Ukunqongophala kokukhuthazwa: Iingcebiso zokuNceda ukukhuthaza umntwana

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Ngaba ukhe wachitha iiyure ezininzi kunokuba ufanele ukubekela ecaleni into oyithiyileyo ukuyenza? Yenzekile kuthi sonke. Inyaniso kukuba ukungabi nako Yingxaki esichaphazela sonke, kodwa ngokufuthi kunzima ukuyinyanga ebantwaneni.

Ingxaki yile ukungabikho kwenkuthazo ebantwaneni kuya kusiba nzima ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye unokubalandela ukuya ebudaleni.

Kuthiwa intshukumisa imele isuke entliziyweni yaye ubukhulu becala Iinzame zokukhuthaza abantwana ziyabadimaza. Ngelixa le yokugqibela iyinyani, eyokuqala iye yangqinwa iphosakele kumatyeli amaninzi. Abaphandi kunye neengcali zengqondo bathanda UCarol Dweck baye babonisa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kwamagama athile nokwamkelwa koqheliselo oluthile kunokumnceda umntwana ongenamdla.

Ukuba uzifumana ukule meko, ngokuqinisekileyo sele uyibonile loo nto ukubaxelela ukuba “kufuneka basebenze nzima” akuyonyusi intshukumisa yabo. Kodwa musa ukudimazeka, yonke into ayilahlekanga. Ngethamsanqa, iminyaka yophando malunga nenkuthazo iye yavelisa izicwangciso eziluncedo ekufuneka wonke umzali onomntwana ongakhuthaziyo azi ngazo:

1. Yiba nomdla kwizinto anomdla kuzo umntwana wakho

Sonke siyathanda ukwenza izinto esizifumana zinika umdla, kwaye abantwana abahlukanga kunathi. Baya kukhuthazeka ngakumbi xa besenza imisebenzi othanda ukuyenza.

  • Zama ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni umdla womntwana wakho,
  • mbonise ukuba uyikhathalele into ayithandayo, nokuba yahlukile kuleyo ubungathanda ukuba ayenze;
  • Fumana iindlela zokudibanisa umdla wabo kunye nezinye izakhono ongathanda ukuba baziphuhlise. Umzekelo, iicomics zinokuba yindlela entle yokuziqhelanisa nezakhono zokufunda kwaye ufumane ulwazi olutsha.

2. Khumbula ukuba impumelelo ngumnqweno ozalwa ngumntu wonke

Uninzi lwabantu lufuna ukuphumelela kwimisebenzi abayenzayo. Ukusilela okuphindaphindiweyo kunokukhokelela ekuphazamisekeni nasekudimazekeni, kwaye kunokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okufana nokucaphuka okanye nokuba nomsindo rhoqo kunye nexhala.

Abantwana abangaqhelanga ukuphumelela banokufunda ukungakwazi ukuzinceda, nto leyo ethetha ukuba banokufunda ukuzibona njengabantu abangaphumeleliyo. Ngamanye amazwi, abantwana basenokulahlekelwa yintshukumisa yabo ngenxa yokungazithembi kubuchule babo bokuphumeza iinjongo ezithile. Kukungazithembi okuqhuba ukuziphatha okunjengokuphepha, uxinzelelo, "ubuvila," kunye nesimo sengqondo sokungakhathali.

  • Qinisekisa ukuba banamathuba okuphumelela,
  • mncede azi indlela yokubona yonke into ayenzayo kakuhle,
  • ubeka iinjongo ezifanelekileyo kunye nemisebenzi ecela umngeni kodwa efikelelekayo,
  • baqinisekise ukuba bayazi kakuhle into elindelekileyo kubo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba basoloko besokola ngomsebenzi othile, zama ukuthetha nabo ngaloo msebenzi uze ubacacisele oko kulindeleke ukuba kuphunyezwe umsebenzi nendlela yokuwenza.

3. Mbonise amathuba anokumnceda amkhuthaze

Umzekelo, umntwana unokukhulisa umdla wokwenza imidlalo yevidiyo emva kokubukela iividiyo eziphuhliswe ngabantwana abalingana nabo.

  • Ukubonisa abantwana kwiimpumelelo zabanye kwiinkalo zabo zomdla yindlela elungileyo yokubakhuthaza. Noko ke, oku akuthethi ukuthelekisa abantwana bakho nabanye okanye ulindele ukuba bafikelele usukelo olufanayo nolwabanye.
  • Ezinye iindlela zokubonisa impumelelo yabanye abantwana abakwintanga yabo kukubukela iimuvi, ukufunda iincwadi kunye namabali, njl.

4. Musa ukubanika "pep talk"

Enye into efunyenwe yinzululwazi (kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo abazali abaninzi!) "pep talk" ayifane isebenze.

  • Endaweni yokugxila ekusebenzeni kwangaphambili, kungcono ukugxila ekusebenzeni kwexesha elizayo: Ucinga ukuba inokwenza ntoni ngokwahlukileyo?. Ukuba uhlala usenza into efanayo, uya kufumana iziphumo ezifanayo.
  • Kunokuba uthethe, bakhuthaze ukuba bazihlolisise.

5. Nikela inkuthazo nenkxaso.

Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukudimazeka xa abantwana bethu bebonisa ukungabi namdla. Andazi ukubakhuthaza njani isidanisa ngakumbi! Inqaku elibalulekileyo ekufuneka likhunjulwe kukuba kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi zokunqongophala kwenkuthazo kwabantwana: ukungabikho kokuzithemba, ukungabikho kokuthatha inxaxheba kwizigqibo ezibaxhalabisayo (ixesha lokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo wasekhaya, ixesha lokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo, iziphumo zokungabambeleli kwizinto ezilindelweyo, njl. njl.), ukuphazamiseka, ukuphoxeka, phakathi kwabanye .

  • Wonke umntu ufumana ukungaphumeleli, kwaye abantu abaninzi bafumana ukungaphumeleli ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngaphambi kokuba baphumelele. Thetha nabantwana bakho ngeentsilelo zabo. Bayaqonda ukuba ukungaphumeleli yinxalenye yobomi. Bazise ukuba ukusilela kwethu akusichazi, kuyasomeleza. Thetha nabantwana bakho malunga neentsilelo zabantu abathi kamva baba ngabakhulu kwinto ethile.
  • Xubusha ngotshintsho oluhle olubonayo ebantwaneni bakho, nokuba olo tshintsho alukhokeleli kuphuculo ngoko nangoko. Ukuba uyaphawula ukuba uzama ngakumbi, mxelele. Ukuba uyababona bezama ngamandla, kuvume oko. Ukuba uphawula ukuba uzama enye indlela, mazise ukuba uye waphawula. Ndihlala ndincoma umzamo hayi umntwana.

6. Funa uncedo lweengcali ngenxa yokungabi namdla

Enye into esingafane siyive ngokungabi namdla wabantwana kukuba kunokubonisa ukuphazamiseka ekufundeni iingxaki ezingafunyaniswanga okanye ezinxulumene nenkathalo.

  • Iziphazamiso ezithile zinokuzibonakalisa ngokuziphatha okunje ngokunqongophala kwenkuthazo, ukuzibekela amangomso kunye nobunzima obukhulu bokugxila. Ingxaki ngezi ziphazamiso kukuba zinokukhokelela umntwana wakho ukuba anikezele ngenxa yokungaphumeleli rhoqo.

Ungalibazisi ukuqhagamshelana nengcali ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umntwana wakho akanamdla. Ingcali inokukunceda ukuba ubone ukuba umntwana wakho unokukhubazeka kokufunda okanye ezinye iingxaki kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ungamnceda njani lomntwana.


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