Ukuba liqabane lendoda enabantwana ayifanelanga ukuba yingxaki, okoko uqondayo ukuba abantwana bakhe kufuneka bahlale beza kuqala kuye. Ngendlela efanayo ukuba baya kuba kuwe, xa kwenzeka ukuba nguwe ozisa abantwana kubudlelwane. Mhlawumbi ngaxa lithile usenokucinga ukuba kunzima kakhulu, nkqu nabafazi abaninzi bayala ukuphuma nabo amadoda anabantwana.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba sisibini kunye nendoda enabantwana inokuba lithuba elihle lokufumana indoda enoxanduva, into ethi amaxesha amaninzi ibe ngutata. Yintoni egqithisile, unokuba ngumntu obalulekileyo kubomi babo bantwana, ngaphandle kokuba ubengumama wabo. Ngoku, ukusuka kumzuzu wokuqala kufuneka ubenenyani kolu hlobo lobudlelwane.
Kunjani ukuba sisibini nendoda enabantwana?
Ukuba yindoda enoxanduva, into eqhelekileyo kukuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka nabantwana bakhe kwaye uyabakhumbula ngalo lonke ixesha. Ngokufanelekileyo, Kuya kufuneka uthathe ukuba iqabane lakho alizokwazi ukwenza izicwangciso ngokuzenzekelayo kuba uya kuhlala ukhumbula ishedyuli yexesha lakho nabantwana bakho. Kodwa endaweni yokubona oku njengento engalunganga, khumbula ukuba ukuchitha ixesha nabantwana kuthetha ukwenza izicwangciso zokuhlekisa kunye ezahlukeneyo, kwaye kunye ninokonwaba ngezinto ezilula njengepiknik elizweni okanye usuku kwipaki yokonwabisa.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu - intlalontle yabantwana
Into yokuba abangobantwana bakho ayithethi kuthi akufuneki ujonge intlalo-ntle yabo bancinane. Oko kukuthi, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ufune ingqalelo kwiqabane lakho, nangona kunjalo, abantwana kufuneka beze kuqala. Akukho meko kufanele ukuba uphazamise ubudlelwane bendoda leyo nabantwana bayo, Ngaphandle kokuba ngendlela elungileyo. Awuyi kuba ngumama, kodwa unokuba ngumhlobo kunye neqabane labo bancinci abaza kuba neengxaki nabazali babo, njengokuba sonke senza ngexesha elithile ebomini.
Uzakudibana nabantwana babo?
Abantwana babazali abahlukanisiweyo sele bephethe umnqamlezo omncinci kubo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba badlule kumaxesha oxinzelelo kwaye bayasokola kuba abanalo usapho olumanyeneyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uxanduva kwaba bantwana. Ukuba iqabane lakho lizisa ngokwazisa kubantwana babo, ngaphambi kokwamkela Kuya kufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo enkulu ukuba uyafuna na ukuba nekamva neqabane lakho.
Awungekhe ungene kubomi babantwana ukuba emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa ubudlelwane buya kuphela. Oko kuyakongeza ukubandezeleka kubomi babo bantwana, ekusenokwenzeka ukuba bakuthandile. Ke ngoko, cinga kakuhle ukuba ubudlelwane busendleleni elungileyo kwaye ukuba ufuna ukulinda ithutyana, thetha ngokunyaniseka neqabane lakho kwaye ulihlehlise ixesha lokwazisa.
Ungaze uthethe kakubi ngomama wakhe
Kungenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho libe neengxaki kunina wabantwana bakhe, kuba kwiimeko ezininzi ubudlelwane buhamba ngezigaba ezibuhlungu kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba zigqibeke. Ukuba iqabane lakho liya kuwe kwaye lithethe ngomama wabantwana bakhe, Qiniseka ukuba kubucala kwaye aba bantwana abafumani malunga nezi zinto. Kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu, awusoze uthethe kakubi ngomama wakhe.
Ayinamsebenzi nokuba ucinga ukuba ungoyena mntu ulunge ngakumbi okanye mbi, okanye uyavelana neqabane lakho kunye neengxaki zabo kuye ngaphambili. Kwabo bantwana, Umama wakhe ungomnye wabantu ababaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakhe kwaye ke ngoko wonke umntu kufuneka ayihloniphe ngaphezulu kwezinto zonke. Kulumkele ukongeza ukubandezeleka kubomi baba bantwana, abangabona baphantsi besola ngemeko abahlangabezana nayo.
Yiba nomonde kwabo bantwana
Akusayi kuba lula kubo ukwamkela ukuba abazali babo abasekho kunye, kwaye ukubona abanye abantu bengena ebomini babo kuya kuba nzima ekuqaleni. Musa ukubanyanzela, bayeke bazi kancinci kancinci kwaye kungekudala bazokuyiqhela kule nyaniso intsha. Ukuba sisibini kunye nendoda enabantwana kungangummangaliso, unokuba nefuthe kwaba bantu ngendlela elungileyo kwaye kunye benze usapho oluhle.