Range Kids Simahla: Ngaba ukulungele ukunika inkululeko kwiintombi zethu nakoonyana bethu?

Uluhlu loSimahla lwaBantwana5

Eli nqaku malunga noMthi wokuHugger Usikhwaza ngemfihlo 'encinci' ethi thina bantu badala siyanyanzelisa ukuba siyikhanyele, kodwa ke, inyani inenkani kwaye ihamba ngaphaya kweembono zethu ... "Abantwana bachitha ixesha elincinci ngaphandle kunamabanjwa" Inesihloko, kwaye umbhali wayo (uKatherine Martinko) akanaloyiko xa esithi naliphi na ibanjwa kwiziko lezokhuseleko eUnited States lineyure enye ekuseni enye emva kwemini ngaphandle, ngelixa abantwana bexakeke kakhulu: hayi kuphela ngeeyure zesikolo, kodwa kwimisebenzi emininzi yangaphandle neyokuncedisa, ukongeza ukwenza umsebenzi wasekhaya.

Kwelinye icala leAtlantic, kuba ukuba ndikuxelela inani leeyure ngaphandle kokuba ibanjwa likulawulo 'oluqhelekileyo' kwilizwe lethu (kwaye ulumke! Anditsho ukuba abanalo ilungelo ), kwaye ubathelekise nezo zeentombi noonyana bakho, umlomo wakho uvulekile kwaye awuvaleki. Ngoku kungalula kum ukuba eli binzana lindibalekile ukuba ngamanye amaxesha sitsho ngokungacwangciswanga: "ezinye izikolo zikhangeleka ngathi ziintolongo"; kodwa hayi, indawo oyifundayo ayisiyiyo malunga noku, imalunga nokukubonisa intshukumo osele uyazi, Kwaye nangona iqale e-US, sivile ngayo apha. Ngaba uyazi ukuba zithini 'uluhlu lwasimahla labantwana'?

Yiprojekthi eyona njongo yayo iphambili "kukubuyisela isitalato ebantwaneni, kodwa nokukhupha abantwana ezindlwini bababuyisele ezitratweni." Njengoko uTonucci esitsho (kwaye andinakukuchaza ngcono) “40, 50, 60 kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, kwakungekho nto ingako yaziwayo ngabantwana: abantu abadala kwakufuneka babakhathalele, ewe, kodwa khange isetyenziselwe ukuphazamisa izigqibo abazithathileyo malunga nexesha labo lasimahla". Oku AKUKHO kungenelela kungenise abantu abadala abasempilweni, abakwaziyo ukubalathisa ubomi babo, kwaye abafumene ukuzimela kunye nokuzimela kude kube ngaphambi kweminyaka eyi-25.

Uluhlu loSimahla lwaBantwana4

Sitshintshe isitrato kwiindawo ezivaliweyo ...

Okwangoku, abantwana abahambi bodwa esikolweni bade babe baneminyaka eli-13 ubudala okanye ngaphezulu, kwaye ndikholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ukuthintela ukunxibelelana simahla nesitalato ndisemncinci kakhulu, akukho nto ayenzileyo ngaphandle kokuphazamisa amandla nezakhono zabantwana zokuzikhathalela. Kodwa kukuba, ukongeza ekususeni ezitalatweni (ezizezabo ngelungelo, okanye ubuncinci ekwabelwana ngazo), xa bebancinci sibabeka kwindawo ezincinci zabantwana.

Ngokubhukisha ndithetha iipaki zasezidolophini, izikwere, iindawo ezivaliweyo ezinomtsalane, njl. kwaye andonwabanga ngayo, Songamela yonke intshukumo ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba sinike imiyalelo yokutsiba ezantsi kwisilayidi. Ndiyaqonda ukuba akukho mama okanye utata emhlabeni ongacingi ngentlalontle yabantwana babo, kwaye kwelinye icala, ngamanye amaxesha silandela nje "ifashoni"; Kungenxa yoko le nto ingezonjongo zam ukusola, kodwa kunokuba sibonakalise kunye. Kucacile ukuba kufuneka simamele ngakumbi kwiimfuno ezisisiseko zamantombazana namakhwenkwe, kodwa kwangaxeshanye kuyimfuneko ukuphonononga uloyiko lwethu.

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Ngaba ngabazali ababi ngokubeka oonyana neentombi zabo simahla?

ULeonore Skenazy (uvulindlela kunye nomqambi weprojekthi yaBantwana abaSimahla) kuqala, emva koko abanye, phakathi kwazo kukho iMeitivBaye baba zizinto ezininzi zokugxekwa, kunye nokungenelela kwamapolisa (ewe, njengoko ufunda). Owokuqala akazange athandabuze ukuvuma kwisicelo sonyana wakhe xa wayeneminyaka eli-9 ubudala: Wayefuna ukuba abazali bakhe bamse kwindawo engaziwayo esixekweni, emva koko bamvumele ukuba agoduke yedwa. Yenziwe kwaye yenziwa, inkwenkwe yahlala kwisikhululo sikaloliwe esingaphantsi komhlaba imephu isesandleni sayo, itikiti kunye nemali yokuyisebenzisa: ubuyele ekhaya ekhuselekile kwaye ephilile; Kutheni le nto kufanele ukuba yenzeke ngokwahlukileyo?

USkenazy ngumbhali wemihlathi kwiphephandaba laseNew York kwaye emva kokupapasha amava akhe, wafumana igama lesidlaliso "ongoyena mama waseMelika." Kuluntu, 'iingcali zembono', okanye ngokulula abo (bahluthwe ingqiqo) bahlalutya ibali likamama, abazali abaphatha kakubi abantwana babo, okanye abo babathengayo badlala imidlalo ye-18 iminyaka (xa beneminyaka eyi-8), okanye ezibanika iihambhega ukuba bazitye kunye nepasta yokuyitya yonke imihla… bangcono. Kodwa ndiphulaphule: ayisiyokwahlulahlula thina ngokulungileyo okanye kokubi, kodwa malunga nokuba ngcono yonke imihla (ukoyisa iimpazamo), kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke malunga nokujonga ubuntwana ngokunjaloUkuqinisekisa ukukhula okunempilo.

Hi ndlela leyi, isibini saseMeitiv (esichazwe apha ngasentla) sakhululwa kukungakhathali emva kokunyanzeliswa komthetho kufumanise ukuba akufanelekanga ukuba abantwana babo abaneminyaka emi-6 neli-10 ubudala babe bodwa ezitalatweni. Ngaba akubonakali kugqithisile kuwe ukuba kuye kwafuneka bayigqibe le nkqubo?

Uluhlu loSimahla lwaBantwana6

Uloyiko alungomcebisi olungileyo.

ULeonore wayejonga ixabiso lolwaphulo-mthetho kwiSixeko saseNew York, kwakungo-2009 kwaye wafumanisa ukuba khange banyuke kumashumi eminyaka. Andazi datha kwilizwe lethu, kunye nokuvela kwayo ngokuhamba kwexesha, kodwa Ndivumelana naye ukuba iintlekele ezenzeka kubantwana zinqabile; kwaye kuyakufuneka ndikulungele ukubhekisa kolo loyiko olungathethekiyo oomama nootata abanalo malunga nokuxhwila, ukunyamalala okanye ukudlwengulwa. Kucacile ukuba 'ukulahleka kwezitalato' kuzise umngcipheko omkhulu wokuqhutywa ngaphezulu, kodwa ayizizo ezo ngozi uSenazy wayebhekisa kuzo.


Andazi kangako ngenkqubo yothungelwano lukamabonwakude esinokuyibona apha, kodwa (umzekelo) ukuba sibukela "Iingqondo Zolwaphulo-mthetho", "CSI", okanye imovie malunga nokunyamalala, kwaye sicinga ukuba ngokwenyani yonke into injalo, siya kubila ngalo lonke ixesha abantwana befuna ukuya kufuna isonka sodwa.

Kwaye ayisiyiyo nje uthotho okanye iimuvi, iindaba zihlala zibonisa kuphela elona cala libi loluntu, kwaye siphela sizivalele kwihlabathi lethu, sisoyika abamelwane bethu. Endaweni yoko kufuneka sibuyele eluntwini, ukuzama ukubuyisela umva inkqubo ekhawulezayo. Ukuzithemba kwabanye kuqala ngokususa uloyiko lwethu, inkululeko iyasinceda ukuba sikhethe ngcono abantu ababelana nathi ngemfundo kunye nokukhulisa.

Lo "mama ungoyena mbi" bendingazukufanelekela ngoluhlobo naye ugwetywe ngokuqatha ziintsapho ezinabantwana abaye basokola enye yezi ntlekele. Banelungelo lokucaphuka lihlabathi, kodwa uxanduva lokuba ezi zinto zenzeke alungabo abo balwela ukunika abantwana inkululeko engakumbi.

Uluhlu loSimahla lwaBantwana3

Iingozi zokwenyani nezinokuthintelwa.

Njengomama nootata abaninzi ababuzwa ngalo mba bathi: “Andisacingi ukuba emva kwekona kukho umntu ombi onokubenzakalisa, kukuba zininzi izitrato eziya esikolweni, kwaye andazi ukuba izakubonakala intle ”. Akukho sisombululo silingana nesayizi enye, kodwa kuyafuneka ukuphinda ukhuseleko kunye nemiyalezo yokuzikhusela ebantwaneni, ukuze baphele bekholelwa kubo kwaye beyenza. Esi sesinye seziqinisekiso zethu ezilungileyo, esinokongeza kuzo uluntu oluzinikele ebuntwaneni, oluthi kwiimeko ezinzima lukwazi ukukhusela.

Inkululeko okanye ukubekwa esweni?

Ndiyakholelwa ekubeni abantwana bayakwazi ukuzilawula, nangona oku kufuneka befumene iingcebiso okanye izikhombisi kubazali babo, masicinge ukuba xa behamba beqela, Khathalelana, kwaye ugcine ungquzulwano lusekho. Ungakholelwa ngoku ukuba ndingumama ombi, kubonakala nje kungekho ndawo ukuba ubukele yonke imizuzu yobomi babo, ukuze bangakhubeki, baphephe ukuba yinto yokugxekwa, okanye ukuze bangazenzi iimpazamo.

Kungenxa yokuba ngale ndlela bengazukukhula, kwaye bengayi koyisa ukusikelwa umda, kwaye banokuziva bekhathazekile

Kwiminyaka nganye yeyakhe: umntwana oneminyaka emi-4 akakwazi ukuya esikolweni yedwa, kodwa awuyi kumyeka ahambe nge-7 ukuba uhamba nabahlobo kwaye iziko likwiibhloko ezimbini nemizuzu emihlanu kude? Kwaye ukuba akwenzi njalo, ziziphi izizathu onazo? Awuyi kuba mbi okanye ungcono kunabanye abazali, nokuba umkhokela ngesandla okanye umvumela inkululeko encinci. Ngale post-kwaye sendisele ndiyithethile-ndifuna nje ukuba sicinge kancinci.

Ukuphikisa olu luhlu lwaSimahla lwaBantwana "hamba" UKristen Howerton, usixelela 'kutheni engakwazi ukumlandela'. Awubathembi ukuba bazilawule ngokwabo ukusebenzisa kwabo iteknoloji, ucinga ukuba bafuna ukujongwa ekuhlaleni, awufuni ukuba abantwana bakho bangene emakhayeni abanye abantu, ufuna ukuba abantwana bakho bakwazi ukuzibamba, kwaye kufuneka hlonipha abanye.

Ngaphandle kokufuna ukuphikisa isikhundla sakhe, kunye nokugqiba:

  1. Kucacile ukuba ngezixhobo kufuneka kubekho ulawulo esemncinci, kodwa kunxibelelwano oluninzi nabantwana. Ukuba uyakwenza oku, banokufumana ibhalansi ngokwabo.
  2. Ukulawulwa koluntu? Ndicinga ukuba ukubashiya bakhululekile kukwathetha ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo "inokulawulwa" ngabanye abantu. Kodwa kukuba abantwana abakhululekileyo abafani nabantwana abajongele phantsi imeko yendawo abahlala kuyo.
  3. Amantombazana namakhwenkwe baya kwazi besebancinci ukuba zeziphi izindlu abanokungena kuzo kwaye zeziphi abangenako; Abantu abadala abakwezo zindlu baya kwazi ukuba ugunyazisa abantwana bakho, kwaye kuya kubakho ukuthembana kunye nembuyekezo. Kodwa ezi zinto ziqala ukuxoxwa ngaphambi kweminyaka emihlanu, ngokuthe ngcembe zilungelelanisa ulwimi kwaye zibandakanya iingcebiso.
  4. Ukuziqeqesha? Ewe, kukho amaxesha amaninzi kubomi bosapho apho sinokubanceda babuphuhlise; masicinge kwelinye icala ukuba ezinye abantwana kwinkululeko baqokelela iinkuni zokwenza indlu, bakwalungiswa, kungenjalo ngekhe bagqibe ukwakha.
  5. Intlonipho ifundiswa ekhaya, kodwa ukuba ayiphumeli ngaphandle ayinakuyenza.

Kwaye ngoku, ewe, ndizakugqiba ngale tweet nguLeonore Skenazy ebanga enye yemiba enxulumene nenkululeko yabantwana, ngokudlala ngokukhululekileyo, nokonwabela ukuzonwabisa: "ilungelo lokuba nesithukuthezi"

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  1.   U-Lenore Skenazy sitsho

    Enkosi ngeli nqaku libalaseleyo! -ULenore ngokwakhe! (Ndiyifunde ndisebenzisa i-Google translate. WIsh bendithetha iSpanish!)

    1.    Macarena sitsho

      ULeonore uyonwabile kum ukuba ndiphawule ngale posi, enkosi ngokuncoma kwakho.