Ukufumana umntwana akukho lula, kodwa ukuba namawele (okanye iintsana ezininzi!) Kungangumceli mngeni. Abazali bamawele, abathathu okanye ngaphezulu baya kufuna uncedo kunye nazo zonke iingcebiso kuwo onke amabakala abantwana babo, ukusuka ekuzalweni ukuya ebusheni. Ukukhulisa umntwana omnye kuyadinisa, kodwa ukukhulisa umntwana ongaphezulu kwesinye kudinisa kabini. Ke, Kubalulekile ukuba uthathe ingqalelo kuyo yonke into esiza kukuxelela yona apha ngezantsi. Ungalahli iinkcukacha kuba zinokuba luncedo olukhulu!
Unyaka wokuqala wamawele
Ukujongana neentsana ezimbini okanye nangaphezulu sesinye sezigaba ezinzima zokuzalwa kwabazali. Ukukhathalela usana oluxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo emntwini omdala kunzima kodwa xa kukho ezimbini, iimfuno ziyanda kwaye noxinzelelo, nazo. Ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabancinci kufuna umzamo oqhubekayo ngalo lonke ixesha.
Zombini iintsana zifuna iimfuno ezisisiseko ezifanayo: ukutya, uthando, ucoceko… kwaye akusoloko kufumananwa ukutshintshana nomnye umntu ukuze ukwazi ukukhathalela abantwana. Xa uwedwa kunye neentsana ezimbini ezifuna ngamandla, uyakuqonda ukuba uxinzelelo kunye nemithambo-luvo iza njani ebomini bakho, kodwa eyona nto unokuyenza hlala uzolile njengoko ixhala lingakuncedisi ufezekise nantoni na elungileyo.
Kuyimfuneko ukwamkela ukuba unyaka wokuqala weentsana uyakuba sisiphithiphithi nokudinwa okupheleleyo kubazali… kuya kubakho ukulala okuncinci kwaye kuyakubakho amanabukeni amdaka kuyo yonke indawo. Kodwa unokuzonwabela iintsana zakho kunye nokuphindaphinda kabini (okanye kathathu!) Ukubeleka.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyigcinile engqondweni kukuba kufuneka ube nazo zonke izinto eziyimfuneko oza kuzidinga kunyaka wokuqala wobomi: impahla, amanabukeni, izinto zempilo, ukutya ... konke kabini! Kuya kufuneka ukuba ube nogqirha wabantwana olungileyo oza kubanyamekela nanini na uyifuna.
Iindlela ziya kubaluleka yonke imihla okoko abantwana befika emhlabeni. Abantwana bafuna iinkqubo ukuze bakwazi ukuqikelela ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kwaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni kumzuzu ngamnye, into eya kubanika ukhuseleko kunye nentuthuzelo yeemvakalelo. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba uya kuva izikhalo ezininzi, uya kutshintsha amanabukeni kwaye uzokutshintsha iimpahla zabo amaxesha amawaka ... Kodwa iiyure zokulala ziya kunqaba ... Nangona kuya kuba lula kunokuba ucinga nje ukuba uzilungiselele kwaye uqale ukudibana namawele akho.
Emva konyaka wokuqala
Xa unyaka wokuqala wamawele akho ugqithile, elona candelo linzima liya kube liphelile kwaye yonke into iya kubonakala ilula kancinci kuba abantwana bakho baya kuba badala kancinci. Ukususela kunyaka wokuqala, yonke into iba lula ... kuxhomekeke kwindlela ojonga ngayo. Amawele angayeki ukuhamba umzuzwana, agcwele amandla, ayakuthanda ukuphonononga umhlaba wabo, ukunxibelelana nabanye kunye nehlabathi ... Amawele ziinyanda zovuyo kunye namandla amaninzi nawo!
Ikhaya lakho kufuneka libe yindawo ekhuselekileyo yabantwana bakho kuba baya kuchitha ixesha elininzi bedlala ngezinto zabo zokudlala kwaye kungafika ixesha apho ungazi nokuba ubabeke phi. Unokufumana imiceli mngeni njengokuluma kwabantwana bakho, ukubetha, ukulila ngaxeshanye okanye ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kumacala ahlukeneyo ... Kuya kufuneka ukhawuleze ukuphepha iingozi!
Kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke into enoxinzelelo, uzakuqala nokulala ngakumbi nangakumbi, uya kuqala ukuvalelisa kwinqanaba le-diaper kwaye xa ujonga abantwana bakho awufuni ukuba bakhule, ngaphandle kwayo yonke into uya kufuna ixesha lokuyeka! Kuya kuba mnandi ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabantwana bakho.
Amawele okufunda esikolweni
Iminyaka yesikolo nayo iya kuba nomdla kakhulu… abantwana badala, bazimele kwaye bakrelekrele. Abazali kuya kufuneka bathathe izigqibo ezinzima malunga nokuba bakhethe siphi isikolo, nokuba bafanele ukuya kwiklasi enye ... Mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka ulwele amalungelo abantwana bakho kwaye isikolo sinokuluhlonipha ukhetho lwakho.
Uyakufunda malunga nokubangisana kwabantakwenu kuqala… nangona kuya kubakho iintsuku apho baba ngabahlobo abasenyongweni. Kungenzeka ukuba usapho aluyeki usuku lwesibini phakathi kweeklasi zasemva kokuphuma kwesikolo, ezemidlalo, umsebenzi wesikolo, ubuhlobo ... Ungazibuza ukuba uchitha ixesha elaneleyo na namawele akho, ngakumbi ngexesha lomntu ngamnye. Ngemihla yokuzalwa abantwana bakho baya kukhula kwaye baya kuba nolwazi ngakumbi nangakumbi ... Kwaye awuyi kuchaza ngokwakho ukuba ixesha lihamba ngokukhawuleza kangakanani! Ukufikisa kuya kunkqonkqoza emnyango.
Rhoqo iingxaki kusapho
Ukuba namawele okanye nangaphezulu kuya kuvelisa imiceli mngeni yosapho ekuya kufuneka bajongane nayo bonke abazali abangaphezulu komntwana ngexesha elinye, ukusuka kulungiselelo lokusombulula iingxaki zeemvakalelo ngaxeshanye ... abazali ngamanye amaxesha bafuna isikhokelo sobuchule ukuze bakwazi ukujongana nolu hlobo yemeko.
Ukongeza, ukuba ngaphezulu komntwana omnye ngexesha elinye kunokubangela ukungavisisani phakathi kwabazali kunye nolwalamano ukuba lusokole, ngenxa yesi sizathu kuyafuneka ukhathalele umtshato. Ukufuna uncedo kwabanye xa ulufuna kwaye ufuna ukuba nexesha elithile kubalulekile. Ngamanye amaxesha inkxaso yoomakhulu nootatomkhulu ingumbono olungileyo, ngakumbi ukuba bazimisele kwaye banamandla ngokwaneleyo ukuba bakwazi ukujongana namawele okanye abazukulwana abangaphezulu ngaxeshanye.
Ke ngoko, kufuneka kubekho umbutho omninzi ekhaya. Ulawulo lwezoqoqosho, ucwangco ekhaya, ixesha losapho, amava osapho, ukucoca ekhaya ... yonke into ibalulekile ukuze icwangciswe kakuhle, ngelixa ubhetyebhetye kwizinto ezingahambi kakuhle okanye ezingahambi njengoko bekucwangcisiwe.
Amawele
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwamawele abazalwana abukholeleki, bukhethekileyo kwaye bunamava kuphela ngabantu abanewele okanye amawele. Ngamanye amaxesha kuqhelekile ukuba namaqhinga athile okwahlula amawele afanayo kunye nendlela yokuwafundisa nini indlela abaziphethe ngayo ayiyiyo le ilindelwe kubo.
Amawele angaba nolwalamano olukhulu kodwa kuyafuneka ukuba usebenze kwizakhono zentlalo kunye neemvakalelo ekhaya ukunqanda ungquzulwano oluncinci ekubeni lube yinto exakeke kakhulu okanye kunzima ukuyiphatha.