Kuxhomekeka kwindlela okhulelwe ngayo ngaphambili ngexesha lokulahleka, uya kuba neenketho ezininzi zokwenza ntoni nosana lwakho olungekazalwa.. Nangona kufuneka uqonde ukuba naliphi na inqanaba lokulahleka kokukhulelwa, Unokuba nomngcwabo ukuba unqwenela kuba iintlungu zelahleko zinokuqina kakhulu kwezi veki zingama-28 nama-39 zokukhulelwa.
Ngendlela efanayo, kwaye nangona iintlungu zikwanjalo, kukho abo bakhetha ukungabinangcwabo. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka kuwe, ungakhathazeki kuba iimvakalelo zakho zilawulwa. Akukho nto ilungileyo okanye iphosakeleyo xa kuziwa kwimingcwabo emva kokuphuma kwesisu okanye ukuzalwa komntwana oswelekileyo ... Kungcono wenze oko kukwenza uzive ungcono kwaye hayi le ucinga ukuba abanye bacinga ukuba yeyona ilungileyo.
Kutheni kufuneka ube nomngcwabo?
Imingcwabo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yenkqubo yokulila kubantu abaninzi, indlela yokuvalelisa kunye nokuhlonipha imemori yothandekayo. Kungabonakala kunzima ukuba negumbi eligcwele abantu oza kujongana nabo, kodwa kunokuba lula kuwe ukuba ujongane nawo wonke umntu ngexesha elifutshane kunokuba Banika amazwi abo ovelwano ngokulahleka kwakho iiveki, njengoko ubabona ebomini bakho.
Umngcwabo unokukunceda ufumane ukuvalwa kwenxeba lakho ngokweemvakalelo kwaye unokuba linyathelo lokuqala ekubuyiseleni ingqondo yakho ekuphumeni kwesisu okanye ekubelekeni uswelekile. Ngelixa usenokuba uthe ndlelantle kusana lwakho olungekazalwa ngokusondeleyo esibhedlele, mhlawumbi umbono wokuba nomngcwabo wonelisa ngakumbi kuwe.. Kuxhomekeka ekubeni umntwana sele ehambele phambili kangakanani ekukhulelweni, ngakumbi abo bazalwa beswelekile, unokuba nethuba lokumbona kwaye umbambe ngaphambi kokuvalelisa kuye ngonaphakade.
Ukuba nomngcwabo wosana lwakho kunokuba lunyango kuba kuya kukunika ithuba lokwenza izigqibo ngomntwana wakho ongekazalwa. Ukucwangcisa umngcwabo yinto esiyenzayo oqhele ukukwenza emva kokusweleka, kunokukunceda ukuba umelane nelahleko ngequbuliso.
Musa ukungxama
Awufuni ukuyenza yonke into ngosuku olunye. Akuqhelekanga ukuba kuthathe iveki ukugqiba onke amalungiselelo omngcwabo. Kulungile ukuthatha ixesha olifunayo, kuyakufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uxelela usapho lwakho kunye nabahlobo bakho abaneenjongo ezintle ukuba bakwenzele izigqibo ukuba ubona kufanelekile… Ukuba bakubona usengxakini enkulu, abayi kuthi hayi. kodwa sukuvumela nabani na ukuba akwenzele izigqibo ukuba awufuni ukuba yenzeke, isiqeKwinkqubo yakho yokuphilisa, izigqibo kuya kufuneka zenziwe nguwe.
Kwangokunjalo, kuya kufuneka uzive uphile ngokwaneleyo ukuze ukwazi ukwenza umngcwabo kwaye uzolile ngokwaneleyo ukujongana novelwano losapho kunye nabahlobo bakho.
Zithembe iimvakalelo zakho
Uninzi lwabalawuli bemingcwabo banovakalelo kakhulu kwiimfuno nakwiimfuno zabazali. Ukuba ufuna ukunxibisa umntwana wakho umngcwabo, yitsho njalo ... KUNYE Ukuba ukhetha ukungakwenzi oko, musa ukuziva unyanzelwe. Ungacela ukuba abasebenzi bomzi wabangcwabi bamnyathele umnwe umntwana wakho okanye unquthulwe iinwele ukuze ukwazi ukuzigcina kunye nawe.
Ukuba ufuna iifoto zomntwana wakho nangaliphi na ixesha kumalungiselelo okanye emngcwabeni, yitsho njalo. Unokufuna ukukhetha umhlobo oza kwenza oku. Sukuvumela abanye abantu bakuxelele ukuba ayifanelekanga okanye ayinamakhinki… Ukuba uziva ngathi kufuneka uyenze ukuze ube nokukhumbula usana lwakho, lwenze. Abantu abaninzi bathatha imifanekiso kwaye babafumana bethuthuzela kamva, nokuba abanye babaxelele ukuba yayingeyona ndlela ilungileyo.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba uyigcine engqondweni kukuba umngcwabo yindlela yakho yokuzihlonela wena nosana lwakho, hayi eyomnye umntu. Ukuba wenza umngcwabo ungamfutshane okanye ube mde, abanye abantu bafumana intsingiselo kufundo lobuKristu lwenkonzo, ngelixa abanye bekhetha ukungafundi. Kulungile ukuba ufuna ukuthula okomzuzwana. Umngcwabo wenzelwe abantu abasaphilayo.
Kufuneka yenziwe phi?
Unokwenza umngcwabo naphina apho uziva ukhululekile. Ikhaya lokungcwaba linamagumbi okujonga, ungayenza ecaweni okanye ekhayeni lakho. Kukho neentsapho ezenza imingcwabo kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke ezinjengeelwandle okanye igadi, okoko nje iimvume eziyimfuneko zifunyenwe ukuba zikwazi ukwenza njalo.
Umngcwabo unokuba ngamava amahle kunye nenqanaba eliluncedo kwindlela yakho ngenxa yentlungu. Nokuba ukhe waphuphunyelwa sisisu okanye wazala umntwana oswelekileyo, unokuba nomsitho okhethekileyo wokuhlonipha inkumbulo yosana lwakho, nokuba sisiganeko esingaqhelekanga kunye nasekhaya lakho.
Nokuba ukhetha umngcwabo okanye akunjalo, zikho ezinye iindlela zokuhlonipha umntwana wakho ukuze angalibaleki, kodwa khumbula ukuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo ngoku kukuba ungafumana inkqubo yakho yokulila. Nokuba umntwana wakho ebengahlali ebomini bakho, nokuba ayingomntwana mdala… Ngumntwana wakho kwaye yindlela oziva ngayo ukusukela ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakho. Kuya kufuneka uhambe ngentlungu yakho kwaye uqonde ukuba ukuba kwixesha elizayo ufuna ukukhulelwa kwakhona, awuzukuziva ungalunganga ngayo ... Ngenxa yokuba awuyi kuthatha indawo yomntwana wakho, uya kunika umntwana wakho umntakwabo omncinci onjengeenkwenkwezi esibhakabhakeni.
Sukuvumela izimvo ezenzelwe abanye abantu ukuba zizame ukukuthuthuzela ezinje; "Wayengazimiselanga kuzalwa"; "Unokukhulelwa kwakhona"; "Izakugqitha kwakamsinya ngoba ibingekazalwa", njl. Cinga ukuba ngamagama anenjongo elungileyo nangona engasoloko ephumelela kakhulu. Usana lwakho luya kuhlala lusentliziyweni yakho nasemngcwabeni, yenza oko kuyalelwa yintliziyo yakho.