Eli gama libandakanya zonke iintlobo zeemeko, ezinje ngoomama okanye ootata abajongana nabo ukuba ngumzali yedwa, iintsapho zabazali abahlukene njl. Oko kukuthi, usapho olunomzali omnye lolunye apho ukuhlala khona kubangelwa ngabantwana kunye nomnye wabazali.
Ubunzima bokuba ngumzali yedwa
Ukuba nguyise wedwa okanye umama kubandakanya ubunzima obongeziweyo (okanye uninzi). Kwiingxaki zobuqu ekufuneka kujongwane nazo kwiimeko ezininzi, kufuneka songeze iingxaki ezivela ebantwaneni, kwimfundo yabo, kuyo yonke into ebandakanya ukukhula kwemihla ngemihla.
Ngesi sizathu, iintsapho ezinomzali omnye zihlala jongana neengxaki ezinje ngezi zilandelayo:
Ukugcwala ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni
Mininzi imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla kusapho, ukhathalela ikhaya, ukusebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya, ukukhathalela abantwana kunye neemfuno zabo zemihla ngemihla njl. Abazali abajamelene nokuba ngabazali bebodwa kufuneka ukumelana nayo yonke le misebenzi ngaphandle koncedo, ethi ithathe umthwalo ongaphaya komzimba kwimeko ezincinci. Ingxaki enkulu ngumthwalo wemvakalelo wokukhathalela abantwana, umsebenzi wasekhaya nayo yonke into efunwa lusapho. Njengako konke oku kushiya ixesha elincinci lokutyala imali kwiimfuno zakho, ngakumbi xa umntu omnye engagunyaziswanga. Oku kusizisa kobu bunzima bulandelayo:
Ubulolo
Imvakalelo yokuba lilolo iyanda xa umthwalo omninzi kuthintela ukubakho kobomi ekuhlaleni. Ayisengombandela olula wokuba neqabane, kodwa ubunzima bokugcina ubuhlobo, ukudibana nabantu abatsha, okanye ukwakha ubudlelwane usempilweni. Oko kuguqula ukwahlulwa ngenxa yoloyiko lokungakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane, ukungazithembi kunye neengxaki ezihambelana neemvakalelo.
Malunga nokufundiswa kwabantwana
Ootata okanye oomama abathatha ukuba ngabazali bodwa rhoqo lahla olo lonwabo kwimfundo yabantwana. Uninzi lwaba bazali lujonga ukugqibelela kubantwana babo, ukongeza kukhuseleko olukhulu kunye nazo zonke iindlela zokuziphatha gwenxa.
Ukuthatha indima katata nomama ngaxeshanye akukho lula. Ayikho ukubakho kokwahlulahlula indima njengoko kwenzeka kwezinye iintsapho, umama ofanayo uya kuhlala elungile kwaye engalunganga kwifilimu. Lowo kuya kufuneka asete imigaqo, ukuzibophelela kunye nezibophelelo. Nangona kunjalo, nangona ibandakanya umsebenzi omkhulu kwaye ekufuneka uthathwe kuwo umngcipheko omkhulu, ukuba lilungu lomzali ongenaqabane kusasebenza nje kungenjalo.
Akukho meko apho umntu kufuneka amkele ukuba ngumzali ekwabelwanayo ngaphandle koloyiko lokungazi ukuba angenza njani, loloyiko lokuba nesizungu okanye ukukhathalela abantwana yedwa. Ukuba le yimeko yakho, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba unamandla kwaye usebenza ngokupheleleyo kwaye uvumelekile ukuyenza. Ungoyena mama ubalaseleyo kubantwana bakho, nokuba uzenza ziphi iimpazamo endleleni, ukumthatha yedwa akuyi kukwenza ube ngumama ombi.
Ukungabinamzali wesibini ekhaya akukunyanzeli ukuba ubengumama wedwa. Musa ukuthandabuza Cela uncedo kubahlobo bakho nakusapho, abantu abakuthandayo baya kukuvuyela ukukunika isandla.