Kunqabile ukuba kubekhona umzali ongalahlekiyo nomonde nabantwana babo kanye ngemini. Ukufundisa umntwana ayisiyonto ilula kwaye kulula kwaye kukho amaxesha apho kuya kufuneka uzixhome ngomonde omninzi ukuze ungagqibi ukukhwela uKrestu. Abantwana abaluqondi uxinzelelo okanye iishedyuli, into egqibela ngokuphelelwa lithemba kuninzi lwabazali.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokuchaseneyo noko abantu abadala banokucinga, ezi ntlobo zeengxaki azibangelwa yimpazamo yabancinci kuba njengabantwana banemiqobo kwaye abanakubuzwa ukuba baziphathe njengabantu abadala bokwenyani. Kule meko, umonde sisitshixo xa kufikwa kumba wokuphepha iingxaki ezinokuthi zichaphazele wonke umntu.
Uxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla
Ubomi bemihla ngemihla bakhe nawuphi na umntu omdala kunye nomzali uxinzelelo kakhulu kubantwana abancinci endlwini ukuba babuqonde. Abanakucelwa ukuba batye isidlo sakusasa ngokukhawuleza kwaye babaleke ngexesha elifanayo nathi. Isingqisho sabantu abadala asinakufana nesabantwana kwaye kulapho uninzi lweengxaki zemihla ngemihla zivela khona. Akunakubuzwa ukuba babe noxinzelelo njengabazali babo kwaye kulapho umonde ungena khona.
Kuya kufuneka uyazi indlela yokwahlula ubomi bakho bomsebenzi kubomi bosapho kwaye ungabarhuqi abantwana bakho kuxinzelelo lwemihla yabazali babo. Uninzi lwempikiswano phakathi kwabazali nabantwana kungenxa yento yokuba abantu abadala kunqabile ukuba babe nomonde kwisimo sabantwana kwaye baphele bekhwaza bephikisana kaninzi ngemini. Apha sikunika uthotho lweengcebiso kunye nezikhokelo ekufuneka uzilandele ukufezekisa umonde ngakumbi kubantwana bakho:
- Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuhlala phantsi nomntwana wakho nithethe ngento yokuba kukho uthotho lwemithetho kunye nemida ekhaya ekufuneka ihlonitshwe. Kuya kufuneka umenze aqonde ukuba kwimeko yokungathobeli kubo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uphele uphelelwa ngumonde kwaye ube nomsindo ngale meko. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ufike apho xa usazi ukuba uyayamkela njani le mithetho, yonke into izakulunga.
- Kukwabalulekile ukufaka umntwana wakho esemncinci ngexabiso elibaluleke njengomonde. Kuya kufuneka ke ukhokele ngomzekelo kwaye ube nomonde kangangoko ukuze abone ukubaluleka kwexabiso elinjalo kwaye umkhonze kwikamva elingekude kakhulu.
- Kwimeko apho sele uza kuqhuma, kungcono ushiye indawo enengxaki, thatha umoya kwaye ubale ukuya kwishumi. Nje ukuba uzive ungcono, ungabuyela kwaye uthethe nomntwana wakho malunga nokusombulula ingxaki. Kule meko kulunge ngakumbi ukunqanda ukungqubana kwaye wenze umonde sesona sixhobo silungileyo.
- Ngamaxesha oxinzelelo olukhulu kunye nokusilela komonde, Iingcali ezininzi zicebisa ukuba uzifake ezicathulweni zomntwana kwaye ubone umhlaba ngendlela omncinci alibona ngayo.
- Elinye icebo kukuphuhlisa isicwangciso semisebenzi yemihla ngemihla ukuze umntwana wakho azi kakuhle ukuba enze ntoni ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Iinkqubo zemihla ngemihla zigqibelele xa kufikwa kumba wokuba umntwana amkele imigaqo yendlu kwaye amkele ukuba noxanduva.
Ngelishwa, ukungabikho komonde yenye yeengxaki ezinkulu kwiintsapho namhlanje.. Abazali baphulukana nemithambo-luvo yabo ubuncinci kwaye ayisiyonto intle leyo xa kufikwa kumba wokufundisa abantwana kunye nokudlulisa uthotho lwamaxabiso abanceda bakhule njengabantu. Kufuneka ube nomonde ebomini, ngakumbi xa kufikwa kubudlelwane bakho nabantwana bakho. Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba abantwana ngabantwana kwaye banokuthelekiswa nabantu abadala.