Ukwahlukana kunye noqhawulo-mtshato akulula, ngakumbi xa kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo. Kwiimeko ezingcono kakhulu, abazali bayakwazi ukugcina ikhonkco lemvisiswano nangona umgama, inyaniso enempembelelo entle kubantwana, abanokugcina ingcamango yosapho-eyahlukileyo mhlawumbi-kodwa intsapho nangona kunjalo. Kwezinye iimeko, i-dialogue iba yinto engenakwenzeka kwaye kukho ukuthula kuphela okanye, okubi nakakhulu, abazali ababeka ubuhlobo kunye nomnye wabazali. yenzaYintoni omawuyenze xa umntwana wakho ekuchasile?
Akuwona umbuzo olula ukuwuphendula ekubeni ukoyisa le meko kuyimfuneko ukwenza inkqubo enzulu yophuhliso lomntu kwaye ngokunxulumene neqabane langaphambili. Oku ngenjongo yokuzuza unxibelelwano oluqinisekisayo ukuze kuxhamle abantwana. Akusoloko kuyinto elula, amagqubu amaninzi, iimvakalelo kunye namabango adityaniswa kule nxaki yesisombululo esinzima.
Abantwana phakathi, abantwana ngokuchasene
Indlela yokuhlangabezana nengcamango yokuba unyana wethu akathembi ukuba singubani? yenzaYintoni omawuyenze xa umntwana wakho ekuchasile Kwaye awukwazi ukufumana indlela yokoyisa umgama? Ukuze oku kwenzeke, imeko kufuneka ibe nokwakheka okuntsokothileyo okuya kubangela imeko enjalo. Le asiyonto eyenzekayo ngephanyazo, ingakumbi ukuba bobabini abazali baye bagcina ulwalamano olusondeleyo nabantwana babo de kwaba lixesha lokwahlukana.
Kodwa kuyacaca ukuba akukho ziqinisekiso emva kokuhlukana, ngakumbi ukuba ikhula ngendlela embi. Kwezi meko kuyenzeka ukuba kwabanye abazali abantwana babe sisidube-dube semfazwe. Ngabo bafuna kuphela ukwenzakalisa elinye icala, ngaloo ndlela baphulukana nazo zonke iintlobo zemida, eyabo kunye neyabanye. Kule meko, abantwana bangamaxhoba amakhulu embali, abantu abamsulwa abanelungelo lokuba nobudlelwane nabazali babo ngamnye, ilungelo lokunyamekela kunye nokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo.
Kodwa kwiintsapho ezininzi, lo mboniso ufanelekileyo awenzeki. Kukho abazali abafuna ukwenzakalisa omnye umzali ngokubahlukanisa ngokweemvakalelo abantwana babo, bebaxelela iinguqulelo ezigqwethekileyo zenyaniso. Okanye ukutolikwa kweziganeko ezithile. Le yinto eqhelekileyo, abantwana bashiywe phakathi kweenguqulelo zabazali ngaphandle kokwazi inyani kwaye njengabalamleli bongquzulwano lwabantu abadala abangafanele babe yinxalenye yalo.
Unxibelelwano lokuqinisekisa
Ukufumana ukukhanya ekupheleni kwetonela akuyona into elula. Umongo unokuba nzima kakhulu kwezinye iimeko, ngakumbi xa kuziwa kubantwana abancinci. Abantwana banokuchaza oko bakuva ngomnye wabazali babo ukwala ukuchitha ixesha kunye okanye ukungalithembi ilizwi lakhe. Kwezona meko zinzima kakhulu, bathi abafuni kuhlala emakhayeni abo okanye babacel’ umngeni ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ku abazali abanabantwana abachasayo kunzima ukuhlala uzolile, nangona kunjalo oku kungundoqo ekuphumezeni iziphumo ezilungileyo. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, kuba gcina abantwana. Ingcebiso enkulu kukuba ungaze uphulukane nogxininiso lokuba ukhathalelo kufuneka lusuka kubazali luye ebantwaneni. Ezi azifanele zibe phakathi kwiinguqulelo kodwa oyena mzali owamkelayo uya kuba noxanduva lokubeka amalaphu abandayo aze anyamezele umsindo womntwana okanye amazwi akhe ukuze akwazi ukwenza iimvakalelo zabantwana aze abancede badlule kuzo esazi ukuba kukho enye inyaniso kodwa ngaphandle kokutsho. Ngokucacileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha izimbo zomzimba zithetha ngaphezu kwamagama, kuqhelekile kubantwana abakhuselweyo, abakhathalelwayo nabaphulaphulwayo, oko kukuthi, bahlaliswe ngokweemvakalelo, ngokuthe ngcembe banokuqalisa ukujonga baze bazenzele ezabo izigqibo.
Kwezona meko zinzima kakhulu kwaye ukuba uzame unxibelelwano oluqinisekisayo ngazo zonke iindlela, ungadibana negqwetha losapho ukuze likucebise ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqhubeka, usoloko ufuna impilo entle yabantwana.