Ukunqongophala kolawulo lwempembelelo yingcambu yeengxaki ezininzi zokuziphatha. Ngaphandle kongenelelo olufanelekileyo, isimilo esingxamisekileyo siba mandundu ngokuhamba kwexesha. Umzekelo, abantwana abanyanzelekileyo abaneminyaka emi-6 banokubhengeza xa bengafumani ndlela yabo, ngelixa ulutsha lunokwabelana ngomxholo ongalunganga kwi-Intanethi ngaphandle kokucinga ngeziphumo. Ngesi sizathu, ukunceda abantwana bakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo ngumsebenzi ophambili kubazali.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba banokufunda izakhono ezitsha zokuphucula ulawulo lwabo lwempembelelo njengoko bekhula. Kwaye okukhona bezuza ukuzeyisa, kokukhona kuya kuncipha ukuba benze okanye bathethe into enokwenzakalisa abanye, okanye bona ngokwabo. Yintoni egqithisile, ezi zakhono ziya kuba luncedo kakhulu kuwe ebomini bakho bonke.
Iindlela zokunceda abantwana balawule iminqweno yabo
Sobona ezinye iindlela zokunceda abantwana ukulawula iimpembelelo zakho.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukubhala amagama abo
Abantwana abangaziqondiyo iimvakalelo zabo kunokwenzeka ukuba babe nongxamiseko. Umntwana ongenakutsho ukuba unomsindo, uyivelisa loo mvakalelo ngomsindo. Okanye umntwana ongakwaziyo ukuthetha ukuba ulusizi, impendulo yakhe iya kuba kukuziphosa emhlabeni ukuze akhale kwaye ukhwaze. Ke ngoko, injongo kukumfundisa ukuba aziqonde iimvakalelo zakhe ukuze azivakalise ngomlomo kunangezenzo ezingalinganiyo.
Thetha nabantwana bakho malunga iimvakalelo ezisisiseko njengomsindo, usizi okanye uloyiko. Babonise umahluko phakathi kwenye okanye enye. Ungasebenzisa iincwadi okanye iimuvi ukubanceda baqonde. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba bayazi ukuba kulungile ukuba nomsindo, kodwa hayi ukubetha izinto okanye abantu. Kwaye ukuziva ulusizi okanye ukoyika ziimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo ngokufanayo. Xa bekwazi ukubiza iimvakalelo zabo, baya kuncipha ukubanjwa ziimpembelelo zabo.
Cela abantwana baphindaphinde imiyalelo ukubanceda balawule iimpembelelo zabo.
Abantwana bahlala beqhutywa ngokungxolayo kuba abamameli koko kufunwa kubo. Baya kuhla baye kwishishini ngaphambi kokuba ucele ukubabuza into oyifunayo, ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba ufuna benze ntoni. Benze baphinde oko ubaxelele, yindlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba unikwe ingqalelo. Nje ukuba bakwazi ukuphinda into obubaxelele yona, banokuhla baye emsebenzini.
Kucacile ukuba ukuba abanakuphinda into oyicelileyo kubo, akunakulindeleka ukuba bakwazi ukuyenza. Baza kwenza enye into. Ke ngoko, ngokuqinisekisa ukuba bakumamele, uyakubafumana ukuba bame umzuzwana ukuze banike ingqalelo. Ukuma nokumamela kubalulekile kulawulo lweempembelelo zakho.
Bafundise ukusombulula iingxaki
Khuthaza izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki lolunye lolona hlobo lusebenzayo kulawulo lwempembelelo. Ukufundisa abantwana ukuba ingxaki inokusonjululwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kubabonisa ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuvavanya amathuba ahlukeneyo ngaphambi kokwenza. Bafake ingxaki abantwana bakho uze ubakhuthaze ukuba bacinge ngeendlela ezintlanu abanokusombulula ngazo. Emva kokuchonga izisombululo, bancede bacinge ngesona sisombululo sisebenzayo, kwaye basibeke ekusebenzeni.
Ngokuziqhelanisa, baya kuqhela ukucinga ngaphambi kokuba benze kwaye oku kuya kuthintela ukungxamiseka kwabo. Ngokuqala esi sicwangciso njengomdlalo, baya kungena kumkhwa wokucinga malunga neemeko ngaphambi kokujongana nazo. Obu buchule ngokuqinisekileyo buya kungqineka buluncedo olukhulu kwikamva lakho, kokubini kwezemfundo nakwezobuchwephesha.
Fundisa abantwana izakhono zokulawula umsindo
Ukunyamezeleka okuphantsi kunxunguphalo kunokukhokelela kuqhushumbo lokunyanzelwa. Ukubafundisa ngeendlela zokuhambisa olu dandatheko kunokubanceda bajongane neemvakalelo zabo ngendlela esempilweni. Iindlela ezilula njengokuphefumla nzulu okanye ukuhamba hamba endlwini zinokukunceda utshise amandla kwaye uphumle. Ukucamngca kunye nokuzilolonga ngokwasemzimbeni kukwasisixhobo esihle kubantwana abaneengxaki zolawulo lomsindo.
Ungababuza nokuba zeziphi izinto okanye imisebenzi ebenza bazive bezolile, kwaye kwiimpendulo zabo yenza “ikhithi ezolileyo”. Olu luhlobo lwekhabhathi yamayeza onokuya kuyo xa uziva ngathi awunakukwazi ukulawula umsindo wakho. Injongo kukuba baphumle kunye nemixholo yelo kit likaxakeka, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukubafundisa ukuba baphumle ngaphambi kokungena engxakini kukusilela kwakhe ukuzeyisa.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kunxibelelwano nokuqonda
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana abancinci babe nomdla ngokwasemzimbeni, yinxalenye yendalo yabo. Ukubetha izinto, ukutsiba ebhedini, okanye ukubaleka nokukhwaza ujikeleze iivenkile zokutya ziingxaki eziqhelekileyo zolawulo lwempembelelo. Ebusheni, uninzi lwabantwana sele bekwazile ukulawula iimpembelelo zabo, kodwa banokuba nomlomo. Oku kuyakubazisela ingxaki engaphezulu kwesinye kwizifundo zabo okanye kwimisebenzi.
Ngokuziqhelanisa noqeqesho rhoqo, Ukulawulwa kwempembelelo kufuneka kuphuculwe ngokuhamba kwexesha. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba abantwana bakho babonakala benobunzima ngakumbi kunabanye abantwana abakwiminyaka yabo, kungcono ukuthetha nodokotela wabantwana. Iimeko ezinjenge-ADHD Banokuphazamisana nokukwazi kwabantwana bakho ukulawula isimilo esingxamisekileyo. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba ube nengcali evavanya ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yokuphucula ukuzeyisa.