Izinto eziluncedo zemood elungileyo
Ukuhlekisa kuyimfuneko kubomi bosapho kangako kuqeqesho, imfundo okanye amaxabiso. Isivumela ukuba sibone iingxaki kubungakanani bazo obuchanekileyo, zingabekwa ngaphezulu okanye zijongelwe phantsi. Ukwazi indlela yokuhleka iimpazamo zethu kunye nobukrakra kwenza kube lula ukuhambisa kwakhona iimeko ezinokuthi zonyuse uxinzelelo kunye neengxabano. Ukongeza, ukuhleka yenye yeentetho ezizisa izibonelelo ezininzi emntwini.
Njengokuba abantwana bethu bekhula kwaye siqala ukuziva sinoxanduva kwimfundo yabo, siye sifune ukugqibelela. Siqhutywa kukuxinezeleka noxinzelelo, sichitha ixesha elininzi silungisa, okanye sigxininisa iimpazamo, ungquzulwano kunye nobunzima, kwaye silibale ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo sonwabile. Siyayeka ukuba ziimodeli zabantu abonwabileyo nabahlekisayo, abafanele ukuxeliswa ngenxa yokuhlekisa kwabo.
Masiqaphele ukuba ulonwabo kunye nokuhlekisa okuhle nako kufundisiwe. Kuyo yonke imini sinamathuba amaninzi okuhlala ubudlelwane bethu nabantwana ngendlela eyonwabisayo. Utata ohlekisayo nochwayitileyo okanye umama bathembekile kunabo bahlala bezimisele.
Iziqhulo zokuqala
Enye yeempawu eziqhelekileyo ezihlekisayo zihlaya. Zinxibelelene kakhulu nexabiso kunye neenkcubeko kuluntu. Kukho isithethe somlomo esipheleleyo sokuqhula kunye neentetho ezithi abantwana badlulise omnye komnye ze emva koko babaxelele ekhaya ukuba "babone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni". Kubantwana abancinci beminyaka emine okanye emihlanu, abaqala ukufumanisa ukuba ziyintoni iziqhulo kwaye baqala ukuvavanya izakhono zabo kunye nabo, babonakala njengobuninzi boburharha kunye nobukrelekrele. Siyazamkela ngobubele ezi ziboniso zoburharha bomntwana, esizifumanisa singenantlonelo.
Uburharha babo buchazwa njengento elula kakhulu, kuba abakabinako ukuqonda okanye ukuvelisa kwakhona izakhiwo ezide kunye nezintsonkothileyo. Ngapha koko, ubuqili bentsingiselo kunye neentsingiselo eziphindwe kabini azifikeleleki kuye ngoku. Ke into abayibambayo kwaye bayitsalele ingqalelo ziingqisho kunye neepun. Nangona kule minyaka yoburharha yakhe ilingisa kwaye icacile, akufuneki sikujongele phantsi ukubaluleka kwayo. Umzekelo, iziqhulo nge puns zezabo zolwimi lokwenyani apho basebenzisa iinkqubo zolwimi.
Iziqhulo "zomngcipheko"
Ukuhlekisa akusoloko kumhlophe kwaye kungacacanga. Xa abantwana beqonda ukuba ihlaya abalivileyo lomelele, banokuqiniseka ukuba bayaligcina ukuze babelane kuphela phakathi kwabo. Okwangoku, ngamanye amaxesha, bayasixelela ukuba sivavanye ukusebenza kwayo. Amaxesha amaninzi abawazi umkhamo wento abayivileyo, kodwa bayayidibanisa, nto leyo eyenza ukuba kube lula ukuyixela ukuba ibone okwenzekayo.
Kungcono ukuba singabi ngqongqo kakhulu njengoko sibeka emngciphekweni wokudala iingcinga zengqondo kunye nezithintelo ezingeyomfuneko. Izinto ezithile akufuneki zinikwe ukubaluleka ngakumbi kunokuba zinjalo.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka sibonise kubo xa begqitha ekonakaleni okungalunganga. Kuya kufuneka kwenziwe ngokuqina kodwa nangobumnandi obuyimfuneko. Ukuba abenzi mithambo phakathi kwethu phakathi kwento engekhoyo nengamkelekanga, abasayi kuze bayifunde kwenye indawo.
Ngamanye amaxesha ikwangumcimbi wamathuba okukwazi ukubonelela ngobabalo oluthile kunye neenkcazo ezithile. Kukho izinto ezinokuthethwa ngamaxesha athile nakwiindawo ezithile. Nangona abantwana abancinci bethatha ixesha ukujonga ukuba zeziphi izinto ezingahambelaniyo kunye nezingenjalo, ngumzekelo wethu oya kuthi ekugqibeleni usebenze kubo.
Amahlaya njengezilumkiso
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana baphindaphinde isiqhulo esinye baphindaphinde. Kule minyaka yobudala, iindlela eziphindaphindayo zokuziphatha azothusi, kwaye ngakumbi xa sihleka ihlaya labo okokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba unike ingqalelo kuba ezinye iinkxalabo okanye ukutyeba okuncinci kwabantwana kunokutyhilwa kwezi joke ziphindaphindwayo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukuba unyana wethu uhlala esixelela isiqhulo esifanayo "esiluhlaza", usibuza ngolwazi oluthe kratya malunga nesondo olususa imibuzo embalwa emtsalayo okanye emenze adideke.
Amaxesha amaninzi, xa umntwana enyanzelisa ukuba asicaphukise ngamazwi arhabaxa okanye esenza iintloni ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokusityelela, kukho ingxaki angaziyo ukuba angayithetha njani ngenye indlela. Oku kuziphatha kunokuba yindlela yokulumkisa ukuba umonele umzalwana wakho, ukuba uqhuba kakubi esikolweni, okanye ufuna ingqalelo engakumbi kuthi. Kubalulekile ukuba siqwalasele la mabango angathanga ngqo, ukuze sikwazi ukuphendula kwiingxaki zabo kunye nokukhathazeka.
Iingcebiso ngokujongana nembambano yabantakwenu
- Ukuhlekisa ngomlomo kunceda ekusebenziseni imiba eyahlukeneyo yolwimi.
- Ikwazalisekisa umsebenzi obalulekileyo wokunxibelelana. Ncedisa umoya weqela kunye nobuqabane, manyanani kwaye nenze ukungqinelana.
- Abantwana benza abahlobo babo bokuqala, kwaye ukuhleka kunye kuyabanceda.
- Ukuhlekisa kunokubonelela ngodumo kunye nokuthandwa ngoontanga.
- Uburharha bunxulunyaniswa neempawu zobuntu ezinje ngokuxubusha kunye nobuchule.
- Ivelisa amava obunzima kunye nenkqubela phambili yobukrelekrele.
- Ukufunda ukuhleka ngeempazamo zethu kwenza kube lula ukuqondisa kwakhona iimeko ezinokuthi zonyuse uxinzelelo kunye neengxabano zosapho.
- Isitayile semfundo esikhululekileyo nesinyamezelayo sithanda uburharha ebantwaneni, ngelixa uburharha busoloko busilela xa abazali bengqongqo kwaye bengamagunya.
- Umntwana ozijonga gwenxa kufuneka asilumkise: usenokungonwabi.
