elinde umntwana Linqanaba ekufuneka linikezelwe ngengqokelela enkulu yeemvakalelo. umfazi okhulelweyo yongeza eli nqanaba ngovakalelo olukhulu Yiyo loo nto inzolo kufuneka ilawule kweli lizwe. Kukho izizathu ezibonisa ukuba ukukhulelwa akukwazi ukuqhubeka kunye noyise okanye ngenkxaso elindelekileyo, ngenxa yoko siyakumema ukuba wazi 'ukuba wenze ntoni xa ukhulelwe kwaye uwedwa'.
Zininzi izizathu zale meko. Iqabane okanye uxanduva lweemvakalelo olungenakuhamba kunye nomfazi okhulelweyo luba ngumngeni. Ukwahlukana ngokweemvakalelo, ukufa kukabawo, okanye ubawo okhulelweyo ongafuniyo ukuthwala imbopheleleko yobutata kunokuba mnandi gqitha. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ukhetho kunye nesigqibo somama ofuna jongana nobumama ngaphandle kweqabane, kodwa kusekho ukungakhuseleki ebusweni bentando enjalo.
Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba ukhulelwe kwaye wedwa?
Siphakamisa le ngongoma njengesiqalo okanye ukuhamba kweso sigaba esitsha apho ungumfazi kwaye uya kuzala unyana wedwa. Kuya kufuneka ujonge kuyo yonke into embi ukuze ufumane ezona mpembelelo zibalaseleyo zokucinga ukuba zilungile. Kwaye enye yazo kukuba, ukufika komntwana, ihlala iyintsikelelo.
Ukujongana nokuba ngumama ongatshatanga kuthetha ukuba utata akadweliswanga njengomnye umntu onoxanduva yokukhuliswa kwakhe nayo yonke loo nkxaso engenamiqathango kumama wakhe. Kodwa sinokuqinisekisa ukuba inokusoloko ifumaneka Ininzi inkxaso evela kubahlobo kunye nosapho.
Nabani na onikela uncedo Konke sisipho kuba ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukubandakanyeka ekucwangciseni inxalenye yoko kukhuliswa okanye ithowusti ngamaxesha athile ukuba inkxaso ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasengqondweni. Naluphi na uhlobo loncedo alufanele lunqatshelwe, ekubeni ekuhambeni kwexesha lunokulimaza ukungenwa kowesifazane.
Ekuphela kwenqanaba elizele kukungaqiniseki lelo lenzekayo ngexesha lokukhulelwa Ukuba ungumama omtsha, mhlawumbi unentloko egcwele amathandabuzo amaninzi malunga nokukhuliswa kwakho. Zama ukungavumeli ukukhulelwa kuqhube ikhosi ngaphandle kokufuna umntu onokukukhapha kuhlaziyo. Ukuba kukho iindaba ezilungileyo malunga nendlela oqhubela phambili ngayo inyanga nenyanga kwaye nangomzuzu xa iindaba zesini sakho zibhengezwa, inkampani yomhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho ibalulekile yabelana ngolo vuyo.
Nditsho kukho iiseshoni zobuso ngobuso nomdlezana apho ukunceda ukuncancisa kunye nokulungiselela ukuzala. Apha ungadibana nabasetyhini abakwimeko efanayo nawe kwaye unokuhlala Yabelana ngayo nayiphi na imibuzo okanye ukungakhuseleki. Kuyathuthuzela ukwazi ukuba kwesi sigqibo sibambekayo, awuyi kuba wedwa.
Emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe awusayi kuba nexesha elingakumbi lokucinga ngawo onke loo mathandabuzo, ngokuqinisekileyo ithuku likamama liya kukunceda kunye nexesha elicela umntwana liza kugcwalisa yonke loo mizuzu yosuku.
Xa umntwana sele ezelwe
Ukugxila ekwamkeleni loo mntwana kuya kwenza uthando alunamiqathango. Imbono yobomi yahluke ngokupheleleyo kwaye uya kugxila kumbono wekamva ngenye indlela. Kuya kufuneka uzive unebhongo ngento oyenzileyo kwaye ukusukela ngoku kufuneka wenze njalo zonwabele ezo nyanga zokuqala zobomi bakho kwaye ukuba cwaka kakhulu.
Ebudeni beenyanga ezimbini okanye ezintathu zokuqala zobomi bomntwana, yonke into isenokubonakala ingumbhodamo. Ibhinqa elingazange libe nanzala lisenokuzifumana likwimeko eyahluke ngokupheleleyo kuleyo lalihlala kuyo. Ngoku qha unexesha lomntwana kwaye phantse akukho xesha lakhe. Kweli nqanaba kufuneka yehlisa olo xinzelelo lomzimba nolwengqondo kwaye uzame ukwenza uninzi lwale meko ukholelwa ukuba luhambo olude.
Njalo funa inkxaso kwimeko yakho, bathembe abantu abakungqongileyo kwaye uzivumele ukuba uncedwe lusapho nabahlobo. Kwi-intanethi ungabonisana nayo nayiphi na iwebhusayithi ekunceda ukuba uthwale ukukhulelwa kunye nokuba ngumzali ngcono kakhulu. Ukuba kukho naluphi na uhlobo isiseko esinceda abazali abangenamaqabane omtshato, Bekungayi kuba kubi ukuzama ukufumana uhlobo oluthile lwenkxaso okanye uhlobo oluthile lobutyebi bezoqoqosho obunokunikezelwa.