Mhlawumbi uyazi umntwana ozolileyo, omnye wabo batya kwaye balale ngoxolo, abazolileyo kwi-stroller sabo kwaye abajonga yonke into ngovuyo nangokuthula. Ayilulo uhlobo lomntwana olufuna kakhulu. Umntwana ofunwa kakhulu uvuka kwangoko, akanakulinganiswa, Ngeke wazi ngokuchanekileyo ukuba ngubani oza kuvuka, uyakhala kakhulu ukuze akhathalelwe ngabazali bakhe, ufuna ukubanjelwa ezingalweni zabo ukuzola, banovakalelo ...
Babonakala ngathi ziintsana ezinobuntu obuninzi kwaye abanye abazali okanye abantu abangena bantwana bacinga ukuba ziintsana ezonakalisiweyo kwaye zancitshiswa ngabazali babo, kodwa akukho nto inokuqhubeka nenyaniso. Ukusukela kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezifunwa kakhulu ziintsana iimpawu ezinje: ukungazinzi, ukufunxeka, ukuphumla, ukulala kancinci okanye ukuvuka kwangoko, njl.
Abalali ngokulula kwaye kubonakala ngathi bafuna ukulwa ubuthongo ukuze bahlale bephaphile ixesha elide. Banobuntu obunamandla kwaye kubonakala ngathi ziintsana ezixakekileyo, kodwa enyanisweni bakuxelela kuphela ngakumbi ukuba bafuna ntoni kwaye bafuna ntoni ngalo lonke ixesha ... Kubalulekile ukuba bazi ukuba bathini ukuze bakwazi ukubakhonza ngokuchanekileyo.
Usana olunemfuno ephezulu luza kufuna ukuncancisa ngaphezulu, luya kufuna ukubanjwa, ukugungqiswa, luya kufuna ukudibana ngqo nabazali balo. Ezi mfuno zihambelana nobushushu bomntwana. Umntwana ngamnye uzalwa eneseti yeempawu zesimo esimiselweyo indlela aphendula ngayo kumava ahlukeneyo, nokuba angakwazi na ukuzola, ukutya nokulala iipateni ... njl.
Kunokubaphazamisa abazali ukufumanisa ukuba umntwana wabo ngumntwana ofunwa kakhulu. Abazali abatsha banokuzibek 'ityala ngokucinga ukuba benze into engalunganga, oomama banokuziva ukuba xa bekhulelwe benze into engalunganga, mhlawumbi ukuba nexhala okanye ukusebenza kakhulu. Kodwa akukho mntu wenze into embi. Umntwana wakho 'akalunganga' kwaye awusileli ekukhuleni kwakhe. Malunga ne-15% yeentsana zikwimfuno ephezulu kwaye kukho iipesenti ezingama-40 zeentsana 'ezilula'.
Kodwa njengokuba usiya umazi umntwana wakho (uzakudinga ixesha kwaye umntwana wakho kuyakufuneka nokuba aziqonde iimfuno zakhe kwaye aphuhlise izakhono) ubomi buya kuba lula kwaye oko kwakungalindelekanga ngaphambili kuyakubakho amaxesha apho anokuqikeleleka ngakumbi. Kodwa ungamelana njani nomntwana ofunwa kakhulu ukuze uphile ngaphandle koxinzelelo olukhulu kakhulu? Ungaphoswa zezi ngcebiso.
Iingcebiso ngokujongana nomntwana ofunwa kakhulu
Linganisela iimfuno zakho
Nangona umntwana wakho efunwa kakhulu, akufanele ubeke eceleni. Kufuneka uzikhathalele kuba ukuze ukwazi ukukhathalela umntwana wakho kufuneka uzive waphumla (apho kunokwenzeka) kwaye kudlamkile. Ukwanazo neemfuno zakho. Unamava obuzali obukhulu nokuba unemiceli mngeni emininzi kunabanye abazali, kuya kufuneka uxabise amaxesha onokuzenzela wona.
Musa ukulindela izinto ezingekho ngqiqweni
Zama ukubeka ulindelo olungeyonyani ecaleni kuba luya kukhokelela kukukhathazeka. Musa ukuthelekisa nezinye iintsana ezizolileyo okanye ucinge ngolindelo onalo malunga nendlela owawufuna ukuba umntwana wakho abekho ngayo ngaphambi kokuba eze emhlabeni. Yamkela ukuba umntwana wakho unamandla, uyathandeka kwaye uyazingisa ... Kuba eneneni ezi ziimpawu ezintle eziza kumenza aphumelele ebomini. Zizinto ezintle kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba uzibone njengeziphene.
Funda ukufunda imiqondiso yosana lwakho
Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukufunda imiqondiso yomzimba womntwana wakho kunye nezinto afuna ukukuxelela zona ngalo lonke ixesha. Usana olunemfuno ephezulu lunokukuxelela ngaphandle kwamagama ukuba ludinga ntoni ngawo onke amaxesha, ngendlela ekulula ukuluqonda kunalo naluphi na olunye usana, kufuneka unikele ingqalelo kwindlela ekuxelela ngayo. Usenokukuxelela ukuba ufuna umbambe ukuze azole. Mhlawumbi ukuxelela ukuba akayithandi into yokubamba iphepha ... Kuya kufuneka ube nomonde kwinkqubo yokuqonda umntwana wakho, kodwa xa usenza njalo, yonke into iya kuba lula kakhulu.
Uhlangabezana neemfuno zakho
Ukwanelisa iimfuno zabo akuyi kubenza bonakaliswe, baya kuziva ukhuseleko kunye nokukhuseleka ecaleni kwakho, into ebalulekileyo ukuze iintsana ezifuna kakhulu zifumane ukuzola kweli hlabathi lingaqinisekanga. Musa ukoyika ukukhathalela oko kufunwa ngumntwana wakho. Musa ukumamela iingcebiso zabantu ngaphandle kokuba bayayazi imeko yakho kwaye baneemfuno eziphezulu zeentsana. Yintoni esebenzela ezinye iintsana akufuneki isebenzele eyakho.
Cela uncedo xa ulufuna
Kuya kufuneka uphumle kwaye kunzima kakhulu xa unemfuno ephezulu yosana kwaye unalo nolunye uxanduva ebomini bakho (njengomsebenzi, ikhaya ...). Kufuneka ufumane umntu omthembayo akuncede ukhathalele usana lwakho kwaye unethuba lokuphumla, nokuba uhlamba ngamanzi ashushu. Umntwana wakho uya kukhala ngelixa ushiya, kodwa ukuba uqinisekile ukuba loo mntu uthembekileyo unokumthuthuzela kwaye ayisingathe imeko kakuhle, ke sebenzisa ithuba lekhefu. Unokuqesha umntu ogcina umntwana ebusuku ukuze ulale ubusuku bonke, nokuba kukanye ngeveki.
Phuma uhambe rhoqo
Kuyimfuneko ukushiya ikhaya nosana olufunwa kakhulu ukuze azive ekhuthazekile ngokwaneleyo. Ukongeza, ukuphuma nokuba namava kuyanceda ukomeleza ubudlelwane bemvakalelo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana. Ukuba kunokwenzeka ngumbono olungileyo ukufumana abanye abazali ngeentsana ezifunwa kakhulu ngabantwana zokudlala Kwaye ngendlela, yazi ukuba ayinguwe wedwa emhlabeni onosana lwezi mpawu.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ongenakuzibetha ngoyaba ukuba unemfuno ephezulu yosana. Nangona ekuqaleni kunokubonakala kunzima, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba yeyokwexeshana kwaye njengoko usiya umazi umntwana wakho kancinci kancinci yonke into izakuqheleka kwaye uyazi ukuba yintoni efunwa ngumntwana wakho ngalo lonke ixesha, ungazilungiselela iinkqubo ekhaya ukuba okusingqongileyo kuqikelelwe ngakumbi kwaye kuhlelwe wonke umntu.