Kwiintsapho zanamhlanje abafazi namadoda banendima efanayo ekukhuliseni abantwana nasekunyamekeleni ikhaya. Kodwa igama elithi 'usapho lwangoku' kufuneka lihlale nje 'iintsapho', kuba yinto eqhelekileyo leyo: ukuba amadoda kunye nabasetyhini banobunzima obufanayo ekhaya. Inqanaba apho amadoda nabasetyhini banokudlula ngaphaya kwendima engqongqo kunye nesikelwe umda kwinqanaba abanokuthi babe nokuziqhelanisa nalo kwiimfuno eziguqukayo zobomi.
Ukomelela kuyafuneka kumacala omabini ukuze ukukwazi ukusingatha kakuhle imiqobo enokuvela ebomini. Kuyafuneka ukuba nobabini nikhuselwe ekuphoxekeni okanye kwingqumbo ngokwazi ukuba yintoni indima kunye noxanduva lwenu ngaphakathi kwekhaya, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwesondo, kunye nokukhulisa abantwana kunye nokusebenza ekhaya.
Yintoni ukubhetyebhetye entsatsheni
Sinokuyichaza njenge uhlobo lokuziqhelanisa nelungu ngalinye losapho oluxeliweyo. Kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yinto enyanzelwayo, yindlela yokuzixhasa xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle. Xa kukho ukuguquguquka kukho ukuzimisela okukhulu ukuqonda kunye nokuhlala kujonge izisombululo, kunye nomnqweno wokuxhasana. Ngoko ke sesinye sezixhobo ezingundoqo ukuba naluphi na ubudlelwane ukusebenza. Ewe, oku kwenzeka kusapho ngokubanzi kwaye ukusondelana ngokweemvakalelo kuko okwenza ukuba ukusebenzisana kuphucule imeko-bume. Ekubeni uthetha-thethwano luhlala luvuliwe kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba 'umsebenzi' uqhutywa ngendlela elula.
Iimpawu zentsapho yanamhlanje
Azisahlukanga kangako kwinto esiyaziyo, kodwa ukuba kukho ukuthandabuza, akukho nto ifana nokutyhila nganye yeempawu eziphambili zentsapho yanamhlanje:
- Babhetyebhetye: Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, naku ukubaluleka okukhulu okukhokelela ekubeni sithethe ngalo mbandela. Ngenxa yokuba ukuguquguquka kufuneka kuhlale kukho kakhulu. Wonke umntu usebenzisana ngokulinganayo kwimisebenzi yosuku ngalunye. Ukuze umntu ngamnye okanye omnye ancede kuzo zonke. Yintoni ewe, kukuba unokuhlala uphawula uhlobo lweshedyuli, nangona kungafuneki ukuba uyilandele kwileta, ukwazi nje ukuba akukho nto iseleyo yokwenza.
- Zahluke kakhulu: Zimkile iistereotypes zosapho. Kuba namhlanje akukho mfuneko yokuba amalungu abe namaqhina egazi. Kodwa into ephambili kukuba iimvakalelo ezintle, uthando kunye nothando ziziseko ezihlala zikhona kwintsapho yanamhlanje.
- Bathanda ukuba bancinci, kodwa asiyiyo into elandelwayo kunobumba. Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba bafuna ukugxila ebantwaneni babo kodwa nakumsebenzi wabo, ukuze badlulele kuko konke oku, bathande ukuba nenani elincitshisiweyo lamalungu.
Sinokuphila njani ukuba bhetyebhetye entsatsheni?
Kwezinye izibini, Ukungonwabi kwabo malunga nokwahlulwa kwemisebenzi kukhuliswa yitshomi yabahlobo kunye nosapho abanobunzima kunye nokugxeka indoda ukuba ayisebenzi okanye iyawukhathalela umzi lo gama umfazi inguye ozisa inkxaso ekhayeni. Amaqabane afuna imida.
Ukuba umda phakathi kweqabane lakho kunye nosapho lwakho unempilo, mhlawumbi awuyi kuba neengxabano ezininzi, kodwa Ukuba uvumela abanye ukuba bangenelele kubomi bentsapho yakho, ngoko ingqumbo isenokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kulwalamano lwakho.. Oko kusebenze kwesinye isizukulwana akusebenzi kwesinye, kwaye into esebenzayo kwenye indawo yehlabathi ayisebenzi kwenye. Imiba ukusuka kwezoqoqosho ukuya kwizibini ezingalinganiyo ngokwasengqondweni zikhokelela ekubeni kube bhetyebhetye ngokwesini xa kufikwa ekulungelelaniseni iimfuno zomsebenzi kunye nosapho. Ukuba nobabini nizibophelele ekukhumbuleni, uvelwano, kunye nentsebenziswano, banokudala usapho lwala maxesha oluya kuthi lutyebise ubomi babo bonke abantu ababandakanyekayo!