Amakhwenkwe namantombazana amaninzi ane ubuntu obufuna kakhulu kuye nakwabanye. Kwelinye icala, abanye, masithi, bayafuna njengembonakaliso yeemfuno zethu, okanye zoluntu ngokubanzi. Nokuba kunjalo, imfuno idala ukunxunguphala kumakhwenkwe namantombazana xa bengakwazi ukuhlangabezana noko kulindelweyo.
Ukuba unomntwana onzima kakhulu, kweli nqaku uya kufumana iingcebiso zokumnceda. Emva komntwana onzima kakhulu kunokubakho a imfuno engxamisekileyo yokubonwa nokuthandwa okanye ukungazithembi.
Ukuzihlola ukuze ukwazi ukuba ungumama onzima
Njengoko besitshilo ekuqaleni, imfuno inokuba yendalo, kodwa ikhona izinto ezinokuwubangela. Zicingisise kwaye uphendule ukuba ungumfazi onyanzelisayo. Ukuba kunjalo, indlela oziphatha ngayo idluliselwa kubantwana bakho, abaya kukubona njengomzekelo omele uwulandele. Sifuna ukucebisa ukuba unayo zilumkele iincoko zakho kunye neengcinga ngokuvakalayo.
Xa unyana okanye intombi yakho isenza umsebenzi othile, nokuba awufezekanga, okanye akunjalo ngendlela obuwulindele ngayo musa ukumgxeka ngolo hlobo. Yiphelise. Musa ukugqiba ukubeka ikona yebhedi ngokufanelekileyo, okanye iimpahla ezisongiweyo njengoko ubuya kuzishiya. Kancinci kancinci baya kufumana izakhono zokuyenza ngcono. Kodwa yiqonde loo mzamo, kwaye uvale umnyango ukuba awuboni ibhedi engenamibimbi.
Esinye isitshixo sokukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba anganyanzelisi kakhulu Musa ukuyithelekisa nabanye. Impumelelo yabo ifanelwe kuko konke ukuqwalaselwa kwakho. Ngaphandle kokuthelekisa nabanye. Ukuba umxelela ukuba ngekwenze bhetele xa kuthelekiswa nabanye, umntwana uya kukhula ethabatha “abanye” njengembekiselo yaye akayi kwaneliseka yimpumelelo yakhe.
Iingcebiso zokufundisa indlela yokulawula inqanaba lemfuno
Ezinye iingongoma eziphambili zokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba anganyanzelisi kakhulu zezi:
- Hlola isimo sakho sengqondo kunye nolwimi. Ukuba utyekele ekufuneni into eninzi kakhulu kuwe, umntwana uyafunda. Yamkele izenzo zakho kwaye inkwenkwe okanye intombazana iya kulandela umzekelo wakho.
- Mthande njengokuba injalo. Ukubeka into efanelekileyo emagxeni omncinci wakho luxanduva oluninzi kuye. Yiyonwabele nje indlela ayiyo, kwaye umazise indlela ayiyo sele egqibelele.
- Mfundise oko iimpazamo azimbi, ezisebenzela ukufunda. Kulungile ukuba senze impazamo.
Musa ukugxeka okanye ukumthethisa, kungcono ukumbonisa ezinye iindlela zokwenza okufanayo. Makhe ndizame kwakhona, okanye ndiyizame ngenye indlela. - Ukuba ngumama kuthetha qaphela izakhono yabantwana bethu. Vumela umntwana avele, thatha ixesha lakhe lokufunda. Yaye ukuba ufuna uncedo, khangela ukuba yeyiphi eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza oko.
- Nceda umntwana wakho nxibelelana neemvakalelo zakho kunye nezimvo ngendlela ecacileyo nethe ngqo. Yena ukuzazi Yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokulawula amandla kunye namanqaku okuphucula. Oku kuzazi kuya kukwenza ube nolindelo olufanelekileyo nolufanelekileyo.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba qiniseka Kuya kukunceda ube nokuzithemba okunempilo. Uya kufunda ukunxulumana nawe kunye nabanye ngaphandle kokuzicingela ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi. Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukwabelana, ukusebenzisana kunye nokuthethathethana.
Izizathu zokuba kutheni umntwana enokuba nzima
Abantu abadala kunye nabantwana, sifuna ukuziva uxatyisiwe yimekobume. Eyona ntshukumisa yethu kukwamkelwa. Ukuziva uxabisekile, ngokukodwa ngabazali bakhe, umntwana uya kusebenzisa zonke izakhono zakhe kwaye kuxhomekeke kwimpendulo yakho, uya kuqhubeka nokugcina loo kuziphatha okanye atshintshe isicwangciso sakhe. Gcina oku engqondweni.
Uluntu lwanamhlanje luxabisa kakhulu umzamo kunye nokuziphucula. Ngoko ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana onzima kwaye ozigxekayo afumane ukuqatshelwa okukhulu kunye nengqalelo. Ngaloo ndlela le ndlela yokuziphatha iya kusekwa emntwaneni, oya kuqonda ukuba ukuba ngcono kufana nokuxatyiswa.
Bonke oomama bangathanda ukuba abantwana bethu babe nobuchule bokuyila, babe krelekrele, babe namathuba ayimfuneko okuzenzela owabo uphononongo kunye nokufikelela ukuzimela. Ukufezekisa oku, kufuneka bazive bekhuselwe kwaye bakhathalelwe ngaphakathi kwamandla abo, anokuphuhliswa, kodwa abe nemida. Le mida yi okulindelweyo esifaka kuzo.