Ngamnye wethu wahlukile kwaye wahlukile kwabanye. Nguwo lo mmangaliso wezidalwa, ukuba akukho zibini zifanayo. Sonke sinobuntu bethu kwaye siyabulela kuloo nto, sinokuba kuluntu olugcwele izinto ezilungileyo (kwaye azilunganga kangako). Kodwa oku, kuyimfuneko ukuyigxininisa kubantwana ukuze baqonde ukuba njengabo, akukho namnye. Kulapho ukubaluleka komntu ngamnye!
Enye indlela yokwenza oku kukulibala ngothelekiso phakathi kwabantwana. Umntwana ngamnye wahlukile kwaye ukhethekile kwaye kufuneka abhiyozelwe ubuntu bakhe. Musa ukuthelekisa abantwana kunye nabanye kuba bahluke kakhulu ukuthelekisa, kwaye ngamnye uneempawu ezimangalisayo. Fumanisa yonke into ekufuneka uyazi malunga nesihloko esisikhathazayo namhlanje, kuba siyakumangalisa!
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Yintoni ukubaluleka komntu ngamnye?
Siqala kwinkcazo ukwenza kucace kancinci malunga nento esithetha ngayo kunye nokubaluleka esiza kukugxininisa kakhulu namhlanje. Sinokuthi luluhlu lweempawu ezibekwe kumntu ngamnye. Kuba zonke zinento yazo, into engafaniyo nomntu ophambi kwethu kwaye yiyo eyenza umahluko. Ngamnye kuthi unobuntu bakhe obufanele ukuhlonelwa ngokungathi sisipho. Kuba iyinto eyodwa kwaye injalo, kufuneka sihlale siyinyamekela ngelixa siyikhuthaza. Oku sisi inceda ukudala zombini izakhono esinazo kunye namandla ahamba nathi kuhambo lwethu. Ngesi sizathu, umntu ngamnye uya kusinika inkuthazo eyimfuneko yokwenza ngendlela eyodwa..
Indlela yokusebenza komntu ngamnye kubantwana
Ukuba unabantwana abangaphezu kwesinye, kunokwenzeka ukuba nokuba bangamawele, baya kuba ngathi ubusuku nemini. Ubuntu obahluke ngokupheleleyo nangona bephuma kwisibeleko esinye. Kwaye lo ngumlingo wobomi. Kumnandi ukuba abantwana bahlukile kuba ngaloo ndlela singafunda omnye komnye. Akukho mntwana kufuneka abaluleke ngakumbi kunomnye, Zahlukile nje kwaye iyantlukwano kunye nobuntu babo yinto ebenza babe mhle.
Ke, ukuze sisebenze kumntu ngamnye ebantwaneni, kufuneka sivumele ubuchule babo ukuba bubonakale. Siza kukuvumela ukuba uziveze kwaye ngenxa yoko, siya kuyihlonipha indlela yakho yokucinga. (Ukuba nje akukho nanye ebeka ingozi kuye okanye kwindawo yakhe). Asifanele simnyanzele ukuba acinge ngendlela ethile, ukuba akacingi njengathi, naye uya kulunga. Kufuneka umenze azive ekhululekile kwaye ufunde ukuthetha oko akuvayo kwaye ukhankanye izinto ezithandayo imihla ngemihla, kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye singalibali ukubaxabisa ngokupheleleyo, ukubhiyozela impumelelo yabo kunye nokuqhubeka nokubakhuthaza ukuba bafezekise izinto ezinkulu ebomini. Isishwankathelo, kufuneka umnike inkululeko ethile kwisihloko esinje ukuze indalo ikhona kwimisebenzi yakhe okanye imidlalo.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuqaphela abantwana bethu
Kuthethwa ngolu hlobo, kubonakala ngathi sithetha ngokubaqaphela phakathi kwabantu abaninzi kwaye ayisiyiyo kanye le nto siyifunayo ngeli xesha. Kungenxa yokuba ‘ukuqonda’ kumbandela wobuntu ngabanye kukuhlonipha nokunika ixabiso kwizinto azithandayo okanye izinto azikhethayo umntwana ngamnye. Ngaxeshanye, Kukwabakhuthaza kwiinjongo zabo kunye nokufumana okona kulungileyo kubo, kunye nokubheja kumandla abo, okuya kuba baninzi ngokuqinisekileyo.. Ngenxa yokuba xa bezithemba yaye benalaa ntshukumisa besiyikhankanyile ngaphambili, baya kukuphumeza ngempumelelo oko bebezimisele ukukwenza. Kungoko sinokuthi abazali badlala indima 'yabakhokeli'.
Iimpazamo zabazali kwindlela yomntu ngamnye
Njengoko besesitshilo, indima yabazali isebenzisa isihloko sesikhokelo. Sifuna ukubafundisa indlela elungileyo, kodwa ukuze senjenjalo, simele siyeke ‘ukwalathisa’ ezinye iimeko. Kuba ezinye zeempazamo ezihlala ziqala ukusuka koku:
- Sombulula zonke iingxaki okanye umsebenzi wasekhaya: Sibanqwenelela okuhle yaye yiyo loo nto uncedo esinokubanika lona kukubafundisa kodwa singabenzeli umsebenzi.
- funa isingqisho esithile: Kufuneka sibayeke balandele ezabo. Kufuneka bazenzele izigqibo, kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
- Bangxolise xa bengafikelelanga kwiinjongo zabo: Ngokwahlukileyo koko, simele sibaxhase kwaye sibabonise uthando oluyimfuneko ukuze baqhubeke besebenza baze ekugqibeleni bafezekise iinjongo zabo. Bamele benze iimpazamo baze bakhubeke ukuze bafunde.
- Ziphephe iimpazamo zakho: Kufuneka baqonde ukuba yintoni umonde kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, ukudakumba. Asinakuthatha amaphepha abo, kodwa sibacebise. Kuba kungenjalo abayi kuxabisa izinto ezintle zomgudu kunye nokusebenza nzima.
- Thelekisa: Ungakulinge utshintshe abantwana bakho, ungabafuni babe zizinto ezingezizo okanye bazakube besenza inyani yabo. Ukuba ubathelekisa nabazalwana babo, uya kufumana ingqumbo nentiyo kuphela. Ngokukhawuleza umamkela umntwana wakho ngoko akuko kwaye unokufikelela kuye ukuze abhiyozele ukuba yedwa kwakhe, ngokukhawuleza umntakwenu uya kujoyina ekubhiyozeleni nasekuxhaseni umntakwenu kwizinto anomdla kuzo, izinto azithandayo, kunye namandla. Injongo kukuququzelela inkxaso ngaphakathi kosapho kwaye abazali kufuneka babe ngumzekelo obalaseleyo.
Xa abantwana befunda ukubamkela ubuntu obuthile entsatsheni, baya kukwazi ukukwamkela ngaphandle kwekhaya. Baya kufunda ukunandipha abanye abantu nokuba bahlukile kubo. Kanye apho kukho isiseko sobuntu!
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