Ukunyamezela kukuqina kunye nokunyamezela okuboniswa ngumntu, kwindlela yabo yokuba okanye abenza. Ayisosipho esizalwe sinaso, ke sinako fundisa unyana wethu ukuzingisa. Ukunika umntwana wakho eyona milinganiselo ilungileyo kunye nokufundisa ixesha lokuthathela ingqalelo kunokukhokelela umntwana kweyona ndlela ilungileyo ukusebenza ngaphandle kobunzima ebomini bakho.
Usenokuba uqaphele ukuba umntwana wakho wazalwa enayo. Uninzi lwabantwana lubonisa unyamezelo kodwa ngamanye amaxesha apha endleleni kwaye kumlo wobomi banokuphulukana nawo. Kungenxa yoko le nto sinokufundisa kwaye someleze olu phawu. Abanye, kwelinye icala, abayifuni imfundiso yakhe kunye nabanye abahlukileyo, bade bakhathazwe kukukhathazeka ngokukhawuleza kwaye banikezele ngokukhawuleza.
Ungamfundisa njani umntwana ukuba azingise?
Kubantwana abaninzi olu phawu kunzima ukuluqonda. Kuya kufuneka bayiqonde loo nto ukuze gcwalisa izithintelo kunye nenqanaba kufuneka basebenze ngezakhono zabo. Kwezi zakhono sinokubandakanya umntwana ukuba abone ngakumbi ngakumbi kwaye Kuya kulungela injongo ofuna ukuyiphumeza ngokuhlala uzingile.
Enye indlela yokusebenza nabo kukubenza bayiqonde loo nto sukuncama ngokulula, kufuneka bajolise kwiinjongo zabo kwaye ke baya kuyiphumelela impumelelo abafuna ukuyifumana.
Iziphumo zayo mazinconywe, naxa bengakhange bayenze ngokuchanekileyo, yindlela esele beyiqhubile kwaye nokuba sisiqingatha sendlela, bangavuyiswa ngomsebenzi wabo. Ngale ndlela Ndifuna ukuzama kwakhona ngelinye ixesha ngaphandle koxinzelelo okanye ukukhathazeka.
Yenze icace kuye ayinguye yedwa owenza iimpazamo, ukuba wonke umntu uzama ukwenza izinto zenziwe ngokwenza iimpazamo kunye nokusilela. Yenza isimilo sabo sihle ubuncinci umbonise ukuba yeyakho nawe, kwaye mkhokelele ekufezekiseni injongo.
Akukho kungxama, ke ukuba umntwana ukhululekile kwaye unomdla malunga nombono, kungcono ukuqinisa uthando lwakho kancinci kancinci ngaphandle kokungxama. Ekugqibeleni uza kufumana ubuchule obuyimfuneko kunye ekuhambeni kwexesha uyakuba nesibindi sokujongana nezinye ezininzi.
Indima yokukhuthaza utata okanye umama ibaluleke kakhulu, Umntwana kufuneka eyazi indlela yokusilela kwaye kufuneka akhuthazwe ngelo xesha linzima, yiyo loo nto abanye abantwana bengakunyamezeli ukukhathazeka kakuhle kwaye ukuba abazali abathathi manyathelo afanelekileyo kunokukhokelela kungxabano naye.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ukufumanisa kunzima ukunyamezela kwaye abonakalise ukukhathazeka okukhulu
Xa umnqweno ungazalisekanga okanye inkohliso encinci kunokubangela unxunguphalo olukhulu. Olu hlobo lomsindo lunokuzibonakalisa kakhulu ebantwaneni, kuba abaninzi abazilawuli iimvakalelo zabo kwaye badala uxinzelelo nosizi.
Kule meko, indima yabazali ibaluleke kakhulu. Ngabo kufuneka dlulisa ukuzola kwaye kufuneka ujike oku kusilela kwimpumelelo entsha. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukunqanda ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo kunye nokungabi ngabazali abavumelekileyo ngayo yonke into. Kungenxa yoko le nto umntwana ekwenzile oko ebekufuna ngokulula kwaye engayiqondi inzame, kuya kuhlala kunzima kuye ukujongana neemeko ezimbi.
Ukunciphisa unxunguphalo, kufuna ukuzingisa kwisimo sengqondo sabazali, kufuneka bafundiswe ngothotho lweendlela:
- Bafundise iindlela zokuphumla, nangona kuqala kufuneka siziphumze. Kubalulekile ukwenza indawo ezolileyo kwaye ukuba unexesha lokusinceda iindlela zokuphumla okanye umthambo wokuphefumla.
- Olunye ulwazi olubalulekileyo kukuba ukuba awukwenzi into elungileyo kukunceda unethemba lokuzama kwakhona, ambonise nokuba unantoni na cela uncedo xa ulufuna.
- Nawuphi na umzamo owenzayo uyawuncoma, nokuba kuthabatha ixesha ukwenza into ecetywayo, kwaye xa ingahambanga kakuhle ngendlela, ungabuyela yila umsebenzi omnye kodwa ngesicwangciso esahlukileyo.