Kungenzeka ukuba uqaphele ukuba uphulukana nemithambo-luvo yakho ngaphezu "kwesiqhelo" nabantwana bakho, ukuba umonde wakho awusayi kulula yonke into ebiyenza "ngaphambili" kwaye awazi ukuba unengxaki okanye yintoni enokuba iyahamba . Ngokwenyani, baninzi (izigidi!) zoomama abafana nawe ngoku.
Ukuvalelwa yedwa akukho lula kuye nakubani na, kodwa kungaphantsi kakhulu kubazali ekufuneka bedibanise ukusebenza ngomnxeba okanye umsebenzi wabo ngenkathalo kunye nemfundo yabantwana babo, (ukongeza kuyo yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya!). Ifomula efanelekileyo yokunyusa uxinzelelo njengogwebu.
Luxanduva lwabazali ukuhamba nabantwana babo ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa abazali kwangaxeshanye bazama ukuziqhelanisa nale meko itshintshayo kwaye banokungaqiniseki okuninzi. Ungaphulukana nomonde ngokungafanelekanga: usapho lwakho. Kodwa yinto exhaphakileyo kunokuba ungacinga.
Yimpendulo yemvakalelo kuyo yonke into eyenzeka ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwekhaya ... uneemvakalelo ezinzulu ezicinezelweyo ngaphakathi kwakho kwaye uzikhupha ngendlela onokwazi ngayo, nangona ngamanye amaxesha ingeyona ndlela ilungileyo. Ikuvumela ukuba uzive iimvakalelo, kuba zibalulekile kuwe kwaye Ikwayimiyalezo evela emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho ukuze wazi ukuba kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuze ube ngcono.
Uziva ngathi ulahlekelwe yinkululeko kwaye oku kunokubangela uxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo ezinzulu nezimbi ezifana nomsindo. Ukomelela kunye nokuziqhelanisa notshintsho kubalulekile kuyo yonke le nto, uzive ujongene nokuba nosapho lwakho ecaleni kwakho. Kodwa kwakhona khumbula ukuba ungumntu kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive unjalo okanye kufuneka uzive ukhululekile. Cinga ngendlela onokuwunciphisa ngayo umsindo, umsindo okanye unxunguphalo kwaye ufumane isicombululo. Qala ngokuzikhathalela kwaye uya kubona ukuba uya kuziva ungcono.