Ukufundisa nokunyanga umntwana onomdla kakhulu ayisiyonto ilula nelula kubazali. Kukho abantwana abazalwa benomgangatho onjalo kwaye kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba mawuphathwe njani ukuze umntwana angasokoli ngaphezulu kwemfuneko. Umntwana onolwazelelelo uyakwazi ukudibanisa izinto ezahlukeneyo zobomi bakhe neemvakalelo azivayo ngamaxesha onke.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kukunceda uchonge umntwana ontununtunu kwaye Sikubonisa izikhokelo ekufuneka zilandelwe ngabazali ukuze bafumane eyona mfundo ibalaseleyo.
Indlela yokuqonda umntwana ontununtunu
Kwimeko yabancinci, Kulula ukubona ukuba zithambile.
- Bafuna ukudibana ngokwasemzimbeni ngawo onke amaxesha emini kwaye uthando lwabazali bakhe.
- Bahlala bechaza amaxesha ahlukeneyo abaphila ngemini yabo ngemibala eyahlukeneyo okanye amavumba.
- Uyawuthanda umculo.
- Banovelwano kwaye banxibelelana okwangoku kunye iimvakalelo y iimvakalelo zabanye abantu.
- Aba ngabantwana abayithathela ingqalelo yonke into. Ukuba bafumana isohlwayo kubazali babo, bahlala bebuhlungu kwangoko bade balile.
- Bahlala benoluvo lwesithandathu xa kuziwa ekuchongeni indlela umntu osondeleyo ngokweemvakalelo.
- Xa kuziwa kufunda incwadi okanye ukubukela imovie, bayakwazi ukubonisa uthotho lweemvakalelo ezingaboniswa ngabanye abantwana.
Indlela yokukhulisa umntwana ontununtunu
- Umntwana onomdla ufuna uthando nothando kubantu abasondeleyo. Bangabantwana ababamba iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo zabazali babo ngokukhululeka okukhulu. Bayakwazi ukuxelela xa abazali babo bonwabile okanye benomsindo. Ngokunxulumene nemfundo nenkxaso, abazali kufuneka balandele uthotho lwezikhokelo okanye amanyathelo acacileyo:
- Kubalulekile ukukhuthaza unxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo nabanye ngalo lonke ixesha. Umntwana obuthathaka kufuneka ayazi indlela yokwala hayi kwiimeko ezithile.
- Kuya kufuneka ukhuthaze ukuzithemba nokuzithemba emntwaneni. Kuhle ukuba umncinci akwazi ukuveza into ayicingayo ngalo lonke ixesha ngaphandle kokuziva kakubi ngayo.
- Umntwana kufuneka eyazi ukuba yonke into eyenzeka kuye akufuneki idlalwe kwaye ukuba kukho isisombululo seengxaki ezahlukeneyo.
- Omncinci kufuneka abe noluhlu lwezixhobo zokumnceda ukuzikhusela yeengxaki ezinokuvela imihla ngemihla.
Yintoni ekufuneka uyiphephe ukuba umntwana u-ethe-ethe
Ngaphandle kwento eboniswe ngasentla, kubalulekile ukunqanda izinto ezahlukeneyo ezinokuthintela imfundo efanelekileyo yomntwana ontununtunu:
- Kuyimfuneko ukuthintela ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba umntwana angajongani neemeko ezahlukeneyo angabinako ukuzisingatha. Kuya kufuneka ukhule ngokwaneleyo ukuze ukwazi ukujongana neengxaki ezahlukeneyo ezenzeka mihla le.
- Ukuba umntwana akenzi nto kakuhle kwaye indlela aziphethe ngayo ayichanekanga, kubalulekile ukuba ungamgwebeli phambi kwabantu, ke awunazintloni ngayo. Kungcono ukwenze ekhaya kwaye uphephe ukuba nexesha elibi kakhulu.
- Abazali akufuneki bamngxolise nangaliphi na ixesha kuba nje evakalisa iimvakalelo zakhe. Yinto ekufuneka ithintelwe, ngakumbi ukuba encinci inovakalelo.
- Ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo yimpazamo eyenziwa ngabazali abaninzi ekukhuliseni abantwana abanovakalelo. Kuhle ukuba unenkululeko kwaye ukwazi ukusombulula iingxaki ezahlukeneyo oqubisana nazo mihla le.
Ngamafutshane, ukuba sele kunzima ukufundisa umntwana onokuthi acingwe ngento eqhelekileyo, okuninzi ngakumbi kukwenza nomntwana obonisa ubuntununtunu obungasentla komndilili. Abazali kufuneka bayazi indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezahlukileyo zomntwana wabo ngalo lonke ixesha ukuze indlela abaziphethe ngayo ifaneleke kwaye bangasokoli ngaphezu kwemfuneko.