Nawuphi na utata emhlabeni ubanqwenelela okuhle abantwana bakhe kwaye uzama ukumkhusela ukuze ahlupheke kancinane kangangoko. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuvumela iifayile ze- bantwana yazi ukuba ungalwa njani nobunzima obahlukeneyo bobomi kwaye ujongane nazo ngaphandle kwengxaki. Olu luqilima, ixabiso ekufuneka belifundile besebancinci kwaye kufanele ukuba ibe yeyona nto iphambili kwimfundo yabo.
Ngelishwa, ubomi bugcwele amaxesha amabi kwaye kubalulekile ukuba abancinci bazi indlela yokujongana nezi zihlandlo ngaphandle kokusilela kunye namandla. Nazi izikhokelo eziza kukunceda ufundise ukomelela kubantwana bakho.
Yintoni ukomelela?
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyazi ngaphambi kwayo yonke into kukwazi ukuba yintoni ukuxhathisa. Kukukwazi komntu ukujamelana neemeko ezinzima kunye nobunzima obuzalwe ebomini. Ngale ndlela, inokubhekisa ekuswelekeni komntu omthandayo okanye kwinto yokungaphangeli. Lixabiso elinokufundwa ukususela ebuntwaneni ke imfundo ngabazali ngumba ophambili. Kubalulekile ukujongana neengxaki zobomi kwaye abantwana kufuneka bayazi indlela yokujongana nabo ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye bahlala bengenzi nto kwaye iingalo ziwele.
Indlela yokubethelela ukomelela ebantwaneni
- Into ebalulekileyo xa ufundisa ukomelela kwabantwana kukubafundisa ukuba bakholelwe ukuba banako ukoyisa naluphi na uhlobo lwengxaki. Ukuzithemba kubalulekile kuba kungenjalo ngekhe bakwazi ukoyisa iingxaki ezizayo.
- Abazali mabavumele abantwana babo benze uthotho lwezigqibo ukuze bakwazi ukuzilinga ngamaxesha onke ukuba bayakwazi ukoyisa iingxaki ezahlukeneyo kwaye ukuba akunjalo, wazi iziphumo ezinokubakho.
- Umntwana kufuneka athathe isigqibo ngawo onke amaxesha kwaye ukuba izinto zihamba gwenxa, abazali kufuneka babe secaleni lakhe bamxhase kuyo nantoni na eyimfuneko. Ukuba, ngokuchaseneyo, ukufezekisile oko ebekufuna, kuya kufuneka umvuze ukuze azi ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba ukwenzile ngokugqibeleleyo. Ngaloo nto, Uya kukhulisa ukuzithemba kwabo kwaye baya kuba nakho ukujongana neengxaki zexesha elizayo ngaphandle koloyiko.
- Abantwana kufuneka babenokhuseleko kunye nokuzithemba maxa onke ukuba abazali babo bangakubo ukubaxhasa kwimeko apho benze iimpazamo kwizigqibo zabo. Le nyaniso yokuziva ixhaswe, inyusa kakhulu ukomelela okukhankanywe ngasentla.
- Ukubenza bakwazi ukuzithemba kubalulekile ekufundeni ukomelela. Kungumsebenzi wabazali ukubenza bonwabe kwaye bathathe inxaxheba kwimidlalo eyahlukeneyo nakwimisebenzi yokufezekisa impumelelo kunye neenjongo ezahlukeneyo.
- Izinto azisoloko zifezekiswa okokuqala kwaye amaxesha amaninzi kuya kufuneka ulwe ukufezekisa injongo oyifunayo. Abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuba akuncedi nto ukuthoba iingalo kwangethuba. Yiloo nto ukomelela okubandakanya, ekulweni neenzima ezinokubakho ebomini.
- Isiluleko sokugqibela ekufuneka usifundise umntwana wakho malunga nokomelela kukuba kuhlala kukho indlela yokuphuma, nokuba kunzima ukufumana isisombululo esithile. Kuya kufuneka ujonge iindlela ezizezinye de ube ufumana eyona ifanelekileyo.
- Ukomelela kubaluleke kakhulu ekubetheleleni kwimfundo yomntwana. Ukumenza akwazi ukomelela akuthethi ukuba akanazimvakalelo kwaye akasokoli. Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana abandezeleke okanye abe nexesha elinzima lokujongana nesiganeko esibi. Nangona kunjalo, enkosi ukomelela, uya kuba nezixhobo ezoneleyo zokulawula lo mqobo ngendlela ebalaseleyo kwaye ungabambeki ungazi ukuba wenzeni.
Bobabini abantu abadala nabantwana kufuneka bayazi indlela yokusabela kwiziganeko ezithile ebomini kwaye banike isisombululo ngendlela eyaneleyo.