Umdlalo onebhola okanye ibhola ngu omnye wemidlalo oyithandayo yabancinci. Uya kuqaphela ukuba ayizizo izinto zobukhwenkwe, kodwa ngamantombazana kwiimeko ezininzi kwaye elo gunya qalisa imidlalo emntwaneni esemncinci, ndiya kuhlala ndinombulelo Abanye abazali banokuzibuza ukuba "ungamfundisa njani umntwana wakho ukudlala ibhola ekhatywayo", ukuba aqale njani kwaye abeneminyaka emingaphi.
En Madres Hoy Sihlalutya onke amanqaku ukuze ukwazi ukufundisa umntwana wakho omncinci ekhaya ukukhaba ibhola, Yonwabela kwaye ungafunda njani imigaqo encinci yalo mdlalo omnandi kunye nomhlaba wonke.
Ndingamfundisa njani unyana wam ukudlala ibhola?
Ukusukela emncinci kakhulu ukuba sele simqalisile umntwana ukuba aziqhelanise nebhola ekhatywayo. Ngumdlalo wokhuphiswano, kodwa kwenzeka ukuba ngumdlalo kwaye enye yezona zidlalwe kakhulu phakathi kwabantwana nabantu abancinci. Ukuqalisa kwakhe kubandakanya ukuba nebhola ngesandla kunye neenjongo ezincinci ezinenjongo yokukhaba ibhola ukwazi ukukora amanqaku.
Ubuchule obusisiseko bokusebenza kakuhle ngebhola kubandakanya okuhle ukuqhuba ibhola, ukufumana nokulawula ibhola, yazi indlela yokuqhuba kunye nokukhaba, isihloko kunye nokubaleka. Zonke ezi ndlela zichazwe kwiseshoni yoqeqesho kwaye zinokusetyenziswa ngumntwana wakho.
Ibhola ekhatywayo esisiseko yabantwana
Iziphumo ezilungileyo zifunyanwa xa umzali nomntwana wakhe besenza iiseshoni ezahlukeneyo zokufunda, ukudlala kunye nokudlala imidlalo. Ayizukusebenza kakuhle, kodwa nabantwana xa bedlala nabahlobo babo benza okona kulungileyo kulo mdlalo.
Ukudlala akukho ngaphezu koku zama ukukhaba ibhola, ungafumani mntu wokuyithathela kuwe kwaye ugqibe ukuyibeka kwinjongo yokufumana amanqaku. Kukho imithambo eyenziwayo eyenziwayo eludongeni ukuze iphumelele ibhola. Ibhola iphoswa eludongeni, icholwa ngonyawo iphinde ikhatywe kwakhona.
Ungayiphosa ibhola phezulu wayibetha entloko. Kuya kufuneka ubethe ngentloko kwaye hayi ngentloko yentloko. Kananjalo akufuneki uvale amehlo kuba kufuneka ujonge ngamaxesha onke kwaye ubale uyiphosa phi.
Singabeka amakhonkco amancinci okanye iikhowuni emhlabeni kwaye inkwenkwe enebhola kufuneka iyidlulise ibhola ngeenyawo zayo kwaye phakathi kwamanani. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubambe izinto kwaye kufuneka ugcine ulawulo.
Omnye umthambo uquka ukwazi yaphosa ibhola emoyeni. Ukwenza oku siyiphosa phezulu ibhola, masiyiqabele amatyeli aliqela. Kwenye yezo mbiza kuxa kufuneka uzame ukubetha ibhola ngonyawo lwakho kwaye yidubule iye ezipalini.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukwenza uqeqesho oluncinci lwebhola yasekhaya awunakuphulukana nemithambo yokuzifudumeza kwaye ukuba uza kudlala umdlalo ngendlela yesiqhelo kunye nabahlobo okanye usapho unokuhlala uthathela ingqalelo imigaqo yomdlalo.
Eminye imiba emayiqwalaselwe kwibhola ekhatywayo
Ezi ngcebiso zikhawulezayo zongeza kuqheliselo, ukonwaba kunye nokuqonda kwendlela yokwenza dlala ngaphandle koxinzelelo kwibhola ekhatywayo. Lo mdlalo ukonwabele kwaye yinto ekufuneka abazali abaninzi bayithathele ingqalelo abafuna nje ukuba babe ngabadlali bebhola.
Abantwana kufuneka bonwabe, bayazi ukuba bayonwabele njani, akufuneki balahle iifom zabo okanye bakhathazeke kukoyiswa. Ukuba udlala umdlalo osemthethweni kufuneka uyazi ukuba ugcina njani ukoyiswa kwakho kwaye hlonipha izigqibo zomqeqeshi. Kwenzeka into efanayo nakusompempe, kuya kufuneka uthobele nasiphi na isigqibo kwaye oko kuya kuqala kubazali ngokwabo, ekufuneka benike lo mfanekiso wentlonipho.
Kwaye ukuba unyana wakho uyayithanda ibhola, ngekhe abe nesiphumo esihle kakhulu ukuba uyamohlwaya ngaphandle kokuqeqesha okanye ukudlala umdlalo osemthethweni. Olu hlobo lwesigqibo nalohlwaya iqela lonke kwaye akufuneki silibale ukuba ngumdlalo weqela. Ukufunda ngakumbi ngemidlalo ungafunda «izimvo ezimnandi ngemidlalo yebhola » okanye «Ngaba imidlalo yeqela ilungile emntwaneni wakho?