Uninzi lwabazali, ukwamkela ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhula kwaye ukhula de abe kwinqanaba lokuba neqabane akulula. Thatha loo nto abantwana bayakhula, baguquke bayeke ukuxhomekeka kuweIngaba yintlungu kubazali abaninzi. Kodwa ayinakuphepheka, ngakumbi, iyimfuneko ukuba uncede abantwana bakho kwinkqubo yabo yokuvuthwa ukuze babe ngabantu abazinzileyo kwaye bazilungiselele nayiphi na imeko.
Iqabane lomntwana alilotshaba, nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive unjalo. Lo mntu ngulo ngoku umthethelelayo umntwana wakho, lowo uyamthanda kwaye uyamthanda kunye nawe, uhlehlisiwe ngasemva. Yintoni egqithisile, ulindelo lwakho lusenokungafezekiswa emntwini okhethwe ngumntwana wakho, kwaye kuya kufuneka ujongane naye njengomama onoxanduva nohloniphekileyo okanye utata.
Unyana wakho uya kuhlala engunyana wakho, uya kuhlala ekufuna ngandlela thile kwaye kufuneka uhlale umenzela oko. Intoni ayizukuphila ubomi, lusana kwaye ke, ngekhe umphathe ngoluhlobo ubomi bakhe bonke. Ayisiyiyo le nto uyifunayo. Umntwana wakho ufuna ukuba umfundise ukujongana neengxaki, ukwenza izigqibo, ukhethe umntu afuna ukwabelana naye ngobomi bakhe ngokusekwe entliziyweni yakhe hayi kwezinye izinto.
Ungadinga uncedo oluncinci kule meko, kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye uninzi loomama okanye ootata abakule meko bazakuva ngalendlela wenza ngayo.
Zamkele izigqibo zomntwana wakho
Xa umntwana wakho eneminyaka emi-5 ungamthathela izigqibo, nokuba umbuza uluvo malunga nezinto zokudlala, iimpahla okanye ukutya akuthandayo, igama lokugqibela lisesandleni sakho. Kodwa xa umntwana wakho sele emdala, kufanelekile bazithathele izigqibo bengakhange baqwalasele uluvo lwabazali babo.
Mhlawumbi awulithandi iqabane lonyana wakho, mhlawumbi ubonakala emncinci kakhulu ukuba angabinalo iqabane, okanye mhlawumbi ukhetha iqabane lesini esifanayo kwaye ubungakulindelanga. Yamkela kwaye uzihloniphe izigqibo zomntwana wakho, nokuba awumthandi umntu omkhethileyo kwaye Nokuba ucinga ukuba uphosakele. Umntwana wakho unelungelo (kunye nesidingo) sokwenza iimpazamo amaxesha amaninzi, yinxalenye yenkqubo yokukhula.
Sukugxeka iqabane lakho okanye uthathe inxaxheba kulwalamano lwakho
Sele uyazi ukuba ubudlelwane buyanzima, ngakumbi xa kukho umntu wesithathu ophazamisa olo lwalamano. Vumela unyana okanye intombi yakho isingathe le meko, baya kuba neengxaki kunye neqabane labo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo baya kuza kuwe ngengcebiso. Sukuba lutshaba inombolo 1 yesi sibini, mamela unyana wakho, thuthuzela iinyembezi zakhe xa ehlupheka kwaye uhlale ecaleni kwakhe, uhlala evela ngasemva.
Ukuthatha ithuba ngala maxesha ukwenza iqabane lonyana wakho ukuba libi akunempilo, ayizukunceda ngunyana wakho konke konke, ngakumbi wena. Ukonwaba komntwana wakho yeyona nto ifanele yoyise ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into, kwaye ukuba loo mntu umkhethileyo ukukunika olo lonwabo, lwamkele kwaye lukhule.
Yiba mnandi kwiqabane lakho
Yiba nobubele kuloo mntu ukufuphi nonyana okanye intombi yakho, yiba nembeko kwaye ungaphindi wenze ingxaki ngalo mzuzu. Olu ayilulo ukhuphiswano lothando yomntwana wakho, ukhethe lo mntu ukuba abe neempawu azithandayo.
Lo mntu ukunye nomntwana wakho ukuba umthande kwaye sabelane ngobomi bakhe, awazi ukuba uza kude kube nini kodwa Akukho sizathu sokuba ubengumntu onoxanduva lweli khefu. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumhlobo osenyongweni waloo mntu, okanye utata okanye uninazala. Ungumama weqabane lakho, umntu owakuzise emhlabeni kwaye wakuguqula waba ngumntu ohloniphayo, nothando onexabiso elikhulu.
Lonwabele inqanaba ngalinye lobomi babantwana bakho, bavumele bazenzele izigqibo, benze iimpazamo kwaye bakhathazeke ngenxa yoko. Bafundise ukusingatha nayiphi na imeko, banike izixhobo eziyimfuneko zokujongana nayo nayiphi na imeko ebomini babo. Rhoqo, hamba nabo kwindlela yabo ngaphandle kwesithintelo.